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Has anyone else had a weird facebook message from an unknown person?

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katemiddletonsothermum · 17/12/2015 23:02

Someone I don't believe even exists has sent me a message on facebook saying that DH is cheating on me. I think it's a spam, like those emails you get from Nigeria saying you've won twenty million quid if you would only give them your bank details.

I've googled her name, it doesn't exist. I'm convinced it's a fake account and I'll be hacked if I go anywhere near her facebook account.

Has anyone else received strange messages from unknown people? Please answer, before I attack DH with the carving knife.

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goodnightdarthvader1 · 17/12/2015 23:03

Did they mention him by name? Is he listed as your DH on your Facebook page? Is your page public?

TwoSmellyDogs · 17/12/2015 23:03

It's a scam. I hope you haven't clicked any links or responded to the friend request?

SummerNights1986 · 17/12/2015 23:06

How does it read? Can you c&p here?

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katemiddletonsothermum · 17/12/2015 23:07

My facebook page is very private and no, she doesn't mention him by name. It says "Your husband has been cheating on you and I think you should know. Even tonight." - which is unfortunate timing as it's the work Christmas party and he isn't home yet!!

I haven't clicked on anything, have just gone back to my homepage and then I'll shut facebook down for the night.

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goodnightdarthvader1 · 17/12/2015 23:08

Weird scam... Can't imagine the point. Unless she'll give you a link to view the "evidence".

SummerNights1986 · 17/12/2015 23:09

I would definitely look at the persons fb page and see if any friends in common etc.

Just looking at a fb profile - how could that harm?

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katemiddletonsothermum · 17/12/2015 23:09

No, nothing else - but apparently I have to click on a button to accept the message. As if.

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SummerNights1986 · 17/12/2015 23:10

DM the name op, i'll look for you!

SummerNights1986 · 17/12/2015 23:11

I don't think fb messages could be 'hacked' to that degree? To change the structure iyswim, insert a button that has to be clicked?

goodnightdarthvader1 · 17/12/2015 23:12

To accept the message? Why would you need to do that when you've read it? Is that a FB thing?

mrstiggy · 17/12/2015 23:13

You do have to click to accept messages from people not on your friends list though I think. So if I'm right that would be normal procedure.

Fox28 · 17/12/2015 23:13

You have to click to accept a message from anyone who isn't your "friend" now

goodnightdarthvader1 · 17/12/2015 23:14

Oh. Weird.

Havetohaveanewchufffingaccount · 17/12/2015 23:14

Sounds odd. My FB says message request and I have to accept to show I read it. Not sure if that's how hackers work

SummerNights1986 · 17/12/2015 23:16

www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-3293467/RIP-Facebook-s-inbox-Social-network-rolls-Message-Requests-feature-lets-contact-you.html

Look at this op - being asked to 'accept' a message from a non-friend is a new fb feature. Seems legit.

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katemiddletonsothermum · 17/12/2015 23:16

Havetohaveanew - YES - I got this message request, I read the message and at the bottom of the screen is the accept button saying I have to click on this to show I have read the message.

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Arfarfanarf · 17/12/2015 23:18

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lighteningirl · 17/12/2015 23:18

It's not a scam as there's no money in it, it's either pure nastiness by someone your dh has upset or its faux concern from a woman he's messing about.

Havetohaveanewchufffingaccount · 17/12/2015 23:18

And the profile goes to home page?

SquareStarfish · 17/12/2015 23:20

I don't really see how it can be a scam. Just reading messages and having a snoop at the profile won't do anything. Just don't click any links on her page.

Havetohaveanewchufffingaccount · 17/12/2015 23:21

And dint accidentally friend request or like it... Which tends to happen to me when I am snooping 😂

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katemiddletonsothermum · 17/12/2015 23:22

I haven't clicked on her profile at all, I've just ignored it. Apart from blasting it all over mumsnet, of course.

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SisterMoonshine · 17/12/2015 23:23

Uh oh.
There's a chance it is genuine then.

Havetohaveanewchufffingaccount · 17/12/2015 23:23

I would look. Then block if you think it's suspicious

Fox28 · 17/12/2015 23:25

I think you should take a look at her profile. It doesn't sound like a scam. It just sounds normal for what happens when someone messages you who isn't your "friend". I have recently sold something on a FB selling site and had the accept button appear as I wasn't friends with her