This is weird right?

[TheTravellingLemon]

I found out this week that my ex has just had a little girl and given her my name. Is this weird? It's weird right?

We split up a good 10 years ago and have since each gone on to get married and have our own families but it's still weird isn't it? We were together for 7 years and we were very serious with an awfully messy breakup.

To be clear, before I get flamed for some unforeseen reason, I don't care, it's just odd. Isn't it? Or AIBU?

I think that's pretty offensive to lemon she hasn't said anything that has made her come across as "Mrs Bucket" or that she doesn't care about SEN. She isn't, as far as I can tell, your sister. You're projecting unnecessarily. And I have a lot of big issues in my life, I still don't get upset about people posting trivial stuff. I even do it myself.

Depends:

If you have a unique or highly distinctive name that can only have been associated with you (Shaniqu'a, Misty-Rain, Helgatrude etc). Weird.

If you have a popular pleasant name (that his dw loves) - Imogen, Rosie, Grace, Emily etc . Not weird.

Coincidence.

I wouldn't think it's weird at all. Surely he and his family will have come across/known others with this name in the last 10 years. And even if people do think if you initially when they hear the name they will soon think of the little girl first when they hear it. Even my longest, shittiest behaving ex from ten years ago is "just somebody that I used to know" and his name has no bearing on me or my family nowadays..

I had an significant relationship with a guy with an unusual and to me, very pleasing sounding name.

Sometimes, when Im considering names for my hypothetical future children, I think of that name and wonder if other people would find it weird if I used it.

I have zero interest in him, or remembering him or anything like that, I just like the name. And we only broke up 5 years ago (though it was a very 'final' break up, with me leaving with no feelings for him or regrets, and we have had no contact since).

It really is possible to like a name that belonged to someone you knew without them personally having anything to do with it.

I have other exes where there is more 'rawness' to the breakup, whose names I would never consider using due to the association\painful memories, and names that have been 'tainted' by belonging to school bullies, etc, so I do understand, but I don't feel that way about all my exes.

Only on mumsnet can I go from thinking it's weird to have an ex give his child the same name as me to being accused of not caring about SEN or the bigger issues in one leap .

Seriously weird. users post that is!
The name thing is a bit weird too

I think you are all misinterpreting my post (?intentionally?). If you read it again I was talking about how being on mumsnet gives me an insight into other people's views on things and has enabled me to feel less frustrated by people getting worked up about the small stuff.

I used my sister as an example of someone who I often find hard to understand but that coming on here has helped me to understand her a bit more, that was where the reference to SEN came in.

I still don't think it's weird at all that someone has called their child the same name as someone they used to go out with, I still think it's more weird to given this more than a second thought.

I now think it's weird that people have interpreted my description of one thing my sister does as being an accusation that someone completely unrelated doesn't care about SEN. Perhaps you personalise things too much?

I suggested recently to my ex that he named his expected baby girl after me (we are on good terms, it was a joke, they are struggling for names they like) and his response was 'yeah bet the wife would LOVE that'. We were together for a long time and broke up a long time ago so similar circumstances. So yes, in the opinion of me (and my ex!) it is really bloody weird! Unlessperhaps his wife isn't aware of your name (but that would be a bit odd given you were together for so long).