DP thinks we should start TTCing urgently because our bio clocks are ticking. We are in our 20s. Is he BU?

[dpwantsababy]

My DP has become obsessed with the idea of having a baby. It started a few months ago. He has said that he doesn't want to wait until his 30s to have DCs because he doesn't like the idea of being an older father. His parents had him when they were in their late 30s. A few friends of ours have had babies recently and are constantly posting on facebook about how proud they are and how amazing their little ones are. I am not feeling broody at all though. I'm also not worried about my fertility at 26. DP keeps saying we'll regret it if we wait too long because we might run into problems conceiving. Is he right?

Would being married change the way you feel about having a baby, does it make you feel more secure in making such a huge commitment? Does his offer to be a SAHD make you feel more like it? Is that something the two of you can even afford? Do realize that having a SAHP can create a whole new financial dynamic for the working spouse in the case of a breakup, and also that many SAHP suffer financially if the working spouse leaves them. Would you be willing to be primary carer if DP decides he doesn't want to stay home after all? I offered this to my DH when he was off work for about 2 years due to an injury. Midway through I got a promotion that would have allowed him to stay home (we would have been pretty skint, though). He said "NO WAY, it's too much work and too restricting". Our sons were 3 and 8.

I was very lucky in that my nieces and nephews started coming along when I was around 10 years old and their mums stayed with us for a week or so out of the hospital. This gave me very valuable insight into crying babies, midnight feeds, changing nappies, etc, from a very early age. I think most women are exposed to babies at some point or other before we have our own. I can't say the same for men, they may be 'around' a baby but not 'involved' iyswim. Does your DP have any experience? If not, do you two have any friends with babies who might be willing to let you and him 'take over' for an evening?

And again, you'll need to be sure that you are ready, willing, and able to be the primary carer for this child 'just in case'. Are you?

Trian
You need to understand this before peddling the 'fertility falls off a cliff' myth:
www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-24128176