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To want to tell my brother his husband stole our chocolates

113 replies

Sunflower1985 · 19/12/2015 22:18

Petty - extremely petty, but it's bugging the heck out of me.
We had my brother and his husband over for Christmas meal today. They drove a fair way to us, so we didn't mind supplying the food. They brought presents and a cheese board.
A pleasant enough day, but the ending soured it. We didn't get round to the cheese, having had very decent portions of the beef roast dinner, homemade bread and baked Camembert, chocolates and tiramisu we provided.
On the way out they took all the cheese they bought from the fridge. I made my peace.
Then my BIL went into our garage and took a handful of the the chocolates we had bought back from our holiday. They weren't out. They were tucked away in the garage ffs. He can't have been hungry - we fed them all day. If he was he could have had the cheese they took with them.
WIBU to tell my brother this is twattish behaviour and to get his husband to apologise?

OP posts:
cakedup · 19/12/2015 23:13

I think taking the cheese back is just as bad as taking the chocolate tbh!

PaulAnkaTheDog · 19/12/2015 23:13

Your husband watched someone root around in your garage and eventually nick something, yet didn't say anything? Your bil was a dick but I'd be more inclined to spend time telling dh to find his balls.

whois · 19/12/2015 23:13

Yeah that's really strange. As is taking back the cheese!

Does your brother know he does this? Are you on good enough terms to ask your brother to make sure his husband keeps his kleptomaniac tends cues under control?

whois · 19/12/2015 23:13

Also why didn't your husband just ask him what he was doing whilst the deed was being done?

ohtheholidays · 19/12/2015 23:14

Say something,if you don't he might take something else from your home the next time he comes.

Mmmmcake123 · 19/12/2015 23:15

Tiramisu = divine to me.
Did he eat the tiramisu?
It's not relevant whether he did or not as its still worse than rude, but if he did then what's his problem as well fed. If he didn't, then why be so petty that he didn't get what he wanted.

lanadelreya · 19/12/2015 23:17

I don't think OP's husband actually saw him in the garage. He just saw the chocolates in his pocket and was too bemused to say anything.

MitzyLeFrouf · 19/12/2015 23:17

'Tiramisu is shit. Sorry, had to be said.'

'Tiramasu? YABU. #notthenineties'

All you tiramisu haters need to step the fuck back. (a good) Tiramisu is the food of the motherfucking gods. THE GODS I say. She is immune to the waxing and waning of food trends.

Yes my love is such that I needed to swear twice in its defence.

What is a 2015 pudding by the way? Can't be anything salted caramel, that's so 2014.

multivac · 19/12/2015 23:23

If the OP had left the tiramisu in its packaging unserved, maybe people might actually have been able to enjoy the cheese course. Just a thought...

MitzyLeFrouf · 19/12/2015 23:24

multivac you are vexing me greatly.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 19/12/2015 23:26

He just saw the chocolates in his pocket and was too bemused to say anything.

Ah, OP's husband is Clark Kent. Now I get it.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 19/12/2015 23:27

multivac....what?

defineme · 19/12/2015 23:28

I wouldn't say anything, well possibly I would take the piss. It's just so tragic and pathetic that they'd take the cheese and nick the chocolates- leave them to their pettiness and bad manners. Take the high ground and lock the garage if they ever come again.

IguanaTail · 19/12/2015 23:30

Retrieving the cheese is pathetic.
Stealing the chocolates is dickish.

Tempted though I'd be to say they were out of date or filled with poison or licked by the dog mention it, far more satisfying to say nothing and leave all traces of wrong and bad behaviour firmly with him.

Katarzyna79 · 19/12/2015 23:31

I don't understand how you can take a gift of food for your host then take it back because it wasn't eaten? This is the first time I've heard of such behaviour it's damn rude I would think they're misers with no heart.....bah humbug

I wouldn't get the husband to apologise, but do tell your brother so he knows it occurred, I think it will happen again......

WorraLiberty · 19/12/2015 23:32

Wait...

How could he see a handful of chocolates in your BIL's pocket?

Was he wearing a see-through rain mac?

PaulAnkaTheDog · 19/12/2015 23:39

Worra like I said, op has Superman in her midst...

TonySopranosVest · 19/12/2015 23:41

This did not happen.

InTheBox · 19/12/2015 23:42

If her DH saw him take the chocolates then maybe he saw him put them into his pocket, more likely than x-ray vision.

InTheBox · 19/12/2015 23:44

Tony Then why not just report the thread instead of troll hunt on the thread?

PaulAnkaTheDog · 19/12/2015 23:47

InTheBox read the op's comments. That isn't what happened. Her husband saw them in his pocket apparently.

InTheBox · 19/12/2015 23:48

Paul Just as you posted I scrolled back and you're right. Her comment was:

My dh saw with the chocolates in his pocket but was too bumfuzzled to say anything.

differentnameforthis · 19/12/2015 23:55

See, I don't understand this...the dh SAW the bloody chocolates in his pockets, but didn't say anything...would he have been "too bemused" to sayt anything if it was his watch/op's jewellery?

Do family members really get away with helping themselves to, & taking anything they like because they were invited into our homes?

Heck, I have pulled up little kids leaving my house with dd's toys in a bag, I don't think my ILs would get away with helping themselves.

maddening · 19/12/2015 23:56

A jacket pocket full of Chocs could sit open enough to see the Chocs

CandOdad · 19/12/2015 23:58

took a handful of the the chocolates we had bought back from our holiday

What sort of chocolates are stored in the garage and open enough to take a "handful" of? All a bit weird along with the having seen them in his pocket.