To be scared witless!

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Have been with OH for 4 years, house, secure job, all very lovely so thinking of first baby. Came on MN last night to look at some discussions about 'advice for new mothers/if only I knew what I know now' and am now freaking slightly

OH is in the military so only home at weekends, mother is 3 hours away but do have a good MIL and 2 sister in laws both pregnant (plus 2 other sister in laws with children under 5)

Is it really as lonely and horrid as MN says- had sleepless night after reading comments but know that joy of newborn/your own child has to be worth it RIGHT??

'Doesnt help that OH has emotional range of an orange- and thinks ppl with depression 'should cheer up'.

Women have been having children with men like this since time immemorial, but if you choose to be one of them, don't do it without knowing you have a support network of your own. He's going to be useless.
You can get through it if you have (or acquire) supportive friends or family.
But you may resent him for ever.