AIBU for living in a shit hole?

[Cuppaand2biscuits]

Posting here for traffic. My house has got into such a mess, literally every surface or corner is cluttered with crap. Not actual rubbish but toys, clothes, junk.
Can someone please help me and tell me where to start? I need a big kick up the bum.

I feel your pain. I made a start a few months ago but got sidelined with a stressful tribunal for my sons statement.

I'm a hoarder and my mate bought me the Kondo book for Christmas! I have lots half my presents I bought in my hoard....

I am going to try to do a area a day until Christmas then after the new year I am going to get rid and try the Kondo reading the first few pages I wanted to slap her and I am am total against violence

All you do is try. It's that or end up on one of those hoarding programs when you realise you lost the kids in the mess of their rooms a few months ago.....

My DH absolutely refuses to declutter. He says he likes being surrounded by his "stuff" and wouldn't want to live in what he calls an "ikea showroom". The loft is full of boxes of old magazines, festival T shirts from 20 years ago, bike parts, airfix models in various states of completion, sports gear etc etc etc. Even if things don't fit or are broken or obsolete (thinking of the stack of old computer disks here) he argues that they will be useful one day or interesting to own. How do you crack someone like this? I can't really throw away things that aren't mine but the clutter constantly threatens to take over and is very hard work to keep at bay at times.

Just done my first tip run - car full to the brim with crap! It felt great and made me want to keep going. Just even the feeling of the car being lighter after driving away, wow!

I love going to the tip. It makes me happy

I take my stuff to the charity shop one or two bags at a time (can walk to a couple from my plage of work). I have an oxfam 'tag your bag' thingie which means they can claim gift aid on my donations.

'emergancy tidies' where you just bung all the stuff somewhere & then clean is great when you have friends coming round, but those bags or boxes can be a bugger to sort through later... I'd recommend trying to do one area at a time, such as your dining table or maybe by your chair, then moving onto the next area. little by little it can be done.

I used to hang on to stuff for far too long - now my mantra is 'if in doubt, throw it out'!