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To wonder if teacher was unreasonable

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Parrotparties · 27/11/2015 20:23

A good friend is upset and annoyed after a phone call with a teacher, basically her DD and others were standing round the door at the end of lesson and teacher told them to go and sit down, when they didn't the teacher put her hand on friends DD, friends DD shouted don't touch me.

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Hygge · 27/11/2015 20:57

And also, fucking hell but it's a wonder anybody wants to teach teenagers anymore if this is what they have to put up with.

corlan · 27/11/2015 20:58

Teachers are allowed to touch students.
Student should have done what she was asked.

MidniteScribbler · 27/11/2015 20:59

Teenager is a prat. If she'd done as she was told in the first place there would have been no need. If it's the OP's daughter, then no wonder she has the attitude she does if the OP seriously thinks the teacher needs to apologise.

Noodledoodledoo · 27/11/2015 20:59

Surely that should read the teen should have apologised for not doing as she was asked the first time causing the teacher to have to ask a second time.

ShipwreckedAndComatose · 27/11/2015 21:00

the student should have apologised for not following instructions at the first asking.

ArmchairTraveller · 27/11/2015 21:00

Yes, the teenager was being unreasonable, rude and defiant.
However, the teacher shouldn't have touched her, precisely because of the risk of unfounded accusations and parents like the OP.
It's self-defence on the part of the teacher not to put themselves at risk, because there's little protection against allegations.

dodobookends · 27/11/2015 21:01

shouldn't the teacher have just apologised

Absolutely not. It's the teacher who is in charge, and the teenagers should stop being so insolent and do as they are told!

FoundNeverland · 27/11/2015 21:01

As BigSandy said, who would be a teacher?!

The teenage ought to go in on Monday and apologise. I can't believe her mother isn't already telling her to do this.

Seriously - a hand on a shoulder? There isn't a sane person who would think the teacher is being unreasonable.

londonrach · 27/11/2015 21:01

I hope you asked your friend to get her dd to apologise to the teacher.

tomatotoad · 27/11/2015 21:01

This is the 16 year old dd posting isn't it?

DoreenLethal · 27/11/2015 21:01

No she said don't touch me, so shouldn't the teacher have just apologised

No the student should have sat the fuck down.

Your good friend needs to teach her kid some basic manners.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 27/11/2015 21:02

So, people have told you that the teenager was wrong in her belief that the teacher cannot touch her and that she was wrong to disobey the teacher's reasonable instruction, yet you still think the teacher owes the pupil an apology, Parrot? What on earth for?

The girl owes the teacher an apology for not doing as she was asked.

ShipwreckedAndComatose · 27/11/2015 21:03

One phoned who? The parent or the teacher?

ArmchairTraveller · 27/11/2015 21:03

Misread, parents like the friend of the OP. But the fact that the OP doesn't know who was being unreasonable puts her in the same set IMO.

ilovesooty · 27/11/2015 21:04

I was wondering who initiated the phone call too.

MrsGentlyBenevolent · 27/11/2015 21:04

Are you serious OP? It's no bloody wonder that teachers are having breakdowns and some teens are such rude, entitled arses with attitudes like this. Of course the teacher wasn't being unreasonable. Why don't we just replace all teachers with computers - they couldn't possibly offend anyone's precious little darling.....

AtSea1979 · 27/11/2015 21:04

As others have said your DD friend sounds awful. I'd be advising my DD to distance themselves from this behaviour. I'd also be advising my friend to rein her daughter in.

ghostyslovesheep · 27/11/2015 21:05

put this in perspective - my 13 year old DD was screamed at in the face by her tutor this week - I had a meeting at school today to discuss the issues - the teacher HAD apologised but it transpired my daughter had been a massive cowbag and rude and mouthy - needless to say she spent over an hour with me and her HOH explaining VERY plainly what we thought of her behaviour as she went and apologised afterwards

Respect is earned and teenage girls don't rule school regardless of what they may tell themselves

Pipbin · 27/11/2015 21:05

The teacher should apologise? For what?

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Parrotparties · 27/11/2015 21:06

Teacher rang my friend. Ok thanks, I didn't know if a kid saying don't touch me might have meant that the teacher should have apologised, hard to explain but maybe if she'd been a victim of abuse. This would have brought it back.

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ArmchairTraveller · 27/11/2015 21:07

I'm waiting for the teaching future that Asimov promised me.
Me at home with my terminal and 30 compliant and hard-working students logged on at home. Out of sight and touch. remote.
I could teach in my Onesie and communicate by email.

MythicalKings · 27/11/2015 21:07

Girl was being a cow. Your DF will look a fool if she complains about it.

And why do you think the little madam is due an apology. She sounds awful. I'd be embarrassed to know her.

mrsjanedoe · 27/11/2015 21:08

I hope the kid got detention for shouting at a teacher, when said kid was clearly in the wrong in the first place.

ArmchairTraveller · 27/11/2015 21:09

'maybe if she'd been a victim of abuse. This would have brought it back.'

How likely is that scenario? Do you think that your friend wants the school to go down that route and investigate? Involve SS?

TwoSmellyDogs · 27/11/2015 21:11

For the love of mercy - what a heap of crud! What should the teacher have apologised for? I don't believe there's a 'friend' either. Why isn't the 'friend' posting here?
And stop bloody drip feeding.

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