to be upset about New Year's Eve?

[ninja]

The last couple of years I've been to a friend's house party on New Year's Eve (I'm a single mum and haven't had the kids with me). She's always had a few families with their children (who go off and entertain themselves). Clearly it's her prerogative to invite who she wants but it's been quite awkward when other people have asked me if I'm going and I've had to say I'm not invited.

I asked her if she was having a party this year and she said that they were having a smaller party, so obviously I'm not invited.

I've been asking around a few people to see what's on as I'd rather not stay in for the whole night (kids are 12 and 7 and so don't do much together). I've been asking about pubs etc.

Another friend said they were having a few friends and invited me to theirs and then phoned to say it wasn't possible as I had the kids (her kids are a similar age to mine, but fine her choice).

I do have a partner but he lives over 4 hours away and with both our contact patterns with the kids we're just not able to see each other over Christmas which is a little upsetting (which my friends know).

So AIBU to be a bit upset about this? I know it's their choice but I don't even know why I'm not invited. I don't know whether to ask (after the event) if I've done something to offend her.

This has caused me stupid amounts of sleeplessness exacerbated by PMT and a general anxiety due to various pressures of being a single mum. It's rare to get invitations or get people to come and socialise with me because most people do things as families and a single women with or without kids just doesn't fit in.

[ninja]

You're right Laguna, NYE is a minor thing but being more positive and proactive about that is making me feel more positive in general. I'll have a lovely day tomorrow and tackle the rest in the New Year.

I have 10 pin bowling booked for the afternoon and have bought lots of treats from the supermarket. I also have 3 packs of sparklers ready (assuming it's not too rainy).

Need to choose a film that all of us will enjoy and I think we're set! Might even try some of the silly games :)

[LassWiTheDelicateAir]

It's not a silly issue. I hope you have a nice time.

[oneowlgirl]

Sounds like a good plan - enjoy!

[Cloppysow]

I've spent many a NYE in with my 2 boys. Treats, movies, games and a couple of glasses of wine for me. I'd happily have done it again this year but they're off to their dads. I was going to spend the night alone, happily so, but my brother decided to come for a visit.

Anyway, it can be fine spending it with the kids, they are your nearest and dearest after all. Don't take it too much to heart about your friend, hopefully you'll get to the bottom of it at some point.

Have a nice night with your girls.

[Foslady]

Another one spending NYE alone - not very often I have done anything but this year will be totally alone dd at her dads . One of my friends has been concerned but tbh all NYE tends to go us remind me I'm alone so I think I'd rather just curl up in pj's with a curry and trash TV/DVDs - Wayne's World and Xmas chocs/haribo's anyone (along with all the wine I couldn't drink as I spent all Xmas driving - gggrrrr!!!!)?