Just back from Christmas with relatives - twas very nice.
Opened Christmas card from abroad from other relatives which says as part of general message "you might well be forced to give X room and board. She's determined to do some post-grad work in Yourtown ".
Back story is that X lives in a country that's a reasonable distance away. She came over to visit this summer en route to somewhere else. She's a nice young adult and we enjoyed showing her round our historical town, all very enjoyable for a short visit.
But I can't recall saying that she should move in ! There were a few things that weren't a big deal for a short visit. but would definitely grate after more than a week - very messy room (even by my standards) secret eater so lots of crumbs in the bedroom and all over the bed clothes, had quite strong opinions on lots of things.
I wouldn't be quite so outraged if Xs DM who wrote the card had extended much hospitality to us or indeed my parents when they made the long journey to their country - on each occasion we stayed in a nearby motel and they didn't seem to have much time to spend with us.
Hopefully the reality is that X would much prefer to be with her peers and closer to the centre. I'm more than happy for her to come for a short while to settle in, and have family days with her but we don't want or need a long term boarder.
AIBU in thinking WTAF and hoping she's joking?