I have a mum friend at school, we've got pretty close over the last year, we meet for coffee, meet up for playdates alot and we take our children to the same swimming lessons etc.
She has made comments about my childrens weight saying things like "they're so skinny", referring to them as "skin and bones", and asking "do they eat?" amongst other hurtful things in front of them. They are 8 and 6, of average height and are both 3 stone. They look similar to most of their friends but I admit, they are skinny. They have been weighed several times as part of check ups and the national screening programme at school and I always told they are within the normal range for their height. But i'm guessing, probably the lower end of normal. They seem to have taken after their dad who is a slow gainer, they eat a lot but are active. I do try to give them high calorie but healthy food, If I didn't, they probably would be underweight.
Anyway this lady isn't English, so I understand there is a language barrier and she probably doesn't know how rude it sounds and the first time I shrugged it off.
But she has said these things 3 times now and its starting to get to me.
Her children are the same ages and are extremely overweight. They cant run, they're clothes are huge and are twice the size and weight of mine but the same ages. They eat constantly and very unhealthy food. I never judged her or her kids but after her repeatedly saying these things to me I thought I would add that. I would never dream of saying to her, "your kids are really overweight, you really should do something about this" to her once, let alone repeatedly.
I don't know what to say to her. I don't want to fall out with her. She is lovely is every other way.
What would you do?