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To damn the date and go home?

155 replies

AtSea1979 · 18/11/2015 19:23

I'm cold, he was suppose to be here at 7. He text after I already set off to ask if we could put it back to 7:15. I got it when I parked up at 6:50. I told him I was here but sure 7:15 is fine. Now he's just rang telling me he's at a similar sounding place 15 mins away. There's no hope is there? I might as well give up now! Then again babysitter is there now.

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Justaboy · 18/11/2015 22:48

Curiouser and curiouser said Alice;!

Battleshiphips2 · 18/11/2015 22:50

Maybe they have met up to dtd in the car so no one will walk in on them. Either that or a bit of dogging. Our dog walked in on us a while back he watched us for about 10 seconds then scuttled back to bed. Hope we haven't scarred him!

Groovee · 18/11/2015 22:51

I'd have gone home but my friend who is back in the dating game tries 4 dates.

TheCarpenter · 18/11/2015 22:51

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To damn the date and go home?
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AtSea1979 · 18/11/2015 23:01

Well I came to update but it seems my life has become a joke for everyone else Sad
This was a first date and I went to cinema instead, hence not using phone! Daniel Craig was a much better choice Wink
As for other guy, I had to knock it on the head. I couldn't face him, or have him face DS. Those with an over active imagination need to stop now (it wasn't like I was swinging for the lights)

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fastdaytears · 18/11/2015 23:02

Soooo what was he like?

Bunbaker · 18/11/2015 23:05

So, did he turn up then?

BlueJug · 18/11/2015 23:06

Glad that you enjoyed the film OP. Sorry the date didn't work out.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 18/11/2015 23:06

No one is getting off on your disappointment Atsea. Just that people are rightly a tad peeved at your last nasty post on your other thread.
You know when you said we were talking nonsense.

sonnyson12 · 18/11/2015 23:08

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UmbongoUnchained · 18/11/2015 23:25

sonny you're just taking things too far now and being a twat.

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AtSea1979 · 18/11/2015 23:28

sonny 'the babysitter' was GPs actually and you are letting your history with your ex cloud your judgement of me. Of course I don't bring strangers home to shag. I dated one man for a few weeks and sleep with him. End of.

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DuchessDaisy · 18/11/2015 23:29

Sonny just seems to be getting off on abusing people now - reported

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AtSea1979 · 18/11/2015 23:34

Thankyou. I've been on MN for over 10 years so there is a history but in the context of years.
I've only NC once in all that time as I don't hide who I am.

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Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 18/11/2015 23:37

Yes I do with you both Umbomgo and dutchess. I've been no arch Angel Gabriel but I've not been abusive.

It seems Sonny has suffered a very bitter breask up and atsea is bearing the brunt. I'm all for saying what you think and if s poster has peeved you off you tell them and you have your row then, you make up and move on. You don't continually verbally beating someone to a pulp

lexigrey · 18/11/2015 23:42

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Battleshiphips2 · 18/11/2015 23:48

Agreed umbongo, that was a tad harsh. My comment was meant light heartedly. As regards date, I probably wouldn't have waited round for him to appear either and I definitely would've took the opportunity of a babysitter to do something else.

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AtSea1979 · 18/11/2015 23:49

Yet all I want is to be loved and settled Sad

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Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 18/11/2015 23:54

"Yet all in want is to be loved and settled.
Well you're not asking for much are you, and it will come .
One day. I promise.
But you are loved as mum and no bloke out there no matter who he is will love anywhere as much as the consistent little man in your life. aka your son
does.

UmbongoUnchained · 18/11/2015 23:56

I understand OP
But don't go looking for it. Enjoy your time with your with your kids then when they've moved out have all the hot nasty sex you like Grin
In the mean time, if you happen to meet someone who fits into your life where it is now, take it slow and see where it goes!

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AtSea1979 · 19/11/2015 00:01

I think that's the problem umbongo I'm impatient and spoil it.
loghthouse good point. I'm very close to DS, I just hope we keep that bond, and DD too.

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Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 19/11/2015 00:06

Oh I didn't know you had a daughter too.

UmbongoUnchained · 19/11/2015 00:07

Learn to be happy by yourself before you can be happy with someone else.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 19/11/2015 00:10

You will keep that bond. Most Men absolutely adore their mums, well all their female relatives really. Little girls tend to go for their dads and grsndads. IME anyway.
I was a proper granddad's girl.

SolidGoldBrass · 19/11/2015 00:45

It's not, necessarily, such a terrible thing to have a new partner stay overnight. Making children aware that some adults have 'special cuddles' with other adults from time to time and don't need a wedding first is quite a good thing: the obsession with longterm monogamy as the only way to conduct relationships is a bad thing. Mind you, 'respectable married' couples occasionally get interrupted mid-shag by their own children - whether a child walking in on adults bonking causes the child trauma or not depends on how the adults handle it.