To damn the date and go home?

[AtSea1979]

I'm cold, he was suppose to be here at 7. He text after I already set off to ask if we could put it back to 7:15. I got it when I parked up at 6:50. I told him I was here but sure 7:15 is fine. Now he's just rang telling me he's at a similar sounding place 15 mins away. There's no hope is there? I might as well give up now! Then again babysitter is there now.

Walter If you are genuinely concerned maybe try talking nicely to the OP, rather than your very abrupt (and shaming) 'Maybe don't bring this one home for sex?' followed by gleeful waving and directing 'the troops' to advanced search.

These are not the posts of a concerned woman, they are rude, judgemental and belittling.

I have spoken to OP on another thread.

And the comment about 'the troops' was in relation to that other thread.

If you find me using the term troops to be belittling and judgemental, you need to take a look at yourself.

*so your kids need to know everyone you shag?

If you're bringing men into the children's home (when they're there) then yes!!!*

Sorry, but having visitors when the kids are asleep doesn't set my concern radar firing. I'd be far more worried at children being introduced to new 'partners' too early.

This poor OP. The women here would have a field day about what happened at the start of my relationship with my DP.

OP i moved back to my parents from abroad, DD and me lived with my folks for about a year. Sometimes I would wait until she was in bed and leave my parents in charge of her and go and have lots of dirty sex with my dp. Other times I told her I had to go for meetings (i did at that point work away a lot) She has not been harmed in any way. Oh and then there was the time his son burst in to his room and i hid under the covers. Again DSS is fine no harm done

OP shit happens you haven't done anything wrong.

What am I looking for?

If you are happy with what you've posted that's your lookout, My reading of them was that they are unpleasant and I've said as much. Clearly others agree as I'm not alone in posting about it.

DD and I*

So it will be fine for your daughter to sneak boys you've never met into your home when you're asleep when she's old enough?

She can have a new guy every few months if she wants, seeing as she's single and entitled to a sex life.

The son walking in was an unfortunate mistake and it seems like the poster is taking steps to ensure that doesn't happen again.

Walter sorry but I agree with Lulu - the comment about "the troops" was reminiscent of a play ground bully. Perhaps you need to have a look at yourself.

Umbungo - WTAF?

This thread is nothing to do with her daughter.

No because its my house my rules. She can sneak who ever she wants into her own home. I never snuck a BF in to my parents home so i would hope she treated me with the same respect.

Sorry I though that was aimed at me.

Sorry that was in reply to lula

Well umbongo I don't have a daughter, however if one of my sons were to sneak a girl in for sex, when they were old enough to do so I'd be unhappy. However that is because it is my house and I therefore expect to have final say on who is visiting. If my son, aged over 16, has a girlfriend of 3 months plus she is welcome to stay over and shag away behind closed doors and with respect to my house rules.

I have to say I have no idea of what the relevance of that question is though?

But is it not also your child's house too above the visitors? Her son was made to feel very uncomfortable in his own house but she couldn't see what she was doing wrong and putting her own ability to be alone above the needs of her children.

I know it's difficult, I get no help off my ex so have my child with me 24/7. Twice a month my mum has my daughter and my boyfriend comes over. Obviously it's not as much as I would like but I won't have him stay over when she's here.

No. My DD or DSSs do not get a right to say who can come in to my property they are children. Do you run every adult decision via your dc? I certainly do not she is a child.

Even as adults its my choice my house my rules.

It's my job as a mother to lead by example. If I were to bring back men she hadn't met for sex in OUR home then how could I be mad if she did the same?

Ok you either don't or won't understand the difference in relationships between Adults and Children. I'm guessing won't because you are wanting to shame women for having sex.

I understand the relationship perfectly thanks.

Guys please! As if there isn't enough bloody bad feeling in life as it is!! Whether you agree with someone's lifestyle or not, this was simply a thread from a woman who has said in the past she doesn't have friends in RL, she posted here, to unknown people, to keep her company/give advice whether to dump date or not. Couldn't we just have "been there" for her?
Is it now the case that all previous threads from the OP get brought up again and thrown in her face? We all do stupid stuff and although most of us would confide in friends or keep Schtum, OP clearly doesn't have that luxury of confiding. Whether you agree with the lifestyle of others or not, some of us are luckier than others, where then dies the OP turn for company? I'm not suggesting OP has any MH issues, but can't we just be there in case we are her only confidantes and ensure that she does have people to speak to?

OP's sex life has nothing to do with any of you.

Focus on the thread at hand

Wow- nasty, nosey lot.

I bet the OP is sorry she posted.

Bringing someone home for a discreet fuck or two is far less likely to pose a risk to DC than being so desperate for a committed relationship (because of all the gobby morons who think a woman who likes casual sex is a slut and a woman without a male owner is freakish) that you move a new man into your DC's home too quickly.
A man who is happy with a casual fuck and a quick exit is a lot less likely to, for instance, be targeting single mothers in order to prey on their children. Or because he wants to get his feet under the table of a woman so desperate for male companionship that she will service him domestically, emotionally and sexually in every way.

Poor OP

Frankly, If you're anything like me, you tell your kids honestly that I am testing a new boyfriend to see if he is good enough.
Few weeks or whatever later, a meal out etc.
Hey kids, I decided that one wasn't quite good enough for me.

I'm happy. My kids are happy.

Everyone's lives are different
No circumstances fit all situations.

I'm happy to support you OP.

Thank you. It's good to know. I don't really have anyone to talk to in RL, I tend to keep my personal life to myself at work.