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to ask my neighbours if I can use their shower?

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ClaraSilver · 05/01/2016 19:08

Having our bathroom done soon (at last - woop). Ours will be out of action for at least a week, so is it ok to ask my neighbours to use theirs or is that just weird? Neighbours are good friends, known each other for a while, we help each other out in lots of ways but not sure if they will feel comfortable with me getting naked in their horse.

I think I'd be ok if it was the other way round and they needed to use ours but worried it's a bit cheeky. Just don't fancy having to go all the way to MILs.

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Maryz · 06/01/2016 00:35

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Monty27 · 06/01/2016 00:36

When my neighbors were having their bathroom done they didn't even have to ask, I gave them a key!

However, I wouldn't ask, I'd mention your dilemma and hope for an offer.

Good luck Smile

spaceyboo · 06/01/2016 00:39

well until you've cleaned a stranger's skidmarks you really haven't lived right Hmm; so you might as well invite all your neighbours round. I won't do the same for mine.

Maryz · 06/01/2016 00:40

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MidniteScribbler · 06/01/2016 00:50

I wouldn't mind them using a shower every day or so, but I'd get a bit frustrated if they kept coming in and out just to use the toilet, especially at night. Use a bucket for peeing.

Monty27 · 06/01/2016 00:55

Tsk spacey. I have many comments I could make to your post but saving my breath.

Chottie · 06/01/2016 04:51

If you were my neighbour, I wouldn't have a problem.

However, if I was using my neighbour's shower, I would bring my own towels, shower products and also give them a gift at the end of the end to recognise all the hot water I had used.

DeepBlueLake · 06/01/2016 05:19

If it was at night I would be fine with it but I am not sure if I could cope in the morning as it is a rush already (get the kids ready etc) without having to let the neighbours in, both dh and I also use the showers in the morning.

I think I would drop some subtle hints and if they do offer / say yes, make them quick showers.

wickedlazy · 06/01/2016 05:27

I would let any of my neighbours use my bath, but would prefer if they gave me some notice so I could tidy first and have one of the nicer towels ready.

wickedlazy · 06/01/2016 05:35

*Notice as in asking me that morning could they use it that evening, or that evening for next morning. Doesn't have to be days in advance or anything.

Elefant1 · 06/01/2016 06:58

My friend and neighbour did this last year when her bathroom was being redone, she starts work later than me so she came over as I was going off to work. At some point, when I have the money, I will need to get my bathroom sorted and she will return the favour!

Pointlessfan · 06/01/2016 07:01

I wouldn't have a problem with that but I'd expect you to fit in with us with timings.

Blondeshavemorefun · 06/01/2016 09:41

The thought of washing hair in a sink with a bucket when can use a neighbors shower seems insane

Really not sure why so many think it's weird

If you can poo in their loo sure they can pee in your shower Wink

Anotherusername1 · 06/01/2016 11:04

When I had my bathroom changed I was a member of a gym so I showered there.

It would be easy to use the showers at our leisure centre as there are no barriers so you can walk right into the changing rooms. But otherwise, as people have said, you could pay for a swim. That said the showers at our leisure centre are not very warm!

I would not ask my neighbours but I would ask a friend. If your neighbour is a friend, why not ask? I don't think it's weird if you know them. I don't know mine well enough to ask.

iwanttobeanonymous · 06/01/2016 19:40

Ours doesn't have a lock and theres a boy here who would be asking "questions".......
"clara...you haven't got a willy have you....what have you got.....can I have one .....why haven't you got a willy...can I habe a look...."

But yeh. Feel free. Have to be a bath though shower broken

FeliciaJollygoodfellow · 06/01/2016 19:43

The neighbours that we are friendly with I would have no problem with them asking.

The ones I don't like, not so much!

roundtable · 06/01/2016 19:50

Definitely ask. My next door neighbours washing machine broke recently and both sets of neighbours, one being me, were happy to let her use ours. Same with car seats, ladders etc.

Hope it goes well.

KidLorneRoll · 06/01/2016 19:56

If you know them well enough, no harm at all, and likewise I would be happy to let people I know use my shower because, y'know, it's a nice thing to do.

BackforGood · 06/01/2016 20:04

You say your neighbours are also friends, so of course I'd ask.
I might try and avoid "rush hour" in the bathroom - so if they've already got 4 or 5 people trying to shower and get out in the morning before 8 - but as long as it wasn't when they were all fighting for it, I can't see why any normal person would have a problem with it.
I would, of course take my own towels and shampoo and stuff, and fish any hair out the plughole - goes without saying.

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ClaraSilver · 08/01/2016 21:04

Iwanttobe - ha, been through all that with my DD when she was younger "why have you got a hairy bottom mummy?"

Been busy and hadn't got round to asking yet but DH bumped into neighbour earlier and told them we were getting the bathroom done. Neighbour immediately fetches their spare keys and tells him we are welcome to let ourselves in at any time while they are at work :)

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ClaraSilver · 08/01/2016 21:05

Will scrupulously fish hairs out of plughole Grin

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londonrach · 08/01/2016 21:05

Clara...you have lovely neighbours.

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