To think a grown up shouldn't call their mother 'mummy'

[shebird]

Is it just a bit weird hearing a 40 year grown old woman call her mum 'Mummy' all the time. It just grates on me.
AIBU?

My 29 yo DD calls me mummy. Her brothers tend to stick to ma. Anything but "mum" - I hate it.

When I stopped calling my DM mummy I didn't like mum and switched to mother. We used to call my father Fat One.

What I do find annoying is when my DM talks to DD2 (8) about "your mum". But I CBA to get riled up about what other people call theirs.

Even more cringeworthy is when adults call each other mummy and daddy when no children around. I met an elderly couple who did this. Very peculiar.

My DH (50) and his sister call their mother "mummy". This is very much by her wishes, not theirs - DH is not wild about it but goes along with it for a quiet life. We all think it is indeed snobbish in her case - she's not a toxic MN MIL by any means but does like things her own way. However, she also says 'serviette' and 'lounge' ;)

It can be a poshness thing. DP denies he is posh (he so is) but I knew he was when I heard him saying mummy and daddy. CRIIIINNNGGE! I know it's bad that it makes me cringe but if you grew up where the norm was to switch to mum and dad aged about 7, and if you didn't you would be mercilessly bullied, you can't help hearing it as babyish.

He has done it less over the years, his dad has died I think maybe he has picked up "Mum" from me a bit.

Yes I don't know were to look when friend's wife calls him "Daddy". They do have a child but still!

I find it weird (but have never aired it before) the fact dp calls his grandmother/father mom-mom and pop-pop, they're his grandparents he can call them what he wants, which is why I have never aired this particular to me oddity (and I know it's odd to air it considering what I am about to say).

I still from time to time call my mum and dad, mummy and daddy, it's usually when I want something though and it has that really annoying upward inflection, should get a few knickers in a twist here.

I think it would be rather dull if you lived your life to a prescription, so from age 6 you are not allowed to call your mum mummy or dad daddy because of some preconceived notion that it is childish or heaven forfends posh.

In private I call my parents mummy and daddy, I'm 25. In public I use mum/dad/their names, but to me they are mummy/daddy. I still manage to get birthday and Christmas cards with those on, although I have to really hunt for non-childish ones!

It's not that everyone has to the same, it's just that you're informed by the culture you grew up in. So it's hard for me not to hear it as childish and cringey. But I recognise it's normal if you are very posh/irish/etc. I'd never tell someone not to do it. They can call their parents what they like.

whatever ... yet another thing that I don't give an arse about.

My mum & her siblings (considerably posher than me!) call their parents (now in their 90s) Mummy & Daddy. My brother & I call our parents mum & dad, my sister (considerably posher than me ) calls them Mummy & Daddy.

My younger kids call us Mama & Daddy & my older ones Mother & Daddy ... I have no idea where that came from!

Where I live its extremely common for women mainly to call their parents mummy and daddy, my mum in her 60's still calls her mum "mummy". Its just how it is here. People will ask "hows your mummy keeping?" And a mum will say to an adult child "your daddys going to the shop, do you need anything"
I dont find it odd because its always been like this but i can see why it would sound odd to outsiders.

I'm 22 and call DM Mum and Mama Bear cause she hates it
I call my DF Dad and depending on what tone of voice I use he still knows if I want something very teenagery of me.
I refer to myself as Mummy to ds4mo or Mama just as it might be easier for his speech?
Dp keeps trying to teach him to call me Big Momma

I think it is quite harsh to judge as it's a very personal thing for a lot of people. For example you wouldn't catch my Mum referring to her Mother as anything other than profanities...(she deserves it though)

My mother always refers to herself as 'mummy' even though none of her children have called her that since being very small. I find that a bit odd, personally.

Can't say I care all that much about what other people call their parents - sometimes there are obvious class markers, but it's not exactly important.

Bitoutofpractice
My elderly dm refers to her mother as Mom.
And she lived on a remote part of the west coast of Ireland and is not in the least pretentious.
I thought Mammy was an Irish 'thing'
I detest Ma, and am not crazy about Mam, though I use it when speaking to her. Or Mum.
I am Mummy to the very young dcs and Mum when they got older because DH (posh ) referring to me, would say 'Mummy'

Outing myself if she's on here, but every phone conversation with my DM begins "hola ma!" In normal conversation I just call her mum though. Not posh enough to get away with mummy.

And I've called my aunts by their first names since I was about 14 or so. Weirdly, while my DM will refer to them as "our X", my DF insists on still referring to them as "aunty X" in conversation.

It's baby talk as far as I'm concerned. Adults calling their parents mummy and daddy may as well say vroom vrooms for cars, and choo choos for trains. I suppose they have a doggy and a horsey as well. It's just infantile and completely cringeworthy. I just asked my daughter "What do you think of adults who call their parents 'mummy and daddy'?" and got one word in reply - "Weird".

I think anyone who judges me for what I call my parents is an ass.

This. You truly have nothing to worry about in life if it bothers you that someone calls their mum mummy (or anything else polite).

grunt
Nice to hear you are raising your daughter to be just as charming as you!

I agree with grunt - on the very rare occasions I have come across this it has made me snigger.

It just sounds really weird and repressed to me.

To my mind it's no different to calling someone called Thomas 'Tommy' opposed to 'Tom', or Robert 'Bobby' opposed to 'Bob.' Unless you address your parents by their given names they're all just nicknames really, aren't they?

I always called my grandma by a nickname I invented and I still call my aunt by one. I'm pretty sure there are no rules.

I know someone who calls her stepfather Daddy (although as far as she is concerned he is her only father) . She is 32. It feels very odd and addded to a few other things just feels euwww....

Yes, it grates a little, because it sounds twee to me. But am conscious that's upbringing, should not be a value judgment.

I wasn't allowed to with my parents, they were Mother ( Muvver) and father ( Farver). They thought it sounded twee and never assumed the Queen was posh ( rather bourgeois, darling, all Queen Victoria's doing). I referred to them in letters to cousins as Ma and Pa. They were prepared to countenance Mama ( M'maah) and Papa (P'paah) as alternatives. Never Mater and Pater (darling, no need for school slang).

In my socially downwardly mobile fashion I banned Mummy and Daddy and we use Mum and Dad.

My 12, 14 and 16 say mummy and daddy to our faces

So "mummy can i have..."

I say daddy.... Now i have to say Pa as the children refer to him as Pa and i look like a muppet yelling "daddy" while trying to get his attention

I am sure that they refer to us as mum and dad when they are talking to their friends as i refer to my dad

I used to call my mum Mater...then changed it to Matey

One of our friends and his DW call each other Mummy Bear and Daddy Bear- even when DS isn't in the room.

and their DS is 14

I'm a posh twat and address my parents as 'Mummy' and 'Daddy'. However, if I'm referring to them to someone other than another family member (brother, aunts, uncles and probably cousins), I'll say 'Mum' and 'Dad'