To ask if anyone else has a partner who does most of the cooking?

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I've been catching up on post Xmas MN threads. I've not seen one yet where the DP/DH cooked the Xmas meal.

Likewise catering for guests and everyday cooking being the role of the woman appears to be the norm on MN.

Anyone else have a capable and enthusiast cook as a partner?

My DH does all the cooking, he's cooked the Xmas meal for the past 2 years for our family and my parents and siblings. It started when he developed dietary needs that were quite complex, the types of foods he had to avoid would change which meant he felt bad when I'd tried to cook something that he had to leave. At this point I couldn't cook well and he was actually teaching me.

It's just sort of developed into DH taking responsibility for the cooking and the food shopping, I tend to do the cleaning and the laundry then we muddle through the rest together. It works well for us.

I agree with your comments re. the wife being expected to do the Xmas dinner, my friends don't believe that my DH does it all.

Yes DH does the cooking here. He always cooks Christmas dinner.

I have a handful of staple meals I can cook for when I need to feed the dc and he's in work, but I have no real skill or enthusiasm for cooking whereas Dh loves it.

He's also the cleanest cook I've ever seen. He washes up everything as he goes, pots, pans, trays, whatever, plus manages to wipe surfaces and hob in record times. When he's done and has 4 plates of food ready, the kitchen is already spotless without so much as a dirty spoon left. I don't know how he does it but it's amazing because when I wash up it's literally only 4 plates and sets of cutlery. When I make a meal I pile up anything I've used next to the sink and have a mountain to wash afterwards.

My husband does most of the cooking in our house. His speciality is Chinese! I do most of the cleaning, tidying, bed making, laundry etc. I also batch cook quite a bit for the kids and I am the pastry specialist! My husband cooked a lovely ham for Christmas dinner (we had turkey two days later with my parents - my husband is a great cook but nothing beats my mum's turkey).

I'm relieved to hear I'm not the only one on MN with a husband capable of meal-planning, food shopping and cooking

It's fine to do most of it if that's your strength and you enjoy it but I feel dismay at all the posters who claim that their DP can't or won't cook. And others seem to think that it is their responsibility because they are women.

DH cooked Christmas dinner and does more cooking. I'm his sous chef and do chopping etc ready for him to cook. I also tend to put the slow cooker on on my non work days.

Dp and I share the cooking.
I did the vast majority of the cooking when I was with ex h.
He only seemed to know where the kettle was when we had visitors.

Yep dp does most if the cooking, although during term time I do a bit more as he works late. I can tell he always feels relieved to get back in the kitchen at weekends. I'm not a terrible cook but my meals are very samey while he is more experimental.
However I seem to make all the cups of tea, and generally the shopping too.

Mine cooked the Christmas meal as I was busy with baby. I cooked Christmas eve.

Usually I cook weekdays and he cooks weekends or days he's of work.

We share it but he probably does 60%.

Exdp and me always shared cooking 50/50. Some weeks he would cook more and other weeks I would but overall it was 50/50. We would have been bickering over who got to cook xmas dinner if we were still together.

DH has taken over here too and did Xmas last year, I did this year with my Mum. It was His choice a couple of years ago to take the helm as he decided to change his diet and to learn how to cook. I still do it occasionally or when he is away but he is far better at it than me as I have an unhealthy relationship with food and little interest in cooking past the need to eat.
In my defence I prepared nearly all the meals for the first 18 years.

Dh does the vast vast majority of cooking and made Christmas dinner. I get to do the clearing up instead

DH does all the meal planning, shopping and cooking and cooked a fantastic Christmas lunch!

We meal plan together and he does the main food shop at the weekends too

Nope I do 90% of the cooking, i love it and he doesn't. He does other chores that i hate doing so it all evens out.

Well, I am the cook in our house - DH will sort out dinner if I'm not feeling up to it or can't be arsed to make anything, but if it's a cooked dinner then 9 times out of ten I will be doing it, but I really enjoy cooking so don't mind. It's nice being able to always eat the things you like as well!

Then again, I know at least three couples where it is the man that cooks, or they cook for each other on a regular basis. The other couples I honestly have no idea.

These days (although a pretty recent thing) I wouldn't really consider there to be very strong "stereotypes" on men who cook at home being "helpful" or "good" or unusual in some way, and women who are terrible cooks still being the presumed cook due to their ovaries.

It's very interesting that most PPs have said that their husbands cook because they enjoy it or are good at it. I wonder how many households would still have the men cooking if this wasn't the case? I know plenty of couples where both dislike the task and it always seems to be the women that pick it up.

Not a criticism, just an observation. For what it's worth, I don't do any cooking in my house...DH is not exactly Marco Pierre White though.

Mine does it all. He did Christmas Day lunch. I didn't even peel a sprout.

My dad did Boxing Day lunch.

I have said before on threads, I have also seen others say it too. So it does happen

My dh does all the cooking. He's good at it, enjoys it and likes experimenting with new foods. He subscribes to good food magazine, when a new issue arrives I'll leaf through it and then put my meal requests to him. Spoilt I know

I can just about manage to boil an egg

I admit I do all the cooking here. I enjoy it though.

Growing up, my dad did all the cooking in our house, not mum. Including Xmas dinner etc. He loved cooking.

Also my cousin (male) does most of the cooking between him and his fiancée.

But generally I know more households where the female does it, yes.

Nope I do 90% of the cooking, i love it and he doesn't. He does other chores that i hate doing so it all evens out.

this is exactly what we do. No point doing chores you don't like if the other one does like it.

I do most of the clothes washing as I don't mind that and he hates it.

My partner learned to cook when we met and he realised pronto that I wouldn't put up with a non-cook. We share it these days and he does the roast chicken stuff so did Christmas lunch. So he does fall into the 'cooking when not feeling like it' bracket.

My husband cooks during the week, I'm supposed to cook at the weekends but we usually end up eating out or going to visit family.
He also cooked Christmas lunch, his choice......we usually eat out at the local pub but he wanted to do it this year. Our youngest daughter is 18 and she was his assistant chef, our eldest daughter is 22 and has no interest in the kitchen at all so she was in charge of refilling drinks and socialising with her grandparents.
Whenever there's a gathering or event at work my husband always makes something delicious to take in, when a similar thing is happening at my workplace I just buy some crisps and cakes to take in. As long as someone in the house likes/enjoys cooking there shouldn't be a problem, if no one wanted to do it there might be friction, or you'd have to develop a fondness for takeout and cereal.

My DW is a SAHM. I enjoy cooking so when I'm off work I do all of it. However when I'm working she does the evening meal.
Christmas lunch was a joint effort, but apart from that I've cooked pretty much every meal over the festive period.