to breastfeed in public even though DH is uncomfortable with it and thinks I should find somewhere private?

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DS is 7weeks. He often struggles to latch and slips off repeatedly during a feed, so I dislike feeding under a shawl and find it hard to be discreet, as I need to keep reattaching him. I wear wrap dresses so I can just pull dress and bra down at one side. I don't really care if anyone sees my breast and don't feel the need to hide away in a corner or find a baby changing room for privacy. I've BF in the middle of Costa, in restaurants, in clothes shops and in a furniture shop, also in GP waiting room and in the back of a taxi as DS was crying and hungry. However, DH thinks BF should be a private thing and thinks I should either feed under a shawl or take a bottle of expressed milk. He said not to be surprised if shop manager asks me to feed elsewhere. My BF support group all say they feed anywhere and are against shawls as they think it makes BF out to be something obscene.
What do others think? Would you be offended by someone BF a small baby without a shawl? Are there places where its inappropriate to BF?

goodnight Why are you being so irrational? You need to calm down sweetheart

Flowers you need to seriously address your passive aggression and misogyny.

Its a private thing to do. Yes of course go and breastfeed somewhere secluded but guess what, I dont want to see it when im eating my dinner or having a conversation thank you. I dont understand all thing screaming about it either.

it would have been far weirder for me to be "OH GOOD GOD NO I'M NOT TOUCHING YOUR BREAST, ARE YOU INSANE, THAT'S DISGUSTING

Bless you, you sweet sweet idiot

Who's talking about breasts being disgusting? Not me.

As for your second comment - I don't know. Do you have a point? I've posted twice on this thread because your comment stood out to me. Your responses are completely out of context with what I've written and way OTT. Do you think you look clever?

this not thing.

Im with callinda.... Where are these people that notice?

Piper You need to calm down. Take deep breaths, 1 2 3... good. Here's another

shit It's amusing that you think my request to get someone to hold my earrings was serious. You're clearly trolling because you have no rational argument to deliver.

It's the internet. You're an idiot on the internet. There are plenty of those. Normally I don't engage, but this has been oddly riveting, exploring the irrational sexual hangups of people against public bf-ing.

Pinot, very simple. If you're not comfortable avert you eyes.

Revolutionary thought I know. Consider your mind blown.

Do you think you look clever?

I certainly look more clever than you right now.

I can extrapolate from your reaction that you think me touching her breast was perverse and disgusting and that, (oh wait, let me quote) I have "boundary issues". Therefore it's logical to assume you find breastfeeding breasts disgusting. Either that or you find people with clean hands touching other people's babies disgusting. Either way, weird.

pinot I'll ask again - why is it a private thing to do? What other kinds of eating do you consider private?

And if you don't want to see it utilise your neck muscles and turn away. Problem solved.

There's "screaming" because of misogynists like you. It makes people angry for a good reason. You have the right to be turned off by whatever you feel, however ridiculous. But have the brains to realise it's your problem, you are the unreasonable one. I hate watching people chew food. Makes me fucking sick. Do I go around demanding everyone chews under a cover or at home, or regurgitates and liquidises their food before they leave the house? Or do I accept that it's my silly problem and put up with it, because I'm a grown up with respect for the rights of others to chew as they see fit?

if Summer ever had a bf consultant help her she'd probably accuse the woman of assault

Are you serious? Here's a hint - i'm not the enemy here. I think you're a bit tapped really. I can't even get to grips with your comments.

And yes, I do think you going in with your finger is weird.

Also, anyone else read "OTT" as = "emotional woman" argument? looks around

I dont find it sexual Goodnight? I also dont condone calling people idiots either.

The conversations about breast feeding in public are very pro or not. I have a valid reason why im against and so to people that want to. its a debate.

good I didn't say I had a problem with public breastfeeding. I said I had a problem with women who aren't discreet about it.

it's logical to assume you find breastfeeding breasts disgusting

You're writing yourself a little story there.

Seriously, are you confusing me with someone else? Why would you assume that?

Flowers why are you telling people to calm down and stop being emotional? Is it because you're losing a debate and you think that will hit where it hurts? You have ishooooos dear

I wish somebody would have man handled my boobs and helped me.
There was no support and I cried for days as i thought I was a failure.
There is so much support now and so there bloody well should be.
You have to be a pretty bad to object to a mum feeding her baby, anywhere she chooses.

pinot what's your valid reason? And "I don't like tits" is not a valid reason FYI

You may have earlier had some good points goodnight...you obviously care a lot about bf and bf mothers need all the support they can get.

You're making yourself look like a knob now. Which is a shame.

I dont have eating disorders

I think breast feeding in public is a it embarrassing.

If in a child environment then fine, if out and about a discreet option is the way to go.

And yes, I do think you going in with your finger is weird.

Also, anyone else read "OTT" as = "emotional woman" argument? looks around **

Oh shit! Another thing to get obsessed and outraged about. Why don't you go and start a new thread about it?

pinot: I have a valid reason why im against and so to people that want to. its a debate.

I think you need to look up the definition of "debate". It's only debate when you give your reasons. "I don't like it!" is not debating.

summer you're now deflecting and failing to explain why you think me helping my friend disengage the latch was a "boundary issue". You keep trying to insinuate I have a problem with breasts. I have no idea why that would be

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