to ask my neighbours if I can use their shower?

[ClaraSilver]

Having our bathroom done soon (at last - woop). Ours will be out of action for at least a week, so is it ok to ask my neighbours to use theirs or is that just weird? Neighbours are good friends, known each other for a while, we help each other out in lots of ways but not sure if they will feel comfortable with me getting naked in their horse.

I think I'd be ok if it was the other way round and they needed to use ours but worried it's a bit cheeky. Just don't fancy having to go all the way to MILs.

That would be fine with me.

You say you're not sure they'd be comfortable with this, so don't ask. It'll be awkward for them to say no so they may feel forced into saying yes.

I don't see why so many people think this is weird, if they're good friends then why not? As long as you'd do the same for them, you don't take forever in the shower or need to be in there at stupid times then I don't think YABU at all. I wouldn't do the casually mentioning thing so they feel obliged to offer either, I'd ask but make sure they know you have other options (leisure centre etc) and that you won't be at all offended if they decline. Much better than the hinting thing.

I can't begin to understand why people find this weird in any way. Of course it would be absolutely fine, even if you hardly know each other.

All you people who are uncomfortable with the idea of someone being naked in your house, behind a closed door: you do realise that we are all naked under our clothes, don't you??

I think since you are good friends then it's fine to ask. Friends do favours for each other. It would be different if you were neighbours who didn't really know each other.

If you're friendly I don't see the problem. Yes, to a daily shower, but I wouldn't be nipping in and out for a pee (which doesn't seem to be what was suggested anyway).

"Our bathroom was completely refurbished a couple of years ago and we had no bath or shower for well over a week.
We strip washed at kitchen sink and washed hair over sink with cheap hose attachment."

Same here, only we managed (with a shoulder length hair) with a jug as we don't have a hose attachment. It's only what my parents and aunts and uncles had to do all the time while growing up.

I'm not saying there's anything wrong with asking per se, but it's just not something I would do myself.

I meant "with shoulder length hair (plural)". I do have more than one.

Wouldn't bother me.

My neighbour once knocked on my door at 11pm in pouring rain having left her keys 2 1/2 hour train ride away. She ended up staying in our spare room, wearing my nightdress AND using our shower. Even gave her breakfast the next morning. We've been good friends every since .

Only condition I'd put on it is that you didn't use it between 7 and 8am and 7 and 8pm as we are busy racing in and out of the bathroom and getting children sorted out

I would absolutely let you. I have let neighbours use my bathroom before when their water was out of use.

I don't see anything "weird" about it either. A visitor would only just be using a bit of your hot water, thanking you, and leaving again.

Ha, Mirrivan - I'm such a guesser

I'd hate to be asked and would never ask. I'd Just buy a cheap bath shower (the kind you fit into a tap), or use a bucket.

YANBU to ask, we're having ours done next week and my neighbours have already said yes!

Right. This is the sort of thing that shows the weirdness of Mumsnet- and highlights that a lot of people are on here because they find ordinary day to day human interactions difficult.

Of course it's fine to ask, and it would be seriously weird to have the slightest issue with saying yes.

Don't forget the ones who would have to do the washing all over again if their neighbour took it in for them if they were out and it started raining...........

I don't think it's weird not to ask if there's a self-sufficient work around. Why inconvenience others?

And I say this as the only london commuter in my close. My showers would need to occur after 10pm or before 5. It's bloody inconvenient for my neighbours.

Oh, firs. How is it even remotely inconvenient for someone to use your shower at a time when you aren't using it yourself???????

Clearly you've never had someone walk out leaving the bathroom a tip & you can't say anything otherwise you'd cause WW3? I lived in a large extended Indian family where neighbours/extended family would pop round all the time & I'd be the one needing to mop up the piss drops from the floor/seat or clean up the hair from the plughole. Even worse after someone shaves their legs.

Would never want to do that in my house.