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to ask my neighbours if I can use their shower?

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ClaraSilver · 05/01/2016 19:08

Having our bathroom done soon (at last - woop). Ours will be out of action for at least a week, so is it ok to ask my neighbours to use theirs or is that just weird? Neighbours are good friends, known each other for a while, we help each other out in lots of ways but not sure if they will feel comfortable with me getting naked in their horse.

I think I'd be ok if it was the other way round and they needed to use ours but worried it's a bit cheeky. Just don't fancy having to go all the way to MILs.

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motherinferior · 05/01/2016 20:12

I'd have no problem with it, if you're friends.

PouncerDarling · 05/01/2016 20:12

This one could go either way. I definitely wouldn't want a sad neighbour with a broken shower, but don't think I'd be brave enough to ask myself.

I suppose it's better than asking if you can come round for a poo...

Hmm.

Original poster
ClaraSilver · 05/01/2016 20:13

Nope, not everyday at all - just once or possibly twice depending on how quickly builder get it usable.

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PouncerDarling · 05/01/2016 20:13

Obviously, there's nothing wrong with a poo if you are already in the house. But a specific future poo, that would be too far.

TenTinyTadpoles · 05/01/2016 20:14

No, it's one thing if they offer but to ask is too much.

Viviennemary · 05/01/2016 20:14

No don't ask. Go to a local swimming pool. They'll probably agree if they're nice but not many people would like this. I wouldn't really.

PouncerDarling · 05/01/2016 20:15

Could you drop it in conversation? Let them make the move.

iMatter · 05/01/2016 20:18

Make sure you leave it immaculate each time you use it.

We had friends who were in a similar situation once and I regretted it from day 1. The mess! The water was all over the floor, they left wet towels everywhere and skid marks in the loo.

And I have never seen so many pubic hairs in my life. They were everywhere.

GreenishMe · 05/01/2016 20:23

Just seems to me that with true friends you know it's going to be ok, without having to worry about whether or not you should ask?

You don't refer to her as your friend, but a neighbour that you're friendly with - big difference.

If she wants to, she'll offer. If she doesn't, I'd take the hint.

Wombatinabathhat · 05/01/2016 20:23

I was going to say it wouldn't be a problem for me, but now you've mentioned the poo Shock
If you live next door - why didn't you wait and use your own toilet? Confused

Blondeshavemorefun · 05/01/2016 20:31

dont see the problem if you are friends, which you must be if do poo's in her home Grin

i used across the roads shower when my bathroom was being done 2 years ago and returned the favour when they needed some help, ie washing machine as theirs broke and flooded kitchen

would have no problem if they wanted to use my bathroom, - thinking about it infact they did use the loo when their was being replaced and would be happy if they showered at mine

thats what friends/neighbours do

xmasseason · 05/01/2016 20:32

I think it's fine to ask. Good neighbours and friends help each other out and you may be doing favours for her in return one day. What goes around, comes around.

Janeymoo50 · 05/01/2016 20:36

I'd hate that from both sides of the fence (pun intended). I'd make do for a week.

AppleSetsSail · 05/01/2016 20:39

Risky. I would be happy to oblige if I actually liked them, mortified if I didn't.

mommy2ash · 05/01/2016 20:42

It depends friends I wouldn't mind friendly neighbour is another thing. I'm friendly with my neighbours I wouldn't want them using my house though

AppleSetsSail · 05/01/2016 20:43

Are you friends that met as neighbours, or merely neighbours?

AntiHop · 05/01/2016 20:44

My neighbour used my shower when their boiler broke down. I had no problem with it.

PlaymobilPirate · 05/01/2016 20:53

If we were friends I'd say yes, and have absolutely no problem with it!

I'd like you to ask before hand so I could make sure it was spotless rather than turn up with your towel and loofah though ;)

Dipankrispaneven · 05/01/2016 20:53

I can't see what people think would be weird about this if you're good friends, and you seem to be planning to do it only a couple of times. Can you also use any washing facilities at work?

Chattymummyhere · 05/01/2016 20:56

Nope I wouldn't like it, I would let you come in and wash your kids though.

When our bathroom was out of action my next door offered her bath for the kids but we just took them to the in laws. Not sure why I say no but just seems strange for an adult who's not staying over to use my bath or shower.

Adarajames · 05/01/2016 20:59

Id happily let friend use shower / bath; I used to live in a field, and alth trained daily so could shower at gym, wasn't same as a soak in bath so we used to visit various friends for bath nights sometimes, made me much better tempered!

Hell if you're SE London, you're welcome to come use mine Smile

Original poster
ClaraSilver · 05/01/2016 21:03

Work from home Wink

Definitely good friends as well as neighbours. Will leave it spotless and take wine Grin

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ClaraSilver · 05/01/2016 21:06

Thanks Adara - just a bit too far but kind offer :)

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BrianButterfield · 05/01/2016 21:08

My neighbours would let me and I would let them - we don't hang out together but we are on friendly terms and do each other lots of favours.

SoapandGloryisDivine · 05/01/2016 21:09

I'm struggling to see why this is so weird Confused.

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