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To say that 'fart' is not an appropriate word for a 2yo?

271 replies

IcecreamBus · 03/12/2015 20:53

Basically, DH thinks it's fine to say farty-farty whenever DD has wind, which she thinks is hilarious and now copies.

I've said that I don't think it's a nice word for a child to learn. My argument is that fart is along the same lines as 'crap', not offensive as an adult but you wouldn't want your toddler saying it. He says it's not the same at all and that fart is utterly non-offensive. It's not a huge deal, we're kind of just a bit bemused with each other's views over it. So who is being unreasonable?

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squoosh · 04/12/2015 11:45

Seriously. 'bottom burp' is far more uncouth than 'fart'!

squoosh · 04/12/2015 11:46

and 'pump' means shag.

reni2 · 04/12/2015 11:59

I agree squoosh bottom burp is gross. What's a shit, a bottom puke?

Ahardmanisgoodtofind · 04/12/2015 12:00

Was a swear word when I was a child (Am 30) we use trump,and thinking about it i don't know why. Although ds just shouts "pooh-y stinky dsis/dog/complete stranger in the shop, now say scuse Me". Blush

KondosSecretJunkRoom · 04/12/2015 12:04

YABU.

My 22mo loves the words poo and fart, words that allowed him to coin the new word 'poo-fart' when he had diahorrea. Which, regardless of any delicate sensibilities, you have to agree, is rather accurate.

SlaggyIsland · 04/12/2015 12:05

It's only on MN that I discovered that "fart" is considered rude by some people. It certainly never was when I was going up.
"Trump" is awful, makes me think of someone's arse cheeks smacking together with the force of the wind expulsion, "parp" is what you'd find in the little arse-speech bubble thing if a cartoon character farts, and "pump" is shag in Scotland.
As for "fluff".... It's not cotton wool balls that come out of anyone's ring now is it!

rageagainsttheBIL · 04/12/2015 13:47

I have to say I think of pop and trump etc as very bourgeois. All the posh and salt of the earth types I know say fart. Call it what it is.

McColonel · 04/12/2015 13:52

In our house we say "anal belch"

squoosh · 04/12/2015 13:56
Grin

What about 'rectal repeat'?

TesticleOfObjectivity · 04/12/2015 13:59

I hate the action and all words for it. I have a real thing about it, like a real problem. I don't know why. I can occasionally say the f word but I have to say it really quickly. My least hated way of saying it is blow off. I'm 28 btw.

My dp and dd find them hilarious and when she's talking I imagine they'll have a host of names for them while I sit and quietly cringe away in a corner.

TesticleOfObjectivity · 04/12/2015 13:59

When she starts talking I mean.

celtictoast · 04/12/2015 14:12

YANBU

DancingDinosaur · 04/12/2015 14:20

We say fart. Its not a swear word. I'm 46.

ofallthenerve · 04/12/2015 14:21

I never understand people who think 'parp', or 'trump', 'bottom burp' (!) or 'windy pops' is somehow more refined than 'fart'.

Me neither! What is even more hilarious to me about this thread is the number of people calling 'trump' / 'parp' / 'pump' twee, hyacinth bucket like or even (and I snort laugh just thinking about it) bourgeois. Haaaaaaaahahahahahahaha! That honestly nearly made me cry with laughter. Oh you don't say fart? How bourgeois. I say fart. I'm so chic and avant gard Grin. I bet Sartre said fart. Fartre? Teeeheeheeee. Such a funny thread. Who knew there were so many subtle nuances to breaking wind / passing gas / whatever. It's really made me laugh - in a good way. Thank you MN world!

Lozza1990 · 04/12/2015 14:24

Another one who hates any word associated with the action. This is the first time I have ever heard of the word fart being offensive. They are all the same IMO and tbh I think anything else sounds even more cringey. I'm 25.

DancingDinosaur · 04/12/2015 14:24
Grin
Topseyt · 04/12/2015 14:37

Badger!! Xmas Grin Air buffet!! Xmas Grin

I have never badgered in my life, I don't think.

Is DH actually farting when he pumps up his bicycle tyres, or the car tyres?

For me pumps were the small black shoes I wore with my PE kit whilst still at primary school during the early seventies. I never managed to wear farts on my feet. Xmas Grin

My parents did consider fart to be a slightly rude word, but they use it themselves now, and I consider it perfectly acceptable.

Reapwhatyousow · 04/12/2015 14:40

I was brought up with "fart" and "let off" Born in the first half of the 1960's.
When my mother was a little girl (she will be 90 next birthday) she wrote a poem with my Grandfather, a no nonsense farmer, that has since been memorized by every small child born into the family and is usually recited with great relish!

"A Fart"

A fart is but a breeze,
It gives the belly ease,
It warms the britches,
Breaks the stitches
And suffocates the fleas!

AnnPerkins · 04/12/2015 14:46

That's brilliant Reapwhatyousow Grin

Oh God, my mum says 'fuff'. There is no word that better describes a silent but violent one. But I'm sure that isn't Mum's intention when she says it.

CoffeeChocolateWine · 04/12/2015 14:47

I don't tend to use the word fart as I don't particularly like it, but I don't find it offensive. It's one of those words that doesn't sound quite right coming out of a child's mouth (I know people disagree, but bum falls into this category for me too!)

When my DS was little, we used to call them whizzpops (Roald Dahl fans!) and that kind of stuck for a few years. But at school all his friends call them farts so he's started using that word now. I don't mind as it doesn't sound so bad coming out of a 7yo's mouth, but I still cringe a bit when my 3yo copies!

Crap is a far worse word than fart. I would mind if I heard my DS said that!

DownstairsMixUp · 04/12/2015 15:02

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Pranmasghost · 04/12/2015 15:51

I'm 71 and prefer 'fart' to the alternatives. I grew up with 'pump' dh used 'trump' my dc used whatever they though of, it wasn't a regular topic of conversation to be honest. Dgc say 'fart' if anything.

queenmools · 04/12/2015 16:17

I wasn't allowed to say fart, bum or poo growing up. I've no idea why as I have 3 older siblings and heard my share of proper swearing. We said bottom, fluffed a trump and jobby! I hate jobby now.

As a parent I say bum and poo but still draw the line at fart. We say beep beep.

MyNewBearTotoro · 04/12/2015 16:18

Do (2.4 yrs) says trump but I wouldn't mind if she said fart. Also wouldn't mind her saying crap - never knew it to be considered a swear word before.

Think the only words I would really consider swear words, and thus really mind DD saying, are shit, fuck, cunt, bollocks, bitch and bastard.

I admit it sounds a bit uncouth to hear a toddler say things like 'oh crap' or 'damn' or 'bloody hell' but certainly wouldn't have me pearl clutching (more likely if be trying to hide my giggles).

squoosh · 04/12/2015 16:21

Queenmools that's so funny! 'Jobby' seems much earthier shall we say than 'poo' Grin