am ? i am? annoyed !!!!!!!!!!!

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ok We as a family and a good number of cousins that are in similarly age with us all and we used to spend various of long summer holidays of hanging out.

anyone we tried to arrange catch ups and etc.

my first cousin got married last year.
And i went to her hens. in a different county and her wedding again spending several nights in a hotelx

I wanted to go and i did enjoyed myself but as i was on a fixed income there was a considerable sum to me but i scrimped.

Hens was fine.
I WAS however put out of her wedding as she the bride. Spended more time with her Friends and it was party wedding she had the celebrations with her immediately family the day before. Which was fine but personally i would had have the day and be done with. No proper seating and and everyone grabbing food from where they could take it. AND SHE didn't even say goodbye to everyone at the breakfast table as she was hungover!!!!
so we fb chatted and i found out from a mutual cousin that she will be a aunt over in January and that was about a month ago. Which is a blessing and a joyous occasion. blah blah well we had chatted on and off so i gave her a few texts but i wanted her to tell me her good news and we chatted on fb about various things.
Explained to me that she loves her marraige life and they have plenty of time to have children.

I said you would be a great mum etc and not a word from her that she be a aunt her rest of a family arent on facebook and her mum and my mum arent close. So that was that until today she text me im a aunty and i replied what? and she explained blah blah and i said whate? are you only telling me this now?
i didn't even she was pregnant her db wife? oh she said did you not know? i thought everyone knew (it wasnt any other reference anywhere or i would have picked on it) I SAID no i didnt your the only one of your family that talks to me.? they rest live around 300 miles.

Oh yea she says i didn't think like that i thought my mum might have told our mutual aunt and she will mentioned to your mum but i forget that our mums dont talk (there are sisters)
blah blah about keeping it quiet which is (understandably after a certain amount time unless your showing) ah sure it was on the cards. married,house
so i replyed after congrats to her saying if you ever get pregnant please tell me and not when the baby is born. and she was oh yea blah blah but im was so furious that i said had to go for a party. i THINK THAT WAS LOUSY TBH couldnt even say im going to be a aunt soon

Whose brother?

OK so you are a bit annoyed at Mary because you spent a lot of money that you didn't really have to attend her wedding. This lasted several days staying in a hotel. On the day of the wedding meal she was hungover and didnt really speak to you much before leaving.

After this, you find out her brother (also your cousin but you don't speak to him) has had a baby. You find this out from another cousin - Mary and your cousin. Mary herself does not mention this to you and you are upset.

Have I got that right op? I can understand why you'd be upset someone close to you didn't share her news of becoming an aunt, but I wonder if Mary doesn't consider you to be that close? Sorry if that sounds mean but maybe she doesn't see your relationship the way you do. Is there a reason you don't talk to the rest of her family? Could she be distancing herself from you because of that?

Maybe you should call Mary's brother more often, maybe he and his wife wanted to tell you themselves and asked others to wait until they'd done so?

OP, I don't think your post sounds strange at all. There's probably a culture gap because I'm from Ireland and it all makes sense :)

If she hung out with her mates rather than her family at her wedding, you were probably already feeling a bit hurt I'm guessing? So her not mentioning the pregnancy felt like you were hardly friends at all?

I understand how it happens but honestly, it's hardly worth getting annoyed over. She sounds a bit take-things-as-they-come and happy-go-lucky - I'd be surprised if she ever sat down and thought about things like that. If you're lucky enough to be talking to her when a bit of news pops into her head, you'll hear it. But she'll not take the trouble to pick up the phone for anyone, it's nothing personal.

But you already said you knew about the baby but were waiting for her specifically to tell you. Why? It's not her baby to tell you about. And why so arsed about a baby you will hardly see or be close to anyway?

MBFGW?

Who's Mary?!

I read the OP in Vicki Pollards voice.

The op said "let's call Her Mary" about her cousin in a later post.

Now I think about it my cousin is pregnant and I have spoke to another cousin several times and I haven't mentioned it and neither has she. I guess
we just both assumed each other would know?

I think some people are being unnecessarily sneery towards the op's writing style. If you don't understand either don't post or ask for clarification. It is cruel to mock someone for how they write. I remember once a poster was getting mocked for not using punctuation or something and it turned out she was unable to type due to a disability and was using some kind of speaking software that types as you speak. I don't think that is the case here but maybe some people should think a bit more before jumping in with horrible comments.

I'm at a loss as to what the fuck is being discussed on this thread. Seriously. Not mocking the op, but can someone give a rundown of what happened?

Testicle, I think I was the poster who pointed out the poster using voice recognition software as it was it was very obvious to me.

On this occasion, I'm afraid I thought the OP may have been enjoying a tipple....

Op is close to cousin Mary. They often talk. Mary hasn't told op that her (Mary's) brother is becoming a dad. Op is upset about that and feels mary doesn't feel as close to her as she does to Mary. Op's whole family live in one village except op and she feels left out. For those still wondering.

Ok all it's not really ok to mock people for their use of language. Some people find written communication harder than others.

This.

I recognise OP and this is how she posts, her written skills aren't great and its not because she's drunk.

I agree people are being a bit harsh about the writing style, it's not relevant.

OP, some family members value the family links and regular communication more than others. Family is obviously important to you and you want to feel connected to your cousins, but they may be a bit less thoughtful in their communication. It's hard, but don't take it personally.

The same with the wedding, it's because you are family she could get away with spending more time with friends, because you are a constant so sometimes will be taken for granted.

They thought you knew about the baby (and actually, you did) so it's not worth getting upset about.

So why isn't Mary upset at the brother (also her cousin)? Why is Mary the problem?

OP, I am going to send you some because I think you are having a hard time from posters on here, and I don't think you deserve it. I am sorry you are feeling left out by your cousin - it was probably completely unintentional. She forgot there was no other way you would have known, and just assumed you would already know.

As for the wedding - wedding days are mad. I have yet to see a Bride and Groom who manage to spend enough time talking to any of the people they want to. Just because she didn't manage to sit and have a gossip with you doesn't mean she didn't want to!

Not even the title of this thread makes sense. Is voice recognition software to blame for the 11 exclamation marks too?

After all that...

YABU.

Good morning everyone. Have a & then have another one .
FWIW, I think that wedding days are hectic, cut the bride & groom some slack.
The baby news isn't Let's Call Her Mary's to tell.
Let's Call Her Mary might wrongly presume that you know.
Let's Call Her Mary might have been told to keep the baby news to herself.
Don't take umbrage at the drop of a hat & have another .