did I overreact?

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I can let this go, even though it sounds so ridiculous.
So, we have a seven seater. We also have isofix car seats at the moment, so anyone using the rear two seats climbs in and out of the boot. They rarely get used at the moment.

We went out for lunch at the pub the other day. I went in the boot as my parents are visiting. I had a couple of large glasses of wine. When we got home, everyone bundled out and all of a sudden I realised that no one had let me out. I sat there for 15 minutes, then got out and had a complete meltdown at everyone.

I know lots of people will probably think, why didn't I just get out sooner? For the first couple of minutes I actually thought it was funny , I'd wait and see how long it took them to notice. Then I just started to feel sad and hurt. I'm crying now - so pathetic.

I mean, no one noticed that I wasn't there. I guess no one needed a cup of tea, or dinner cooked, or something else from me. Even dds (4 and 6) didn't notice I wasn't there, yet they are usually yelling for me every 30 seconds?

I did shout quite a lot. Dh thinks I overreacted. WIBU to feel really hurt by this? Why is it still making me feel sad?

At least you weren't stuck overnight in a Subway refrigerator writing 'help' in tomato ketchup

I'm just thinking of what happens in the first 15 minutes of getting in to my or my parents' house after a meal out.

Getting through the door the kids will dart off to play some game either inside or outside.
I'll take my shoes off and go fill the kettle and stick it on. If at home i'll nip upstairs to put on either jogging bottoms or pyjamas. At both houses i'll go to the toilet. If at my mum's that usually means me and DSis fighting over who gets there first. My mum would head to the utility to check on the washing and possibly start hanging or folding it. My dad would check his emails or an auction he was watching on ebay. I'll come back down and ask dad and dsis if they want tea or coffee. Mum doesnt drink either so i wouldnt think to offer her any. I'd make the tea. It could realistically be 15 minutes before we were all in the same room to realise someone wasnt there. And that is nothing to do with being rude or selfish or taking them for granted.

I'd have thought you'd gone to the loo, gone to get changed, gone looking for something in the garden, popped to the shop or gone for a moments peace.

Overreacted is an understatement, but alcohol does cloud judgement and if you'd been emotional before it can happen. Apologise and everybody will let it go. You say it makes you feel sad, could that be embarrassment, that can be quite a downer, too?

I think yes, everyone was very rude to you. Not so much for not noticing that you had not appeared in the house but that they had not looked around and seen if there was anyone to help, to check before shutting the car door, etc.

But YWBU to go nuts and shout about it. What a bad way to spoil what I assume was a nice afternoon out together.

Wait, what- just saw you'd wait and see how long it took them to notice you probably are crying because you realise how childish this was and are embarrassed.

I haven't read a thread for a while where there have been such polarised answers.

I don't usually drink that much, I can be a martyr, but I do feel under appreciated sometimes.

I'm going to apologise to DH.

Those of you who say you feel under appreciated/know how it feels not to value yourself but have still called me childish and not even tried to think how I might feel: get some empathy. Even if you think I'm pathetic, surely someone, somewhere might react differently to you.

I got locked in Top Shop once

This thread is very triggering for me

She wasn't locked in though, just no door held open

YANBU. (I would have been pissed off, climbing over back seats to get out would have been a struggle) They were thoughtless and sometimes you are entitled to express exactly how you feel at that moment. I think so anyway.

AF, didn't you just do a massive Supermarket Sweep-style nicking spree? not that Top Shop is any good really

anyfucker

I would have done that if I could have got out, OL

Put on everything you nick, all at one, and waddle out (when rescued) looking suspiciously overweight?

I'd love to be locked in at a nice food store, Top Shop is no use

I was worried I was going to miss me tea

Sorry Op but It's made me chuckle a bit.

I worked at a gym in my youth.

We left one night at 10pm and didn't realise we had left a lady in the sauna....

She got out apparently and crawled on her hands and knees in the pitch black locker room to reception and called 999 from the payphone

Now being locked naked in a sauna in the pitch black IS a reason to shout. Bet she didn't wait and see how long it took

Even if I noticed you missing, the last place I would think to look is for you sulking in the back of the car. YABU. But I do understand that you feel forgotten. I suspect your total overreaction was the drink plus a passing feeling at times you are not appreciated. I think you should apologise for being a brat but then have a chat with your hubby about sometimes feeling taken for granted.

Yanbu we have a similar set up and I wouldn't even attempt getting out anyway but the boot being opened, I would have been really annoyed (wine would have made it worse!) and for what it's worth my dp says yanbu too

You sound like my narcissist mother.

Maybe the wine made you overreact?

Couldn't take anyone seriously who sat in the boot of a car on purpose just to see how long it would be before someone let her out.....

No Reni

Twas awful

YANBU
they all got out of the car and didn't let you out of the boot

leaving you to clamber over the back seats to get yourself out.
i would have been upset/mad too.

oh and DON'T apologise. you got left in the car ! i know you managed to get out but it was pretty thoughtless.