am ? i am? annoyed !!!!!!!!!!!

[creamponies]

ok We as a family and a good number of cousins that are in similarly age with us all and we used to spend various of long summer holidays of hanging out.

anyone we tried to arrange catch ups and etc.

my first cousin got married last year.
And i went to her hens. in a different county and her wedding again spending several nights in a hotelx

I wanted to go and i did enjoyed myself but as i was on a fixed income there was a considerable sum to me but i scrimped.

Hens was fine.
I WAS however put out of her wedding as she the bride. Spended more time with her Friends and it was party wedding she had the celebrations with her immediately family the day before. Which was fine but personally i would had have the day and be done with. No proper seating and and everyone grabbing food from where they could take it. AND SHE didn't even say goodbye to everyone at the breakfast table as she was hungover!!!!
so we fb chatted and i found out from a mutual cousin that she will be a aunt over in January and that was about a month ago. Which is a blessing and a joyous occasion. blah blah well we had chatted on and off so i gave her a few texts but i wanted her to tell me her good news and we chatted on fb about various things.
Explained to me that she loves her marraige life and they have plenty of time to have children.

I said you would be a great mum etc and not a word from her that she be a aunt her rest of a family arent on facebook and her mum and my mum arent close. So that was that until today she text me im a aunty and i replied what? and she explained blah blah and i said whate? are you only telling me this now?
i didn't even she was pregnant her db wife? oh she said did you not know? i thought everyone knew (it wasnt any other reference anywhere or i would have picked on it) I SAID no i didnt your the only one of your family that talks to me.? they rest live around 300 miles.

Oh yea she says i didn't think like that i thought my mum might have told our mutual aunt and she will mentioned to your mum but i forget that our mums dont talk (there are sisters)
blah blah about keeping it quiet which is (understandably after a certain amount time unless your showing) ah sure it was on the cards. married,house
so i replyed after congrats to her saying if you ever get pregnant please tell me and not when the baby is born. and she was oh yea blah blah but im was so furious that i said had to go for a party. i THINK THAT WAS LOUSY TBH couldnt even say im going to be a aunt soon

How come you live 300 miles away? I don't think you should get upset about accidently being missed out of the baby news circuit. Maybe you could arrange more frequent trips to the family's village, to stay in touch with everyone and keep you in the loop for family news?

There is a village somewhere in Ireland missing a resident...

I understand your hurt OP. I also live a long way from my family and it is hurtful when they inadvertantly sideline you because 'out of sight, out of mind'.

For all the ignorant posters bitching about the OP's writing skills:

www.opencolleges.edu.au/informed/adult-literacy/#reading-comprehension

LTB.

OP, please ignore the mocking and unpleasant posts about your writing.

Lorelei and testicle, that brings memories flooding back. I wonder if it was the same occasion? Unfortunately it may have happened more than once, and I'm rubbish with names.

But if it was, I was so bloody grateful to have people help, instead of the harrying and the triumph others showed as they tried to 'unmask' me as they mocked me. It was unbelievably cruel and still takes my breath away. Even when the voice recognition software was explained, there were people who still disbelieved and tried to 'catch me out'. It meant a huge amount that someone, anyone believed me. I don't use the program so much anymore, I was only just starting to use it when that nastiness happened. People made it so clear that I was fair game to pick on, I'd rather struggle in pain than face the interrogation again.

If it wasn't the incident I remember, which it may not have been, it will have been a similar one and I suspect the poster would be similarly relieved to have anyone try and stop the, well, bullying.

It isn't big, it isn't clever, it's fucking disgusting.

And I hope the posters who enjoy picking on people for their writing and language skills stop and think about what they are doing...

Mocking people because they're disabled and use voice recognition software?

Mocking people because they're dyslexic?

Mocking people because they are less literate and articulate than themselves?

Oh yeah, get the jibes in quick, because their writing offends your eyes. Make them feel small and stupid. And make them feel inadequate and unwelcome. That's the way to do it. Bravo.

And I guess those indulging in a bit of 'mock the poster' can feel a bit bigger and better than the lowly poster they're looking down on. Lovely.

Agree. Rakes of replies sneering at the OP's writing. I understood her OP - it wasn't hard. No need for the pile in.

OP I don't understand why you are upset. She assumed you knew......which you did! When she spoke about the baby why did you pretend not to know?? FFS

You do seem to expect a lot from this distant cousin of yours - are you this needy and self important with everyone?

weird

Are you usually so rude?

If your intellect doesn't stretch to understanding the cause of the OP's upset in the first place, may I suggest you don't post insults framed as disingenuous 'questions'? (And no, I'm not remotely interested in the frequency of your rudeness).

Thanks to all the posters that posted.
And especially ones that stood up for me.
I’m so sorry about the poster that her dad died and she went through ivf. (SHE DOSENT KNOW THAT)
It’s a route that I have to go down to.

Thanks oakmadian of course I love to see them. I DO try and make an effort. But being honest most of them has gone abroad as there are from the area. But since that the granny's home IS NOW recently gone (She died last year) gone.

We have no place to go to. (They know this. As in my relations but never offered and we never asked) as we don’t like to impose on anyone. So it’s not a feasible idea for regular trips.
So I would have to save for a rental and I’m just upset she couldn’t have even fb me saying I’m going to be an aunt over Christmas. But everyone knew that but not me I told my cousin at the time. I talk to MARY all the time as I even tried to hint at the (subject) and she still couldn’t even tell me. So I said to my other cousin until she tells me.
I refuse to believe it as she would have mentioned it by now. I will edit the wedding bit out as well as I was trying to convey that with all cousins I try to make an effort. But I am just upset.

Thanks misc assortment for your honest post. Im sorry you had an experience. Yes I’m dyslexic and I was writing my post with my poor eyes (have terrible eyesight).

BUT I HATE THIS SHARON REFERENCE AND THAT WAS NOT MY FIRST TIME WITH THE SHARON REFERENCE

Aww creamponies it sounds like you really do care about your cousin. Just remember that this wasn't necessarily her news to share, and also that you did know about it, just not from her. It's better to be straight with people in these situations, so you could have told her congratulations the next time you'd spoken to her after you'd been told by other person. Try not to play 'games' maybe.

YABU.
It wasn't the place of your cousin to tell you.
If you aren't close enough to him for him to tell you why does it matter.

Creamponies - I am sorry, but I think you need to let this go. I don't think you are going to achieve anything positive by telling these people how they have upset you - they can't go back and change their wedding, or how they acted at it, and your cousin can't go back and change whether they tell you about the pregnancy/baby.

You are doing yourself no good by carrying on stewing about this, getting crosser and crosser, and, in the nicest possible way, you need to give your head a wobble, get a hold of yourself, and get over it.

And a last word of advice - in the future, don't HINT to people about things - ask directly. Instead of hinting at the subject of the baby, with your cousin, you should have said something clear and direct - like "Hey, I hear that you are about to be an auntie again - congratulations!! When's the baby due?"

You can't hint at things, and then get cross with people because they don't pick up on your hints. Be straight with people from the get-go, and you won't have to spend lots of emotional energy getting upset because someone didn't pick up on your hints and doesn't know you were upset!

Agree with STDG on the hints. Maybe when you call ask "any news, any weddings, babies, anybody unwell, someone going to college, new jobs?".

OP, my written English is crap and I'm not even dyslexic so absolutely no criticism from me about your OP. However, your latest post is about s million times easier to understand. It's not just the punctuation it's also that your thoughts seem more organized.
Is the difference in posting styles because you were angry when you wrote your OP or was it because you were using a different device. I say that because I make a lot less mistakes if I use a PC or tablet rather than when i post using my phone.
Obviously you can post in the style you want but I think you are more likely to get helpful replies and fewer accusations of being a troll if you post like you did in your last post. No one, apart from a few dickheads, care about a few grammatical or spelling mistakes but your first OP was difficult to read and understand.

Lol, I'm sure this post will be full of typos

Hilarious thread

OP - You are hurt because you believe that your cousin deliberately kept it from you the news that she was going to be an aunt, presumably because she was hoping that you would never notice? You took offence because it is your God-given right to be informed when cousins' brothers' wives get pregnant?

thanks all. I have calmed down. They nowt much i can do i suppose. Ah well its done now and yes thanks to the poster i have learn to control my emotions better well i get there.

She thought you knew. You did know. Yabu

She assumed that you knew about the pregnancy. And she was right, you did! So all the fuss is because you didn't come out and say 'Mary, heard about your DBro, what lovely news!'

I wouldn't stress too much, you'll drive her away if you do.

Not even the title of this thread makes sense. Is voice recognition software to blame for the 11 exclamation marks too?

Grunt I didn't say op had used voice recognition software, I was trying to point out that there are a whole host of reasons as to why someone may not have a writing style you feel is up to scratch and that it wasn't very nice to mock the way some people were. Could be down to dialect, language barriers, education barriers, dyslexia, learning difficulties so many reasons. Again I am not saying that is true for this poster I just think people should think about it before being mean. I know when a thread seems like a complete joke or goady etc it's a bit different but it seems to me the op here was genuinely a bit hurt and I just felt that some of the comments about her writing were a bit bullying.

Oops I somehow missed there was a whole page after the post I replied to.