I might be being a bit... Or a lot U,
But I like to buy certain things for show,
Like I've got certain tea towels, for show.
Certain knives to show
Towels to show,
Cushions also to show.
We have slightly less pretty versions of all these things that are for use, but I do like to keep some things looking nice, like the tea towels that hang in the kitchen and bathroom that look nice and crisp,
I just bought new cushions that were only put on the sofa today. My husband came home and flopped down in his paint covered work clothes, took his boots and socks off, and tried to use one of my new cushions as a footrest.
Not five foot away is a perfectly good foot rest. But he wants to use my cushions.
This set me off, squealing like a banshee that his sweaty smelly feet do not belong on my new cushions, in fact they were moved away so DD didn't cost them in felt tip. And why is he laying on one of them?
He thinks it's U to have cushions that he can't lay on, or rub his feet all over,
I think it's perfectly fine, there are other cushions too, another 6 or 7 in total in the living room, but he surely shouldn't expect to rub his feet on my cushions?? No one wants foot smelling cushions surrounding them??
I might be being quite pedantic, and it might just be that other stuff he does is getting to me, but this is really annoying me as when it gets cold I love to make the house homely and buy nice new cushions and generally nicer for us, and he seems to lack respect for our home.
It's not like he didn't know that I have for show items, I've always been the same the five years I've known him.
Is it that mad to say, them few cushions are for you to pick up sit with on your lap or on the floor, but they're love hearts, I don't want you distorting the shape??
AIBU?
Having for show items in the house...
Unreasonablebetty · 27/11/2015 00:34
Back in the early part of the 20th century, It was near impossible for normal people to keep clean. Water for washing & baths had to be heated on the stove, the loo was outdoors, streets were filthy, work was hard manual labour, heating was by coal fires and there were no vacuum cleaners or spray-and-wipe products. Families would only be clean on Sundays, for church - hence "Sunday best".
It made sense to have one room that stayed clean enough for "best". It was also something of a privilege, as people were raising 6 or more children in two-bedroomed houses: if you had enough space for a room you didn't use, that was something to show off about! I remember people, when I was small, being excited that they could have a "best sitting room" now the kids had left home 
Those rooms had a distinctive smell from being polished once a week and kept closed.
Garlick I totally agree! I haven't read the whole thread. But had many friends growing up in 70's that had "posh" homes compared to me/or much bigger houses with a room spare and were more like my family but had that extra space /room to have a special best room (usually right at the front of the house) and this was a pattern- one room was never sat in /used by any of the family - it was for best and looked different to the rest of the house.
My nan did similar in her old farmhouse eons ago. No one came in through the front door (everyone came in the back) but her front door and hallway looked completely different to the rest of the house (but no one got past the hallway and maybe thought the rest of the house looked the same ( defo didn't)!
I love that about your nan's house, Quartz I'm thinking some posters should go back to keeping the front room for best, so they can let their families be messy in the rest of the house & save their anxiety.
Ugh. I grew up in a house like this and hated it. Told off for using the wrong towel in the bathroom, the wrong tea towel in the kitchen, constantly nagged about not putting anything down on the polished wood sideboard and dining room table (when I complained I was told that it would all be mine one day and I'd appreciate it being kept nice. Er no thanks mum, not that I'd say it to her face but her taste is certainly not my taste). And much more.
It sent me the other way and I have an almost pathological fear of anything matching in my house!
We all call her Hyacinth Bucket. I think she takes it as a compliment
When I was a kid and we used to visit all the old relatives, quite a few of them had their front rooms (in 2 up 2 down houses) for best only. Growing up our front room was also for best only. It was only used on Christmas Day and if my parents had a party.
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Are you me, OP? I do that to my tea towels-they're purple, too! Yanbu at all.
I grew up with stuff for best too. The front room was for best and rarely entered. Sunday clothes were for best. It was the thing where I grew up.
My home is practical but, I think, also for show. I take a great deal of pride in it. I don't see anything wrong with that. It's not perfect-far from it-but it's clean, clutter-free and pleasant to be in. And the decor is well-thought-through. If anyone comes to the door unexpectedly, I get anxious and start tidying like mad. I never leave a cushion unstraightened at night. I wouldn't be able to sleep!
Many people I know are like this. Most of my stuff is in use, though.
I think there is something deeper going on with the OP and her DH though. To me, his behaviour shows a lack of respect for the things which are important to her.
I get the "slob" thing too. My "d"p is spreadeagled across the sofa eating something indefinable out of a plastic container. In the main living area
. I'm coming out in hives!
I do admit to having some things for show 
; we have some books on show that look like we are intelligent the trashy novels that I actually read are in a bookcase upstairs, a set of glasses that only get used at Christmas they have very slim and fragile stems and takeaways are not allowed to be eaten using my decent cutlery!
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For those that want to know what I use instead of t towels, I use kitchen towel, far more hygienic than t towels
Good grief, you must get through tons of the stuff.
I have a thing about towels being used more than once. I certainly wouldn't wipe my hands with a towel and then use it to wipe a plate. Well no, neither would I, but that's why I get through about two tea towels a day, I have loads and they get saved up and thrown in a boil wash boil once a week along with dishcloths, aprons, kitchen hand towels etc., it's all perfectly hygienic.
If I am cooking and I need to quickly wipe my hands without constantly having to wash them then I use a tea towel but not the same one that will be used for drying stuff up.
If I need to dry something I use a different one.
If I've washed my hands and need to dry them I have a small hand towel, not a tea towel, and that will get used for a few days at a time.
I have never wiped a plate for many years. If I need something that hasn't quite dried then it is used wet.
Mumsnet is full of people I just don't understand AT ALL.
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