I've been with my boyfriend for the last five months. Everything's going well, he's lovely, kind, trustworthy etc
The only issue is the amount he sees his ex (and is in touch with her generally). They were together for 4 years and broke up around 2 years ago. She is in a relationship and he has had relationships since and obviously is now with me.
They meet fortnightly for dinner. She took him out for a birthday meal. His exes have told him he has attachment issues (in fact he text a more recent ex, a relationship that ended abruptly and not on brilliant terms, 'happy birthday' a few weeks ago to what end?). He discusses our relationship with this ex in quite a lot of detail. She's his only female friend. I don't think he holds any kind of romantic feeling for her, but I do feel that the more serious we get, the more she's requesting to meet him at other times, Saturday nights when I can't see him, calling him about her relationship at midnight...
It's never suggested that I might meet her at some point of come to their meals out - yet I'm introduced to all of his other friends and socialise with them. He's outright mentioned that a lot of other people tell them it's weird. They don't have mutual friends so they always meet just the two of them.
Maybe I am being unreasonable? I trust him so maybe I should just accept this relationship. I've brought it up with him, he just says 'yes people say it's weird she's important to me'. Maybe I don't have any right to ask him to change things? For full disclosure the only ex I speak to is my DD's father and that's through necessity. We certainly don't have fortnightly dinners out just the two of us.
Do I need to suck it up?