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To say that 'fart' is not an appropriate word for a 2yo?

271 replies

IcecreamBus · 03/12/2015 20:53

Basically, DH thinks it's fine to say farty-farty whenever DD has wind, which she thinks is hilarious and now copies.

I've said that I don't think it's a nice word for a child to learn. My argument is that fart is along the same lines as 'crap', not offensive as an adult but you wouldn't want your toddler saying it. He says it's not the same at all and that fart is utterly non-offensive. It's not a huge deal, we're kind of just a bit bemused with each other's views over it. So who is being unreasonable?

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rubymallorywhite · 03/12/2015 22:05

I don't really appreciate toilet humour but even I can't fail to be amused at my 2.5year old who thinks farting is hilarious, especially if I do it & blame her !
Standard chat " Do you have your farty pants on?"
"No, Mummy does"
God help some of the posters on this post that feel fart is a swear word if they ever heard actual real swearing!

exWifebeginsat40 · 03/12/2015 22:05

when DD was little we didn't allow shut up or stupid. i don't recall getting uptight about any particular guff-word.

at 15 she now swears like a fucking navvy. but not in public, or around someone who would be offended. mostly.

pick your battles!

SeldomAthleticFC · 03/12/2015 22:06

We are definitely farters here. Recently, DD (7) farted in a cup and made DS (5) smell it. That was about the funniest thing I'd ever seen. Grin

I like carpet frogs. We sometimes blame barking spiders.

AudTheDeepMinded · 03/12/2015 22:07

I was brought up to regard 'fart' and 'knackered' as swear words (I'm 39) but would use both in daily conversation now, as do the DCs. Youngest DC (5 months) is known as 'Mr Fartypants' or 'Farty McFarty of the Clan McFarty'. As kids we used 'fluff' instead.

Minibelle · 03/12/2015 22:12

We say fart or fluffed Hmm absolutely hate trumped and pumped makes me feel sick.

Bambooshoots14 · 03/12/2015 22:13

I'm 30 and my ds (1 yo) says fart. Nursery say pop but I don't find fart offensive and it's what we've always said

FrancesHaHa · 03/12/2015 22:14

I'm 40, and thought it was a standard word most people used. I remember a few people saying trump as a kid, but that's pretty twee. Dd (4) is also a 'farty pants'

toffeeboffin · 03/12/2015 22:17

Personally I think that's hilarious but I am rather childish.

She's only young once, OP.

Kampeki · 03/12/2015 22:17

Maybe it's more a thing for the over 40s who grew up with it being seen as naughty.

Well, I'm over 40 and don't consider it to be offensive in any way. I think it's probably a class thing more than an age thing tbh.

totalrecall1 · 03/12/2015 22:17

I hate windy pops - fart for me any day. I like guff too though

rageagainsttheBIL · 03/12/2015 22:23

Sorry if I'm repeating others but the problem with fluff, pop, puff and trump is that they all mean other things.

A fart is a fart is a fart - no ambiguity, no bullshit.

mikado1 · 03/12/2015 22:23

I am getting sick at thought of mouth fartsand bottom burps-grrross! So much worse than fart!! My ds says toot but thinks nothing of the actual act. My fil says 'banging'!!! Grin Growing up we said 'guns in the house'! Grin Lol at 'personals'!! I am guffawing loudly next to my own baby farty pants!

rageagainsttheBIL · 03/12/2015 22:24

Pump? Do people really say that?

I do quite like guff though

rubymallorywhite · 03/12/2015 22:26

Pumping where I live is something entirely different ......

JasperDamerel · 03/12/2015 22:28

Yes, guff doesn't raise my hackles like parp etc.

Lucyccfc · 03/12/2015 22:29

I am over 40 and don't particularly like the words fart, crap or knackered. We tend to say trump and oh boy do we use that word a lot. My 10 year old DS has had the most horrendous wind recently and the smell of his trumps have lingered around the house for ages.

Knackered is a word I hate. DS came home from school one day to say his teacher had told him off for saying 'Jesus Christ' when he couldn't get the laptop to work at school, but in the next breath (the teacher who told him off) said she was knackered.

Weird how some words are ok to some people and not to others.

DS has a good friend who's parents say it's ok for him to swear. He uses the words crap, shit, bollocks, bloody, bugger, knackered and fart. Very strange.

OhPuddleducks · 03/12/2015 22:30

We say toot. sort of came about it from trumpet I suppose....

SlipperyJack · 03/12/2015 22:31

Sumer is icumen in,
Lhude sing cuccu!
Groweþ sed and bloweþ med

And springþ þe wde nu,
Sing cuccu!
Awe bleteþ after lomb,
Lhouþ after calue cu.
Bulluc sterteþ, bucke uerteþ*,
Murie sing cuccu!
Cuccu, cuccu, wel singes þu cuccu;

Ne swik þu nauer nu.

Sing cuccu nu. Sing cuccu.
Sing cuccu. Sing cuccu nu!

*Which, as any folk singer will tell you, means "fart" ("verteth"). If it was good enough in the Middle Ages for things to be farting, it's good enough now.

IcecreamBus · 03/12/2015 22:33

I like guff too - my DB used to say this all the time, although out of earshot of our DM.

I've never seen trump as twee - windy pops etc, yes...I couldn't say them without giggling. In fact I like Trump even more because of Donald. Pretty funny that he spurts hot air that usually stinks too!

I actually say fart myself as an adult, so maybe it is just a childhood reaction thing.

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Sallystyle · 03/12/2015 22:34

My mum tells my children off when they say fart. She would tell me off too.

I still let them say fart but they make an effort to say trump around nanny if the subject comes up.

Sallystyle · 03/12/2015 22:35

Guff is a horrid word.

IcecreamBus · 03/12/2015 22:37

Yikes! Lucy I would definitely be clutching my pearls in horror if DD came out with shit, bugger or bollocks. Maybe fart isn't so bad by comparison.

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DixieDarling · 03/12/2015 22:37

DD is nearly 2 and a half. She says fart or usually fartarella - our own made up word (that will out me, better name change pronto!) I think it's hilarious!

Indole · 03/12/2015 22:44

It is a fart, though. We all know what it means. It's not a swear word. Trump and pops and stuff are just really really twee. Why is it so bad? I don't get it (and I speak as someone who was never allowed to say fart as a kid). It's just not that bad. Totally on board with not letting your preschooler say bloody and bollocks (although mine actually did say bloody at the doctor's once and I was quite ashamed though he found it v v v amusing). At 9, I don't really mind if my child says bloody or crap as long as it's appropriate and not at school. Even nine year olds have to let off a bit of steam sometimes.

AnnPerkins · 03/12/2015 22:46

Farts here (mid-40s, don't do class so no idea about that).

I think trump and pump sound far uglier than fart.

Didn't Rik Mayall coin bottom burp? It has a whiff(!) of the Young Ones about it.