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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To not take our pet back home

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Teenagecrisisagain · 30/11/2015 12:01

We have been having a huge amount of work done in the house for the last few months.

A few weeks ago (when it was very disruptive/dusty/noisy) we asked dm if she would mind having our rabbit till the work is finished. She agreed. He has a big indoor cage and an outside run. Dh dropped it all round to dm

I go there after school drop off to feed him and dh goes through clean litter tray etc when it needs doing. At weekend dm feeds him.

The work is nowhere near finished and our house is an absolute tip atm
Dm has declared today the rabbit has to be gone by Christmas ??? She knows we are nowhere near completion of the work and that we have a house full at Xmas.

Dm in the other hand will be alone in a big three bed house and is complaining she wants her house 'tidy' for Xmas (by 'tidy' she just means no rabbit as house is spotless except for one room where dsis has stored furniture for 2.5 years)

AIBU to just say no? If we don't actually take him home she has no way of getting him back to ours herself and I'm annoyed as we had agreed she would have him till the house was ready?

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EvansOvalPiesYumYum · 30/11/2015 17:33

Aww, thanks Backaway - see you in your next life then
Hot water bottles are ready and waiting ...

futureme · 30/11/2015 17:33

Just spend an hour clearing a space tonight and pick it up tomorrow when going to go feed it. I'm not sure why you've turned t into such a drama. Your mum wants you to pick up the rabbit and you seem determined to draw it out. I dont see why it's so difficult to make some space for the cage by just moving some bits for now and sorting it "properly" later.

EvansOvalPiesYumYum · 30/11/2015 17:37

I'm not sure why there is an issue still though Evans

There still appears to only be an issue with you, Teenager
Every solution provided to you has been met with obstruction and obstacles. You wanted everyone to agree with your opening post, but they didn't (not all) and you have spent the entire time defending your position, even though most posters have advised otherwise, and offered alternative solutions, every one of which you have shot down.

I feel sorry for your rabbit, and also for your Mum.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 30/11/2015 17:39

The op should be ashamed of how she treats her pet Emma? That is honestly one of the best ridiculous over-reactions I've seen in a long time. She's been unreasonable with regards to her mum but that is honestly such a stupid thing to say. If anything she cares too much, won't let him outside because it's cold.

EskiDecaff · 30/11/2015 17:40

Or consider bunny hotel..

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Teenagecrisisagain · 30/11/2015 17:40

I've said I was irritated but that I will take him home before Xmas like she's asked !

Just needed a vent that's all

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Backawaynow2 · 30/11/2015 17:44

That's the best offer I have had in a long time Evans

Glad it's sorted op.

Cornettoninja · 30/11/2015 17:44

YABU. There's no if's or but's about it. Your pet, your responsibility and if someone (anyone) decides to withdraw a favour then you respect that and comply. You are not doing them a favour.

There's clearly a backstory here, but it appears that you do nothing to negate the drama, on the contrary you seem to fan the flames. Your mum has given you ample notice to make alternative arrangements yet you seem to have to make a point of not responding to her 'clicking her fingers'? Huh? You're the one turning it into an argument!

Her behavior outside of this particular scenario is neither here nor there. Tbh I can't help but think by the information you've given on this thread alone that it's very much the pot calling the kettle black.

CallingAllEmergencyKittens · 30/11/2015 17:46

Emergency kitten reporting for duty

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Teenagecrisisagain · 30/11/2015 17:46

Definitely not a case of the pot calling the kettle black

I'm nothing like dm thank god

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CallingAllEmergencyKittens · 30/11/2015 17:49

Reinforcements needed

krystellie · 30/11/2015 17:53

I have rabbits and I'm always desperate to see them when we've been away (having put them in bunny boarding).

I'm unsure why the OP chose to have a pet in the first place if they view him as a burden.

XiCi · 30/11/2015 17:57

Well I wouldn't have had the rabbit in my house for a few days let alone a few weeks. She has done you a massive favour for which you seem very ungrateful.

All animal owners say their animals don't smell, and they all do, very much so. If she has no animals herself the smell will be very noticeable, which is why she probably asked your dh to go and clean the hutch again.
You should go and get your rabbit and take her a present for looking after him this long.

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Teenagecrisisagain · 30/11/2015 18:00

No, she called dh back just to much our day up and because she wanted a pint of milk and couldn't be bothered to get it herself. Just like she can't paint her own doors, put her bins out or cut her own grass .....

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DeirdreDoo · 30/11/2015 18:02

Fair enough. I just feel very sorry for the rabbit because it is on its own. They need company.

XiCi · 30/11/2015 18:08

They need company.....and so does your mum by the sound of it

TheoriginalLEM · 30/11/2015 18:10

If i were your mother i'd open the door to the hutch and let bugs take his chances quietly rehome him and tell you i let him out

Fairenuff · 30/11/2015 18:12

If you think you know that your mum is manipulative, why would you ask her to do you a favour in the first place? It sounds like you are happy to use her when it suits you, then bad mouth her behind her back.

Backawaynow2 · 30/11/2015 18:17

You all sound a bit barking or maybe squeaking.

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Teenagecrisisagain · 30/11/2015 18:22

Sometimes I think she's changed and then she is just the same and I feel stupid

Yes, we are all barking. Completely. A real dysfunctional family :(

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nortonhouse · 30/11/2015 18:32

callingall
I am by far in the minority here, but I tend to agree with the OP that a caring parent who understood her child's (OP's) situation would help out here however possible - I would do. Housing a bunny under the circumstances - house renovation, small children to look after, etc -doesn't seem a big ask of a parent/grandparent.

SuburbanRhonda · 30/11/2015 18:58

OP, please rehome your rabbit. You just don't have time for him in your schedule. I'm sure this won't be the last time he comes bottom of your list of priorities

DianaTrent · 30/11/2015 19:11

I'd walk away from the thread now, Teenage, I'm getting the impression that you have the bunny problem well in hand and you're mostly upset your Mum can't do one small thing for you when you generally bend over backwards for her. It sounds hurtful. Clearly you don't have much choice in what to do now, but I'm sorry you're feeling hurt and let down. Some of the hyperbole on this thread is impressive even for AIBU and I'm guessing it's not what you need when you're stressed out, hurt and emotional around a poignant anniversary. When life craps on you from a height it's often the little unexpected things that set you off, isn't it? I hope you have a lovely Christmas.

diddl · 30/11/2015 19:16

I think that looking after someone else's pet is always a big ask tbh.

AyeAmarok · 30/11/2015 19:25

OP,call boarding tonight or tomorrow.

Go and get bunny first thing. Take bunny to boarding.

Sort house in your own time.

It'll be less that 10 quid a day, maybe even a fiver.

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