to breastfeed in public even though DH is uncomfortable with it and thinks I should find somewhere private?

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DS is 7weeks. He often struggles to latch and slips off repeatedly during a feed, so I dislike feeding under a shawl and find it hard to be discreet, as I need to keep reattaching him. I wear wrap dresses so I can just pull dress and bra down at one side. I don't really care if anyone sees my breast and don't feel the need to hide away in a corner or find a baby changing room for privacy. I've BF in the middle of Costa, in restaurants, in clothes shops and in a furniture shop, also in GP waiting room and in the back of a taxi as DS was crying and hungry. However, DH thinks BF should be a private thing and thinks I should either feed under a shawl or take a bottle of expressed milk. He said not to be surprised if shop manager asks me to feed elsewhere. My BF support group all say they feed anywhere and are against shawls as they think it makes BF out to be something obscene.
What do others think? Would you be offended by someone BF a small baby without a shawl? Are there places where its inappropriate to BF?

Summer because she's obsessed with boobs and breastfeeding and can't help herself.

summer because my friend was new to breastfeeding and she asked for help because she was having trouble getting her baby to disengage the latch? Have you ever tried to pull away something that has a vacuum seal around your nipple without it hurting? It's a breast, my hands were clean, it took 2 seconds, it was NBD. It's not like she asked for nipple stimulation or something.

I think you're fucking weird, so we're even.

If a lactating woman started to use a pump in Costa you would see a whole new level of breast.

You are not alone BondJayneBond- people talk such nonsense!
If they do feel awkward it is their problem and they need to remove themselves- not expect the mother and baby to remove themselves.

shit you're right, I've taken to motorboating random women on the subway. Does that validate your viewpoint?

We are not living in that society though are we? so im not sure why you even have to post that picture.

Why do we have to be living in that society? She's as human as you and I. And my point was breasts are only sexual in western cultures, their purpose is to feed children and that has lost its way for various reasons.

You still, haven't explained why it's a private thing. And who has their "tits out"? A baby is feeding from it, you see nothing. And even if you did - tough shit, a baby's right to eat trumps your right to be an obnoxious pearl clithcer. I'll ask again, do you get as upset at the beach when cleavage is on show?

ava no, these women would have to go to the bathroom to pump, obviously. Couldn't risk anybody seeing a bit of boob.

But, sorry, that is fucking weird. Why on Earth would you need to do that?

Why is it weird? Maybe she's a breastfeeding peer support worker who is helping her friend get breastfeeding established. Maybe her friend was ill after birth and required the extra help. There are plenty of reasons as to why she would do that. I find it weird that you think it's 'fucking weird'.

shit OH YOU DID NOT JUST USE THE "EMOTIONAL" WOMAN BULLSHIT LINE???

Somebody hold my earrings.

I smiled at the post that said a pump should be taken out- that would attract attention!

Because I'm a non breastfeeding woman flowers, so that makes my views on covering incredibly important according to all the Be Discreet brigade. Also, you haven't the brains to pull off being patronising, and why have you decided I've got a baby?

Actually, it's been lovely popping onto one of these threads after a hiatus of a few years to find much more of a consensus on how completely unacceptable it is to presume to tell mothers how/where/when/ they should breastfeed.
There are significantly less obnoxious folks demanding that people Stop Doing That Utterly Normal Thing in their presence.

I can only say this to the steadfast bigots remaining - this right to breastfeed however one chooses is a right that will not be reversed. It's never going to go away. You'll be much happier when you stop hoping that everyone else will change to make you happy. You have much more power to change your own mind than you realise.

So why not just say 'Oh just use your little finger to open their mouth slightly and the seal will break'.

You just went in with your finger instead? That's weird and amusing in equal measure tbh. Do you generally have personal boundary issues?

And regardless of how clean your hands were, i'd not want you sticking your finger in or near my baby's mouth as I suspect many people wouldn't.

So do we expect anything or anyone that people might find offensive to be banned from being around us?

Could be a looonng list.

Flowers you're really pulling the "you silly emotional woman" card? Grow up!

This lunacy has promoted me to post this fab meme. I think it illustrates the point of the non-thickos on this thread

gold I will hold your earrings. If you need a hand I will squirt her in the face with my breastmilk and she will burn like Elphaba!

summer So my finger is more weird than her finger? She asked me, she was also preoccupied with supporting the baby. As far as I'm concerned, it would have been far weirder for me to be "OH GOOD GOD NO I'M NOT TOUCHING YOUR BREAST, ARE YOU INSANE, THAT'S DISGUSTING" than it was for me to not have any of those thoughts whatsoever and go, "Sure." pop Job done.

Bless you, you sweet sweet idiot.

So why not just say 'Oh just use your little finger to open their mouth slightly and the seal will break'

Her friend was probably already using the 3 arms you need to feed a newborn.

Piper How very uncouth. Although I expected nothing more coming from you.

I haven't read the thread (a quick scan told me things got heated!) but OP, you are right. Well done, keep feeding. He'll get used to it.

Do you know me flowers?

Oh the irony of a body shamer calling ME uncouth!

Summer why are you so concerned? She didn't put her little finger on your boob or in your babies mouth. Talk about misplaced outrage.

piper if Summer ever had a bf consultant help her she'd probably accuse the woman of assault.