Op I am quite sure, quite positive that should I come and inspect your home and your family xmas I would find many things I would consider to be OTT and un necessary. Probably not just your xmas either but your house.
Do I like a book every day for xmas ? NO.
Do I like xmas eve hampers ? Yes.
Do I like Elf on shelf? The commercial version from amercia, no, my version, in my own way with own ideas, very much so.
Do I like xmas duvets - YES. I can't afford one for us but next have a gorgeous one this year...its good fun.
catrin many people will think your being ott with stockings...where does it start, where does it stop? Many think decorating houses is OTT...or more than one main present.
Has your DD ever had new nightware on xmas eve?
Two years ago I saw a lovely blue night dress with shoulder cape thing I decided to get it for dd then 6 and she adored it! posing by the tree and swirling in it, the next year I saw a red one, also with cape so decided to get it, she was over joyed at 7, and said " mummy you seem to get me a new night dress now and I love it" ( had not done it before)...this year I have deliberately got her a reindeer fleece from gap and its lovely and snuggly...so the point being, your dd doesnt give a shiny shite about - a new night dress 
but other dc never had stockings and dont give a shiny shite about them.... some peoples dp never did xmas and dont give a shiny shite about it....
if you had never had something it is unlikely...you will give a shiny shite about it, but doesnt mean its not right, or wrong or necessary! My dd now loves the idea of a new night dress and she feels special in it!