to think the 'Pregnancy' board is becoming ridiculous

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I got a lot of great advice on there when I was pregnant and have continued to contribute as I feel I can give some advice having carried 3 children.

But at the moment it seems like the huns have all moved in to ask if they're pregnant (despite numerous negative tests) because they have slightly sensitive nipples.

AIBU to think some common sense needs to come into play? And if they must post it should be on the 'conception' board?

Having recently been pregnant and subsequently recently miscarried I would really like it if there was a policy of moving conception/ pregnant type threads to the appropriate boards but I understand why that doesn't happen. I can choose to hide theses boards for the time being whilst things are a bit raw but MN would become pointless if I had to hide chat too. It just means I've not been using it as much the last few days instead.

Perhaps a note when starting a thread in pregnancy redirecting people to conception or a testing thread. It wouldn't work though people would just ignore it like they do the zombie notice.

Yes, anyone can post anywhere.

But, if you are going to post in a topic, then it does make sense to use the appropriate one. Like if you want to talk about yoga, you use the yoga topic not the cycling one.

If you are TTC or trying to establish if you have conceived, use 'conception'

If you want to ask about a pregnancy, use pregnancy.

If you want to chat about being pregnant, use antenatal clubs.

If you want to talk about car seats, pushchairs, nappies etc, use their product topics or parenting.

There really has been an outbreak of posts not about pregnancy in 'pregnancy' in the last couple of weeks.

And I find it really odd, as there are shortcuts to both conception and antenatal clubs at the bottom of the Active Convos page, so it's not even as if it's the easier topic to find.

"How is anyone just dipping in or new here to know there's a separate conception topic?"

Because there's a shortcut link on the bottom of every page as one of the "Popular Talk Forums". So it's obvious there is a conception topic from both that and from Active, where there are always threads in conception.

Pregnancy is the one you actually have to hunt for. So a newbie is much more likely to find the obvious, signposted one.

This is not regulated service remember, it's a chat forum. Passers through who know nothing about the site and its apparent many unspoken rules are every bit as welcome as you are. And they can post where they like, no matter what you think about it.

I mean you can moan about it if you want, but no one is going to listen or change the way they post on the strength of it, so it's best you just get over it really.

Considering how many different topics there are I don't think it's that surprising that people post on the 'wrong' ones.

AuntieStella - I've been on this site since 2004 and I didn't know there were shortcuts to those topics.

Besides, if people post positive pregnancy tests in the Conception topic, how long 'til we get threads like this complaining that now they are actually pregnant they should be on the Pregnancy boards and they're being insensitive towards people struggling to conceive?

Nowt wrong with asking for people to use a bit of commonsense though. And thought/consideration.

Realise that's unachievable, but there's no reason to assume that everyone is self-centred (along the lines of "I'll post anywhere and don't anyone dare suggest it could be done better") and I've seen that this thread is in AIBU so perhaps some people will see it and think.

(AIBU, presumably, as it's a sounding off; not Site Issues with intent to get MNHQ to do something).

If you think that's irritating you clearly haven't read the pre natal groups....

I find most of the child rearing stuff on this site annoying. It's all Co sleeping and feeding carrot sticks instead of mush and marking phases of babyhood by naming them growth spurts or regression or something. I try to avoid it unless I'm in the mood for a fight.

I'm on the mobile site - no shortcuts. Not everyone uses the desktop site.

"AuntieStella - I've been on this site since 2004 and I didn't know there were shortcuts to those topics."

Scroll to the bottom of the page (desktop) there are three lists of shortcuts. Just 8 topics (left hand list). They've been there for years - used to be much longer, but that was deemed confusing and they were pruned to the most used/useful a few years ago.

I didn't know there were shortcuts either and I've been posting for six years.

Yanbu... I will never understand the ones where people have tested way before their period is due and are suprised at a negative teSt. ..just wait till you're due and test then.

It's simple. If you see a thread you think is in the wrong topic and it's bothering you, hide it. That's all you have in your power to do about it.

I don't mind the sticks so much as the scan photos with 'nub theory' and 'skull theory' type questions...

leave the poor mite alone
why would you want a bunch of strangers to see your scan pictures? It's really undignified. Particularly as no one can tell you what you're having from the angle of their [ahem]

It's since the photos were allowed. Not much we can do about it I guess.

I'm a bit confused now- are some posters saying those posters are on the wrong board and it's insensitive to post them there? To whom?

Walking - I think it doesn't matter what you post where, someone will accuse you of being thoughtless, insensitive, uncaring and/or stupid.

Completely agree but I don't understand this at all. Who could you offend on the pregnancyboard by saying you might be pregnant? Going onto infertility and doing it, totally. Get that.

Threads asking people to use the topics, and use them considerately, turn up from time to time.

I've suggested before that there should be a "sticks and scans" topic so I can hide the whole damned lot so that pissed on items and images of uterine contents can all be gathered together for those who like interpreting them.

But more topics would probably make things worse.

I think people are starting to treat the place like FB. Like a look at me this morning status post.

''Hey everyone i might be pregnant!''

FB - oooooh, how exciting hun!

MN - do a bloody test then

Soup - ''Perhaps we need a "Look at my pissy stick" topic.'' Yes, with the stipulation that there must actually BE a pissy stick involved though

I don't do FB, do people really post such shite?

There's 282, that's 282 topics!

Although I may have miscounted slightly.

How is anyone meant to get it right unless they've been here for years?

Is it not more that people treat it like a chat forum because that's what it is?

You cannot have symptoms 2 days after having sex. It's medically impossible.

Oh yes you can! I've been pregnant 6 times (including mc's) and I've known every time apart from my first baby between 2-4 dpo and been right every time!

OP, go to Site Stuff and suggest Am I pregnant? as an additional topic.

You can then say you've tried to address the situation if it continues to piss you off.

There are no unwritten rules SunnyL...there are just a load of arsey posters who want to be Queen of MN.

I have been posting since 2004 as well, and have spent years trying to convince friends who use other parenting forums that MN is not the unwieldy beast you think it is. But it does take some getting used to with the eleventy billion topics and a constantly rolling active.

Added to which I reckon 75% either post in AIBU or Chat for "traffic".

The "huns" comment is clearly a dig at a certain type of poster. You know, nice, friendly ones who want to give someone who perhaps desperately wants to be pregnant, maybe because she's had 7 miscarriages or whatever a bit of support and a handhold.

But heaven forbid, this is MN, which quite frankly, over the last couple of years could do with many of its posters having their ego smashed a bit and a heavy dose of nice pills.

Walking - they'll be someone on the pregnancy board worried that she's miscarrying, so "Ooh look I'm pregnant" could be upsetting.

Likewise if they go on to Conception they'll be someone struggling to conceive so "Ooh look I'm pregnant" could be upsetting.

They could try _Chat, cause they want to chat about it (which is actually fairly logical), but then there might be people who are so über cool and grown up with no time or parltience for such silliness who could find it upsetting. 'Cause no-ones allowed to get excited about being pregnant, or possibly being pregnant ever.