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AIBU?

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am ? i am? annoyed !!!!!!!!!!!

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creamponies · 17/12/2015 22:33

ok We as a family and a good number of cousins that are in similarly age with us all and we used to spend various of long summer holidays of hanging out.

anyone we tried to arrange catch ups and etc.

my first cousin got married last year.
And i went to her hens. in a different county and her wedding again spending several nights in a hotelx

I wanted to go and i did enjoyed myself but as i was on a fixed income there was a considerable sum to me but i scrimped.

Hens was fine.
I WAS however put out of her wedding as she the bride. Spended more time with her Friends and it was party wedding she had the celebrations with her immediately family the day before. Which was fine but personally i would had have the day and be done with. No proper seating and and everyone grabbing food from where they could take it. AND SHE didn't even say goodbye to everyone at the breakfast table as she was hungover!!!!
so we fb chatted and i found out from a mutual cousin that she will be a aunt over in January and that was about a month ago. Which is a blessing and a joyous occasion. blah blah well we had chatted on and off so i gave her a few texts but i wanted her to tell me her good news and we chatted on fb about various things.
Explained to me that she loves her marraige life and they have plenty of time to have children.

I said you would be a great mum etc and not a word from her that she be a aunt her rest of a family arent on facebook and her mum and my mum arent close. So that was that until today she text me im a aunty and i replied what? and she explained blah blah and i said whate? are you only telling me this now?
i didn't even she was pregnant her db wife? oh she said did you not know? i thought everyone knew (it wasnt any other reference anywhere or i would have picked on it) I SAID no i didnt your the only one of your family that talks to me.? they rest live around 300 miles.

Oh yea she says i didn't think like that i thought my mum might have told our mutual aunt and she will mentioned to your mum but i forget that our mums dont talk (there are sisters)
blah blah about keeping it quiet which is (understandably after a certain amount time unless your showing) ah sure it was on the cards. married,house
so i replyed after congrats to her saying if you ever get pregnant please tell me and not when the baby is born. and she was oh yea blah blah but im was so furious that i said had to go for a party. i THINK THAT WAS LOUSY TBH couldnt even say im going to be a aunt soon

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NeedAScarfForMyGiraffe · 17/12/2015 22:50

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AnchorDownDeepBreath · 17/12/2015 22:50

Erm..if she was pregnant, it would be a little understandable to be miffed that she didn't tell you, but she does get to choose who she tells news too. It's not even her baby, though. She's going to be an aunt. She's probably only telling people who will meet the baby? It doesn't sound like you will be in contact with the baby at all.

If you haven't been on the gin, I think you're over thinking this and blending it with other issues go the nth degree

TurnOffTheTv · 17/12/2015 22:50

its my first cousin that was having a baby her brother but his wife

I'm voting drunk.

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creamponies · 17/12/2015 22:50

first stop with the troll references
its down right insulting im not a troll and you wouldnt like if you posted on a forum and ppl kept reffereing you as a troll you will not like it.
and if you think i am then not to bother to respond
im real and i am hurt it was her brother wife i cant be any clearer than that who is my first cousin

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munkisocks · 17/12/2015 22:51

I understood it! Yay me

Tbh like 3 babies have been born in my dh's family that he forgot to tell me about until after they were actually born, didn't bother mentioning pregnancy. These were all his cousins. He's useless haha.

CuttedUpPear · 17/12/2015 22:51

Here's some full stops
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AND HERE'S SOME CAPITAL LETTERS

HTH

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creamponies · 17/12/2015 22:52

i will gladly add someone on mm as a friend on facebook if you think i am a troll
facebook pm me if you want i have no problems with that

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Quiero · 17/12/2015 22:52

Oh ok, so you only speak to one cousin but her brother (who is obviously also your cousin) has became a father and she didn't tell you.

Maybe he didn't want people to know? Maybe she didn't feel it was her place to tell you?

Either way, if you don't actually speak directly to the cousin who's had the baby, it's all a bit of a storm in a teacup.

The wedding bit is irrelevant really. I'd just let it go if I were you.

TwoSmellyDogs · 17/12/2015 22:52

Good God. What ARE you on about Sharon OP? Seriously - can't make head or tail of that lot! Step away from the Lidl Cherry brandy!

goodnightdarthvader1 · 17/12/2015 22:52

No one called you a troll, but everyone is saying you make no chuffing sense.

Anyway, YABU. HTH.

Puffpastry1 · 17/12/2015 22:52

Are you, are you, really though are you annoyed

ghnocci · 17/12/2015 22:53

Maybe your family don't tell you news because they can't understand your replies?

MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 17/12/2015 22:54

If she is your first cousin, then surely so is her brother. So it was his news to tell, not hers.

Imknackeredzzz · 17/12/2015 22:54

Sorry creamponies but I can't understand a word you are saying

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 17/12/2015 22:54

I am baffled too - I can't make head or tail of this.

Creamponies - you can't control what other people do - how they organise their wedding, who they tell about pregnancies etc - all you can do is control your reaction to them. You can decide to carry on stewing over these very minor things, or you can decide they are not worth getting worked up about, and that you are not going to get cross/upset about it any more.

Take a deep breath and move on.

ilovesooty · 17/12/2015 22:54

It does sound confusing but is it really necessary to snipe at the OP for how she expresses herself?

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creamponies · 17/12/2015 22:56

everyone knew about it there are from a small village in ireland. we around 300 miles away. i am close to my first cousin lets name her mary and she regularly chats to me on facebook.
I pissed off that she couldn't mentioned about it to me. HER ONLY BROTHER AND HIS WIFE ARENT ON facebook. which is why i didnt know about it but everyone else knew if you get me.

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Puffpastry1 · 17/12/2015 22:56

RiverTam · 17/12/2015 22:57

That is utter gibberish from beginning to end. I really don't want to be the punctuation police but that is all simply impossible to comprehend.

hesterton · 17/12/2015 22:58

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MidniteScribbler · 17/12/2015 22:58

Spelling, punctuation, grammar. All vitally important things that help when you expect people to understand what you are prattling on about.

goodnightdarthvader1 · 17/12/2015 22:59

Oh, on that basis, YADBU.

Quiero · 17/12/2015 22:59

I'm going to apologise because I think I've set the tone by posting first.

For anyone who still doesn't get it..just to stop a million people posting the same shit.

OP feels that she is close to her cousin and went out of the way to celebrate her wedding even though she felt the cousin wasn't grateful. She talks regularly to her and feels hurt that she didn't mention that her brother had become a father.

Sparklingbrook · 17/12/2015 22:59

I don't understand any of it. So I don't know if YABU or not.

hesterton · 17/12/2015 23:00

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