Having for show items in the house...

[Unreasonablebetty]

I might be being a bit... Or a lot U,
But I like to buy certain things for show,
Like I've got certain tea towels, for show.
Certain knives to show
Towels to show,
Cushions also to show.

We have slightly less pretty versions of all these things that are for use, but I do like to keep some things looking nice, like the tea towels that hang in the kitchen and bathroom that look nice and crisp,

I just bought new cushions that were only put on the sofa today. My husband came home and flopped down in his paint covered work clothes, took his boots and socks off, and tried to use one of my new cushions as a footrest.
Not five foot away is a perfectly good foot rest. But he wants to use my cushions.
This set me off, squealing like a banshee that his sweaty smelly feet do not belong on my new cushions, in fact they were moved away so DD didn't cost them in felt tip. And why is he laying on one of them?

He thinks it's U to have cushions that he can't lay on, or rub his feet all over,
I think it's perfectly fine, there are other cushions too, another 6 or 7 in total in the living room, but he surely shouldn't expect to rub his feet on my cushions?? No one wants foot smelling cushions surrounding them??
I might be being quite pedantic, and it might just be that other stuff he does is getting to me, but this is really annoying me as when it gets cold I love to make the house homely and buy nice new cushions and generally nicer for us, and he seems to lack respect for our home.
It's not like he didn't know that I have for show items, I've always been the same the five years I've known him.

Is it that mad to say, them few cushions are for you to pick up sit with on your lap or on the floor, but they're love hearts, I don't want you distorting the shape??

[Singsongsungagain]

Mystery- your post brought a tear to my eye.

[mathanxiety]

Rock salt (sodium chloride) is the one used by municipal salt spreaders on streets here. It contains the anti-caking ingredients sodium ferrocyanide and ferric ferrocyanide. It can damage wood decks. You can't use it on concrete less than one year old.

There are other products (known colloquially as 'salt') that will melt the ice, that are not sodium chloride -- calcium chloride, calcium magnesium acetate, magnesium chloride, potassium chloride, and urea (carbonyl diamide). They all leave a high tide mark on suede and fabric footwear. They can also leave a gritty residue on floors and you need to wash them carefully or you can scratch the finish. If left to puddle (under your wet boots for instance) you can end up with wood damage.

Calcium magnesium acetate can damage concrete. If ingested, magnesium chloride and potassium chloride can be lethal to pets with kidney disease (and can also damage concrete).

[mathanxiety]

*and leather footwear too.

[Garlick]

If it damages concrete, why the hell are they putting it on roads & pavements?

[mathanxiety]

Roads are covered in asphalt so sodium chloride is fine there.

Pavements are up to the homeowners whose houses the pavement runs past. You are usually obliged by municipal code to shovel the snow from your pavement but not to put down any grit or ice melt or sodium chloride. Some do all the same, especially if there is a thaw followed by a hard freeze. Your own deck or front steps are your own business too.

[Senpai]

When my husband comes home sweaty and smelling like work, I tell him to take a shower. Problem solved.

We use everything in our house that has a practical purpose, but we also take good care of it. Which means we scrub the couch with detergent and water as per needed. It has no stains or dark spots after 4 years of use. :)

[PoorFannyRobin]

I agree with the poster (can't find the post now) who feels there's something else going on here. I'm reading this as 1) the OP has a few pretty items that make her happy, that she enjoys, and that, to her, make a house a home 2) her DH has a habit of maliciously undermining her (probably in many other ways as well), using this particular desire on her part as a weapon against her 3) when her husband sneers and ridicules her desire to have these items, the OP ends up feeling that she has to explain and defend herself 4) DH is actually angry due to the fact that these cushions or towels fulfill only her desires and not his, which is just unacceptable to him 4) and so to let her know that it's HIS HOUSE and that she just won't get away with forgetting that, DH grabs up what he knows is a new cushion and rubs his unwashed feet on it! I honestly don't see any other way to read this. A real man and loving husband would not make such a miserable issue out of a few (or even a dozen) cushions. I don't think differences in taste levels or how money is spent or how space is used is the actual issue that OP really is asking about just that she feels she needs validation for her desires due to emotional abuse from her husband. Perhaps I'm reading too much into the situation, but I just got an EA vibe from the OP.

[ihatevirginmobile]

Math - when I say grit it is the council mix of salt and grit -same stuff they put on the roads.
We have a council provided grit bin because this estate is off the road - you can't drive to the houses. The council maintain the 'public' areas - communal gardens and footpaths and steps etc (it is on a slope so lots of concrete(!) steps). There are some older people who live here so us 'younger' neighbours more or less take turns in clearing all the paths and salting/gritting when nec - but it is a big area - much bigger than the front of an average house!
In the winter of 2010 people were walking down the steps and using our footpaths as an alternative to the main pavement - which hadn't been treated and was block ice a few inches thick- the council did eventually come out with a mini pavement spreader but there was so little salt in it it didn't shift it/make it any safer really. I actually eventually went out and chipped a narrow pathway with a spade to create some kind of safer route -took a long time - really hard work!
Since then council come out more quickly with the mini spreader/snowplough to do a safe route to school and so do the whole pavement in front of the estate - one year they even sent their workmen to clear the front of the old people's houses....which we had already done!!

[mathanxiety]

They don't use any grit here. Just the chunks of rock salt.

PoorFannyRobin, I agree with your roundup there. I think there is EA here too.

[PoorFannyRobin]

Thanks, math! I was really second guessing my take on this but still kept coming up with the same conclusion.