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To say that 'fart' is not an appropriate word for a 2yo?

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IcecreamBus · 03/12/2015 20:53

Basically, DH thinks it's fine to say farty-farty whenever DD has wind, which she thinks is hilarious and now copies.

I've said that I don't think it's a nice word for a child to learn. My argument is that fart is along the same lines as 'crap', not offensive as an adult but you wouldn't want your toddler saying it. He says it's not the same at all and that fart is utterly non-offensive. It's not a huge deal, we're kind of just a bit bemused with each other's views over it. So who is being unreasonable?

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Katedotness1963 · 04/12/2015 19:03

And if it was a noisy one, reference was made to a passing "moosie on a motorbike". Surely we can't be the only ones...

mathanxiety · 04/12/2015 19:13

Windies were burps when I was small.

Anyone use 'S-B-D'? 'Silent but deadly'. I heard this from DD1's preschool teacher.

On the theme of 'anal belch' and 'rectal repeat', how about 'blast from the repast'?

reni2 · 04/12/2015 20:08

To all those accusing others of pearl clutching: You are such super cool devil-may-care bohemians. Well done you.

That's what you were after, right?

Topseyt · 04/12/2015 20:42

Of course, reni2. Xmas Grin

liz70 · 04/12/2015 20:44

Proud pearl-clutcher here. It isn't that consider it a swear word, just rather crass and I'd prefer DD3 not to use it (and DDs 1 and 2, obviously, but they're teenagers, so take great delight in being foul and crude. >:-/). I can't abide the word "snot" either - it just makes me cringe. Ooh, I'm so prissy, me.

Beyond a certain age open flatulence isn't generally tolerated, either. Nobody in the household has bowel issues, so an inability to sit about in company and let rip carthorse style while watching Doctor Who or whatever doesn't seem to have had any ill effects on any of us. :-P But (cart)horses for courses, I guess.

My older brother delighted in using "S.B.D." when we were children. :-D

HippyPottyMouth · 04/12/2015 20:51

I wouldn't like my 2yo to say it. I wouldn't say it at work or in front of Grandma, and I would rather my toddler didn't use words that aren't suitable for all audiences until she gets that concept. It's wind round here.

reni2 · 04/12/2015 20:52

At age 2 I ignore them at age 4 I start asking not to be exposed to them if at all possible (go outside, go the loo...) and make sure they will not be celebrated or much commented on. Kids can let rip if alone with other kids. And if I must name them they are farts.

JeSuisUnaStubbs · 04/12/2015 20:58

I really hate it as a word. We say Trump.

I will happily say fuck or shit or bastard or twat (not in front of the kids obviously!) but the word fart will never cross my lips.

CastaDiva · 04/12/2015 21:01

I'd rather my three-year-old said fuck then trump.

See what I did there?

I would, though.

cruikshank · 04/12/2015 21:10

We had a variation on SBD (which we also used) - SBV - silent but violent.

BelindaBagwash · 04/12/2015 21:17

We weren't allowed to say fart when we were kids. My mother used to announce "Who's peeped?". Goodness knows where she got that one from.

I can't remember my own kids saying it, but wouldn't have been particularly bothered if they had.

An XiL used to say "botty burps" which was about the naffest thing I'd ever heard!

Lndnmummy · 04/12/2015 21:19

My ds keeps saying "oh dear mummy my bum did a burp"

Patapouf · 04/12/2015 21:46

I have never ever heard the word fart referred to as offensive or as a swear word and I'm mid twenties!
I was definitely not allowed to say crap growing up though.

Hygellig · 04/12/2015 22:12

My children (5 and 2) say fart. I don't really have a problem with it (I have a vague memory of saying 'pop' when I was little). Unfortunately, DH is quite foul-mouthed and the word fart is the least of my worries!

HeteronormativeHaybales · 04/12/2015 22:20

I've taught my 10yo, for purposes of linguistic and cultural enrichment (bilingual, living in a non-English-speaking country) the rhyme beginning 'Baked beans, good for your heart'. But I'd feel a bit odd teaching a toddler the word.

PresidentUnderwood · 04/12/2015 22:26

My MILand DH insist on calling wind 'trumps' or 'pump' and it makes my teeth itch. It's total Mrs Bucket crap.

It's a fart. Fart, fart, farty, fart ,FART.

LeaLeander · 04/12/2015 22:30

My grandmother, born 1910, if the subject had to be mentioned (i.e. in training a child to leave the room should that happen, etc.) would say "Did someone drop a rose?"

vitalite · 04/12/2015 23:01

Words don't have to be swear words to be inappropriate for small children though. I don't consider fart to be a swear word but I still didn't encourage my kids to say it when they were toddlers (even though they both thought it was the most hilarious word EVER). But I also didn't let them say "shut up" or "oh my god" or "hate" in any context.

yolofish · 05/12/2015 00:17

well, I'm 54, my mother is 85, and a fart is a fart. cant stand those twee euphemisms like bottom burp or trump!

SirChenjin · 05/12/2015 09:44

Why not just say break wind? All of these - farts, trumps, blowing off etc are well known as terms that describe the wind that comes out of your bum, so why not just use the correct term?

WhiffyBiffer · 05/12/2015 09:50

Yabu. I think it's a great word.

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