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Postitblue · 29/12/2015 18:43

Hello all- I'm pretty sure I am BU to ask but I was wondering- have you ever known someone on MN was talking about you? Or have you been caught out on here referring to Someone who knows you in RL? I'm a nosy begger I know but some of the stuff on here I think (surely) someone would know? Ps new here and loving it - apologies in advance if this isn't appropriate chat :)

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Topseyt · 29/12/2015 21:07

I am pretty sure I recognised someone on one occasionally. A family member, but it wouldn't have mattered.

WeAreEternal · 29/12/2015 21:07

I have been recognised a couple of times on MN by people i know IRL,
but I don't NC and post easily identifiable things so it has never been a shock when someone mentions it.

I have also recognised people I know IRL, or at least been fairly certain I recognised someone from their thread, but I have never seen a thread about me.

Maryz · 29/12/2015 21:12

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DontOpenDeadInside · 29/12/2015 21:16

I posted something about a neighbour. An (apparent) friend of hers realised who I was talking about and said so. I said that I'd changed some details (I hadn't) to throw her off the scent. I hope it worked and she never told her (It wasn't particularly nasty, but a bit personal) She's not said anything if she did.

KinkyDorito · 29/12/2015 21:19

I'm very recognisable, but also incredibly boring.

BitOfFun · 29/12/2015 21:22

I think that goes in my favour too, Kinky.

Alohamora · 29/12/2015 21:23

I've recognised a friend of a friend simply because her story about how she discovered her DH was cheating is very unique. It was a few years ago now though.

I remember a poster who had a thread supporting her through the end of her marriage and her husband came crashing into the thread and was awful. She ended up getting everything deleted. I hope she got away from him!

KinkyDorito · 29/12/2015 21:23
Grin

I might have to spice my posts up a bit, especially since exMIL mentioned MN in conversation the other day...

StrictlyMumDancing · 29/12/2015 21:25

I've been recognised because I've chatted about things in RL that I've also discussed here. But then I've had a few name changes and I don't post anything I wouldn't be happy to have out there

notafanofwinter · 29/12/2015 21:26

I was quoted in The bloodyDaily Mail. It was very dull, about airmiles, but it's made me more cautious about NC.

80schild · 29/12/2015 21:26

I don't know if I anyone would recognise me - I think they might but whenever I post about anything I always try to change the details a bit as a bit of a curve ball. Also my name is a bit deceptive - I am not as old as my name implies.

TheFormidableMrsC · 29/12/2015 21:27

I think the thing to remember is that when you are posting about particularly personal RL situations as I have, you must absolutely be able to substantiate everything you say and be truthful. As somebody said upthread, there are always two sides to every story and indeed my ex-h's "side" has been to character assassinate me at every opportunity including making allegations about my mental health which he knows full well are completely untrue. However, he had to say these things to try and justify his actions. I did also have somebody PM me with press links to the death of OW's husband and a link to OW's business website, telling me that she had been able to identify them from the description I had given of the very specific circumstances. I wasn't really surprised or indeed bothered in all honesty. The situation was what it was and it wasn't caused by me!

LassWiTheDelicateAir · 29/12/2015 21:27

The one currently running about pregnant sister in law and sex or gender must have a good chance of being about a MNetter.

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Postitblue · 29/12/2015 21:27

Oh :( ^also an 80s child

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TheFormidableMrsC · 29/12/2015 21:29

Alohamora...that could well have been me! That is exactly what happened. If it was, I did have the threads taken down until I had checked my legal position and spoken to the Police. Once the position was clear, the threads were reinstated and thus they remain Smile

Jux · 29/12/2015 21:37

If anyone has recognised me, they have been far too polite to say anything. That's how it should be.

CalmYoBadSelf · 29/12/2015 22:33

I know some MNetters on FB and, like others, don't post anything I wouldn't IRL

I did get accused of posting something once though that really wasn't me. We had a situation at work and someone posted a query regarding a spectacularly similar situation that caused a lot of suspicion among my colleagues despite my protests. If I was going to post about itI'd have disguised it better!

ThreeFrazzledFandangos · 29/12/2015 22:58

I spotted a baby group friend once.

She was telling me a story about her car seat and I said "You've already told me this".

Nope I'd read it that morning on here but it wasn't anything bad so it was fine.

CantSee4Looking · 29/12/2015 23:17

Alohamora & TheFormidableMrsC there has actually been a couple of these situations since I have been on mn.
I have been outed on mn. But that was stalkerish twatty ex. I don't really give a shit that he probably knows this nc or the others ones anymore because I found his kryptonite and he daren't misuse the information he may gleam. also he finally got his head out of his ass and realised that HE was the asshole and not all his ex s Grin

TheFormidableMrsC · 29/12/2015 23:25

CantSee4Looking...has there?! I thought it was only me who had a twat of an ex crash into my thread and introduce himself using his OWN NAME Hmm. He was awful though, showed himself right up and admitted he was a shit father who had failed his little boy. I chose not to NC but understand why people do. Glad to hear your ex finally saw the light!!

CantSee4Looking · 29/12/2015 23:34

Yes I can think of a few times it has happened but most have not used their own name Shock And a couple of times it has been a current who became ex. One of the posters is doing very well and very happy post thread crashing but as far as I am aware no longer a poster :(
Well I am hoping he has seen the light. He is doing a good job of pretending to have Hmm

TheFormidableMrsC · 30/12/2015 00:03

Goodness, I am amazed. I wouldn't dream of doing something like that I would actually Smile. Hope ex keeps up the pretence CantSee...!

SoleSource · 30/12/2015 00:29

Months ago I has a PM asking if my name began with a .. which was right. I have been recognised but no idea who sent me that PM.

TheFormidableMrsC · 30/12/2015 00:33

I would have asked why they were asking SoleSource....I think if I truly recognised somebody I would probably tell them. I recently had a FB friend ask me if I was on MN because I had been posting about my DS who has ASD and she recognised the story, so now we both know who we are on here Smile. Didn't worry me at all.

SoleSource · 30/12/2015 00:40

I did reply but I can't remember what I wrote.

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