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Original poster

To not take our pet back home

242 replies

Teenagecrisisagain · 30/11/2015 12:01

We have been having a huge amount of work done in the house for the last few months.

A few weeks ago (when it was very disruptive/dusty/noisy) we asked dm if she would mind having our rabbit till the work is finished. She agreed. He has a big indoor cage and an outside run. Dh dropped it all round to dm

I go there after school drop off to feed him and dh goes through clean litter tray etc when it needs doing. At weekend dm feeds him.

The work is nowhere near finished and our house is an absolute tip atm
Dm has declared today the rabbit has to be gone by Christmas ??? She knows we are nowhere near completion of the work and that we have a house full at Xmas.

Dm in the other hand will be alone in a big three bed house and is complaining she wants her house 'tidy' for Xmas (by 'tidy' she just means no rabbit as house is spotless except for one room where dsis has stored furniture for 2.5 years)

AIBU to just say no? If we don't actually take him home she has no way of getting him back to ours herself and I'm annoyed as we had agreed she would have him till the house was ready?

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liinyo · 30/11/2015 12:37

Yabu. Your mum wants a quiet Christmas in her house without your pet., that might be grumpy or inconvenient to you but it is her choice to make. She has been helping you out for a long while and you seem a little ungratefuL. If you are unable to house your own pet perhaps you should pass it on to someone who can?

SoupDragon · 30/11/2015 12:37

She doesn't want your rabbit there any longer.

Be grateful for the weeks she has had it and go and collect your pet.

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Teenagecrisisagain · 30/11/2015 12:38

With the rabbit out of the house we just though go for it. Had a couple of hold ups and it was all meant to be done and finished but now I think it may just be done in time but literally last min the and I didn't want to be rushing around 23/24 dec picking up a rabbit when dh is working up till 24 and da has hospital that day

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Stimpack · 30/11/2015 12:40

I understand it's not convenient but you can't leave the rabbit there.

ForCh1na · 30/11/2015 12:40

It actually doesn't matter if she's being mean of what you'd have done with the rabbit if she hadn't agreed or how awkward she is or her plans for Christmas. It's irrelevant.

It's her house and she doesn't want your rabbit in it. You need to remove the rabbit.

DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 30/11/2015 12:42

Your DM helped you out and now has given you ample warning she wants the rabbit gone by Christmas. It's not convenient for you but the rabbit's your responsibility so I'm afraid I'm going to say yabu.

gobbynorthernbird · 30/11/2015 12:43

If the work was supposed to be finished by now, I can see her point.

Also, the whole thing about the DC being sad about a tree strikes me as you trying to emotionally blackmail your DM.

SoupDragon · 30/11/2015 12:43

So, in 25 days you can't possibly get one room suitable to put your pet in?
When you need to have the whole house suitable for visitors.

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Teenagecrisisagain · 30/11/2015 12:44

I didn't actually say that about the tree it's just an example of how dm is about things. Her reaction would be she would rather Dcs upset and she gets her own way

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Anotherusername1 · 30/11/2015 12:44

Do you have a garage? Can bunny go in there? Our rabbit used to live in the garage in the winter (had doors open when car was reversing in so didn't die from exhaust fumes) and outside in cage in the summer. If the cage is adequately secured, foxes are not a problem.

Otherwise find a rabbit boarding place. Some pet shops do them. Or ask a friend? Do you have kids, do they have friends who would love a rabbit temporarily? I don't have pets, but would be happy to look after a rabbit for a few weeks as I'd know it was a temporary commitment and my ds would love it.

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Teenagecrisisagain · 30/11/2015 12:45

Dm dos not looking w how long work would take we told her it would be about three months so she knew it would possibly go over Xmas

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Floggingmolly · 30/11/2015 12:47

You can't host a "full house" for Christmas in a house that's unfit for a rabbit to live in... Confused
Get the fecking rabbit, your mum doesn't want it.

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Teenagecrisisagain · 30/11/2015 12:49

House will probably be just done 23/24 at a push. I dont then want to be rushing round to pick up rabbit of it is. If it's not finished it will be manageable to tidy etc for guests but no idea where the rabbit would then go

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gobbynorthernbird · 30/11/2015 12:49

But it's also an example of your behaviour, that you'd even consider making your mum feel responsible for your DC feelings whilst ignoring hers. And this is a pet that your family should love and certainly think more important than baubles.

Arfarfanarf · 30/11/2015 12:50

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AliceInUnderpants · 30/11/2015 12:51

Where are you all staying while the work is being done?

Arfarfanarf · 30/11/2015 12:52

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KitKat1985 · 30/11/2015 12:54

YABU. It's your pet and your responsibility. It sounds like your Mum has helped you for quite a while but has now had enough. That's fair enough. If you can't have the rabbit at your home for a while then you need to pay to have it boarded.

P.S. I'm also confused as to how your house will be finished enough to have a house full of guests come Christmas but not a rabbit.

tiggytape · 30/11/2015 12:55

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Teenagecrisisagain · 30/11/2015 12:55

We are all at home just all sharing two rooms between us while everything else done

We rented a storage unit for some things and rest of it is just piled up everywhere it's a bit of a disaster zone at the moment just didn't need a rabbit added to it as well!

I'm considering trying to clear playroom but not sure when as always so busy. I can't put him outside dm said if he had a hutch it'd be ok but he would get too cold

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MoriartyIsMyAngel · 30/11/2015 12:56

Can you afford to have him boarded somewhere for a few weeks?

ratspeaker · 30/11/2015 12:57

Have you any friends that could take the rabbit?
I agree with looking at boarding.
Are there any rabbit rescues in your area? Some may take boarders to generate income. Or a city farm? I know the one in our city boards pets reasonably.
Or ask at vets, our vet has a notice board with ads for pet care services.

Are you currently living in your house? If so could you put the bunny in your room?

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Teenagecrisisagain · 30/11/2015 12:58

No room in bedrooms we have dcs on mattresses in there currently

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Backawaynow2 · 30/11/2015 12:58

FFS isyour rabbit 6 foot tall and called Harvey?
If you are having a houseful of humans for Christmas then one small rabbit can't be that much bother.

EvansOvalPiesYumYum · 30/11/2015 12:59

I am really biting my tongue here, but will say, OP, that I think your attitude towards both your Mother and your rabbit absolutely stinks.