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Original poster

to think the 'Pregnancy' board is becoming ridiculous

187 replies

ShowYourSeams · 13/01/2016 00:50

I got a lot of great advice on there when I was pregnant and have continued to contribute as I feel I can give some advice having carried 3 children.

But at the moment it seems like the huns have all moved in to ask if they're pregnant (despite numerous negative tests) because they have slightly sensitive nipples.

AIBU to think some common sense needs to come into play? And if they must post it should be on the 'conception' board?

OP posts:
Doublebubblebubble · 13/01/2016 13:04

Yadnbu!!!

JessieMcJessie · 13/01/2016 13:06

Posting on MN isn't like getting married- there's no rule that says you have to be committed!

And not all the OPs are rude in response. I am fairly sure that a full review of all such threads would reveal that doesn't happen as often as you perceive. Seriously, they are very easy to ignore.

TheSecondViola · 13/01/2016 13:06

Its the deluge of stupid that I object to. Some of the posts are just epically dimwitted, and I prefer not to know just how little some people know*

*I realise hanging out on the internet is not the place to avoid the hard of thinking.

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ShowYourSeams · 13/01/2016 13:07

Just because some people know that the only way to definitively know if you're pregnant is to do a test doesn't mean everyone does. I don't think I would have known that when I was young.

No, there's another way, you wait 9 months and see if you give birth.

I'd also be highly concerned about someone who doesn't know what a pregnancy test is, bringing a child into the world.

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JessieMcJessie · 13/01/2016 13:07

Wholeheartedly agree Milk.

YesYABU · 13/01/2016 13:07

Ought to change my name for this one as YNBU!

Part of the problem I think is that it is easier to find the pregnancy board than it is to find the conception one (especially if you don't understand the difference between the two Wink)

I'm all for a "Am I pregnant board?", although I do often PMSL at some of the responses which pop up on the pregnancy board

NerrSnerr · 13/01/2016 13:10

Op- I didn't say I didn't know what a pregnancy test was. I meant that I didn't know if there were any signs to know if you definitely were or weren't pregnant. I didn't have a clue because I had no reason to.

MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 13/01/2016 13:12

Just a thought though - if MN do give you an "Am I Pregnant?" board, how much more pissed off are you likely to be if people don't trawl through the hundreds of topics to find it and post on the first one they come across which they think fits best (probably Pregnancy)?

Grin
bettyberry · 13/01/2016 13:15

We'll have to make sure its at the top of the bleeding list! Grin It would also be a prime spot to include links to family planning etc like the domestic violence advice on the relationships boards.

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 13/01/2016 13:15

Tthis thread certainly reveals a lot about the empathy of some people who post here.

Yes it can be annoying to see 'am I pregnant' but to actively discourage some, and go out of your way to be snotty, from posting on 'your' topic says a lot.

TheSecondViola · 13/01/2016 13:16

Just because some people know that the only way to definitively know if you're pregnant is to do a test doesn't mean everyone does. I don't think I would have known that when I was young

Thats a depressing thought. I would hope that in the absence of knowing that you would at least know that asking a bunch of strangers who have never met you or know nothing about you is NOT a way to know if you are pregnant or not?

KwickNC · 13/01/2016 13:19

Darth I've seen you on pregnancy numerous times telling people to post elsewhere seriously why do you think it's your job yes it might be annoying but ignore it don't reply and they disappear if people keep saying post this elsewhere you're keeping the thread active

goodnightdarthvader1 · 13/01/2016 13:20

I give plenty of support on the Pregnancy forum, milk, but the thing about asking for advice on a forum is that you can't pick and choose the sort of people who reply to you. I'm more of the "tell it like (I feel) it is" personality, which many people are not, and that's cool, we're all different.

We can weigh in with opinions on a range of topics in Chat, AIBU, etc., why should this board be different? Posters are more than happy to tell me when I'm being "rude", or "ridiculous", or "stupid", yet I'm not allowed to imply that, yes, possibly-pregnant-person, I think you are being daft, go do a test and / or discuss this elsewhere?

MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 13/01/2016 13:20

TheSecondViola - is asking a bunch of strangers if you're pregnant based on various "symptoms" that much different to asking a bunch of strangers if your DP is abusive based on various incidents?

I don't think it is.

hownottofuckup · 13/01/2016 13:23

You are being hyper sensitive.

Just don't read the threads you object to or don't want to contribute to.

It's a pretty easy solution when you think about it.

MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 13/01/2016 13:23
Grin

So others can't pick and choose who replies but you can pick and choose where they post?

Grin

😂

TheSecondViola · 13/01/2016 13:23

It's a bit different yes.
Your DH punched you= unequivocally abusive
You feel a bit sick and (insert something about mucus here"=who the fuck knows, could be anything.

Although asking a bunch of strangers if your DH is abusive isn't much use either.

NerrSnerr · 13/01/2016 13:24

I don't think I articulated myself very well about the pregnancy test thing. Yes, I assume that most people know about them and of course I did, but I didn't know if a cluster of symptoms or signs would have made it obvious I was pregnant or not. I'm sure I would have done my research/ done a test/ seen a gp but part of my research may have been asking for advice from people who have experienced pregnancy.

goodnightdarthvader1 · 13/01/2016 13:25

Darth I've seen you on pregnancy numerous times telling people to post elsewhere seriously why do you think it's your job yes it might be annoying but ignore it don't reply and they disappear if people keep saying post this elsewhere you're keeping the thread active

And BREATHE.

goodnightdarthvader1 · 13/01/2016 13:27

So others can't pick and choose who replies but you can pick and choose where they post?

Erm, not the same thing. Different words used, see? "who replies" ... "where they post". Different.

KwickNC · 13/01/2016 13:29

Oh how boring that that's you're only response to what I said Hmm

Why do you think you're the boss of the pregnancy board though? I'm surprised you haven't asked MNHQ if you can be a moderator.

hownottofuckup · 13/01/2016 13:29

Oh I knew the only way to tell if I was definitively pregnant was to do a test, so I delayed doing one and stressed about the symptoms because I really didn't want to have to face it.
Other people delay it because they desperately do want to be pregnant and don't want to face up to the fact it's negative before they have to.
People are strange creatures.
I wouldn't post on conception as I imagine that it's for people who are trying/struggling to conceive, which has never been my problem.

MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 13/01/2016 13:30

TheSecondViola -

A punch to the face is as obvious as a second line on a pregnancy test.

Feeling a bit sick is probably the equivalent of the partner dealing with all the finances.

MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 13/01/2016 13:34

Oh dear Darth. I'm not sure if you trying to be funny or not but you really are actually quite funny!

How about changing the word "replies" to "posts" then.

... you can't pick and choose who posts on your thread...

different word, same meaning in this context.

😂

TheSecondViola · 13/01/2016 13:39

Feeling a bit sick is probably the equivalent of the partner dealing with all the finances

Well, yes, but that proves my point rather than yours. Neither of these tell you anything at all about the situation and neither can give you an answer of any use.
I deal with all the finances, I am not abusive to my DP.
I also feel a bit sick right now, but I am not pregnant.
I could be either though. And you couldn't possibly give any useful comment.