WIBU to leave teenage DD home alone one night so I can spend the night shagging in a hotel?

[HotelShagger]

DD is 14 and a homebird. She also has near-supersonic hearing, and usually goes to bed at the same time as me and DH. The walls are thin enough that we can hold conversations with each other from each other's rooms. We deal with it by DTD as quietly as possible. DH and me are huge fans of loud, active sex but that isn't going to happen while DD is at home, and hasn't happened for a long time. I know I should probably be grateful to be having any sex at all. I am, but I'd like to be able to really let loose for once. I want to have a proper, noisy shag with us making as much noise as we feel making, without worrying about traumatising DD or being slapped with noise abatement orders by the neighbours.

WIBU to leave DD at home for one night so we could sneak off to a cheap hotel? She hasn't been on her own overnight before. It would be a Friday or Saturday in case anyone is wondering. Alternatively if anyone has any suggestions about getting away with loud DTDing when you have older kids at home, I would welcome them.

I have no advice but it puts me in mind of an incident at my work. It was an after work drink thing and the big boss was sat with a group of my colleagues and he was saying about how his daughter was away on a school trip abroad. He mentioned that this was the first time in 12 years that he and his wife had been alone for so long. One of my colleagues pipes up "Oh, that means you can have sex on the living room carpet!" The big boss is a bit of a stuffed shirt. Don't think he's ever got over it!

I had a flat where the top floor was kitchen, lounge, dining room and master bedroom with really thick walls. Could lock the top floor from the stairs and it turned a 4 bed flat into a one bed self contained flat .

I wouldnt leave a 14 year old all night. if you cant get her to a sleepover, or to a grandparents, then id suggest booking a hotel, going out for the evening, and then checking out at 11 or something to go home after youve got your oats.

I'd send the 14 to to the hotel, a nice one with a spa and pool.

I feel sorry for the people who have to be in the hotel room next door to you being loud and active.

Personally think 14y is too young to be left home alone all night. I think overnight all night is probably best left til about 16y tbh.

Yes, I was babysitting at that age and putting younger children and myself to bed. But not left overnight, all night.

There will always be exceptions to that, but certainly with the parents I know, the teens I know and the people I grew up with - all were over 14/15y before left home alone for a full night.

I'm off to invent a fully soundproof sex pod for the OP. I'll market it as some kind of relaxation chamber, but we'll all know it's really a sex pod. "The Tiggimatic relaxium", a good shag sleep guaranteed.

You've your first sale here Tiggy!

One of my most awful memories is waking up hearing my parents have sex. Totally grim. What teenager is going to brush that off?

Every. Sunday. Night.

It haunts me to this day.

Apparently it is ok because it shows that they are in a loving family with normal, sexually active, parents.

My mum was so very open about sex. She wanted to make sure we could ask her everything and she wanted to make sure we weren't embarrassed about discussing anything with her.

Her intentions were from a good place.

In reality, the teen 'me' was constantly mortified by her discussions and talks and having to listen to her tell everyone that her children could ask her anything. Seemingly she forgot to take into account our willingness to participate in such discussions/talks.

So yeah. Go to a hotel or get her to stay over at a friend/relatives. Or book a half day, pack her off to school and then spend the morning in orgasm central, in the comfort of your own bed.

Hated hearing it it was just cringey

You would be committing a crime. Children cannot legally be left overnight until they are at least 16 years of age

Do people actually believe this guff? Don;t be so daft.

She is far too young. My dd is nearly 13, no way would I leave her alone all night. Dds room is opposite ours so I feel your pain.

Can you have loud screaming sex in hotels?! Most of them have "quiet zone" signs up these days so you may as well both book a day off for a quiet daytime hotel shagathon

We have quiet sex during the week and loud rampant sex at the weekends when our 14 & 17 year olds are encouraged to go out with their friends, or to the cinema or the gym

Once, when the older one was going to be out all night, I called a friend who has a son the same age as my younger one and said... When you said you were going to arrange a get together and overnight soon did you mean it and can it be tomorrow lol

There are lots of ways round it which don't involve leaving a 14 year old home alone

Why not just go out for a "date" in the evening and rent a room for a few hours? Or force her to go to youth group or an after school club?

I remember hearing my relatives have sex once, I quietly snuck downstairs to play video games for a few hours. Not traumatizing, but still make me cringe thinking about it. I also remember walking in on my parents once and watching them frantically cover up with deer in the headlights look, and demand I always knock after letting me know they were just sleeping and needed a nap for a while. One day when I was older and understood the memory, I burst out laughing and then cringed.

Anyway, not traumatizing memories, but I'm sure your daughter appreciates not hearing it.