to breastfeed in public even though DH is uncomfortable with it and thinks I should find somewhere private?

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DS is 7weeks. He often struggles to latch and slips off repeatedly during a feed, so I dislike feeding under a shawl and find it hard to be discreet, as I need to keep reattaching him. I wear wrap dresses so I can just pull dress and bra down at one side. I don't really care if anyone sees my breast and don't feel the need to hide away in a corner or find a baby changing room for privacy. I've BF in the middle of Costa, in restaurants, in clothes shops and in a furniture shop, also in GP waiting room and in the back of a taxi as DS was crying and hungry. However, DH thinks BF should be a private thing and thinks I should either feed under a shawl or take a bottle of expressed milk. He said not to be surprised if shop manager asks me to feed elsewhere. My BF support group all say they feed anywhere and are against shawls as they think it makes BF out to be something obscene.
What do others think? Would you be offended by someone BF a small baby without a shawl? Are there places where its inappropriate to BF?

what questions are you asking Gruntled? ask, please do

You know perfectly well, Pinot. But, just once more:

!. Why do you say breastfeeding mothers should be discreet purely because looking at them makes you feel uncomfortable?

1. If you feel uncomfortable, why can't you look away or move seats? Piper has correctly pointed out why your previous answer about it being uncomfortable to look in a slightly different direction is demonstrably nonsense.

Oh god. Why are you asking me again and again what I have already said?

Do you know the definition of madness is asking the same question and wanting a different answer?

Because you haven't answered, pinot, as also pointed out repeatedly upthread. You said bf mothers should be discreet because it made you uncomfortable, you haven't explained why the fact that it makes you uncomfortable means other people should be discreet rather than that you should deal with your own problems yourself.

I see it as a private thing between mother and child therefore discretion out in public.

No one really wants to see anyone elses breasts when eating.

do you want me to answer anything else?

Im not selfish enough to not get others embarrassment either.

Anything else you would like me to add?

You were also asked what your evidence was for saying that no-one wants to see breast whilst eating: IME the reality is that most people take it totally in their stride. If you don't want to see a breast whilst eating, why not turn your head, avert your eyes or move your chair? And don't say it would be uncomfortable to eat with a turned head, you know that that's a nonsense unless you are sitting right in the mother's face.

You say you are not selfish, Pinot, yet you want the law to be changed and hundreds of women to "be discreet" just because you feel embarrassed and can't be bothered to look in a different direction. How is that not selfish?

oh really? why are you still doing this?

Well, I stupidly thought you might answer, pinot. Obviously not, because you know you can't come up with a respectable answer.

Im here at this time of night waiting for my DS to get home from a party, why are you getting on my case? piss right off with your stupid nil and void questions that have been answered!

I have fucking answered your questions!

Where have you answered the question why breastfeeding mothers should have to be discreet just because you feel uncomfortable seeing them? Or the one about why you don't avoid it just by not looking at them? Point me at those specific answers and I'll happily fuck off, as you so charmingly put it.

Goodness gracious me!

Discreet breast feeding in public is not a sin! Its not something that women need to get on their high horses about.

Guess what! It IS appropriate.

its appropriate in public. stop being so ridiculous about it. stop thinking that it needs to be more than it is.

when in public, getting breasts out to feed discreetly is appropriate and anyone else saying it isnt and arguing against it, i personally dont understand.

When did I say discreet breastfeeding in public was a sin? The point is that you cannot tell me why you say people should have to be discreet just because it makes you feel uncomfortable if they're not. For some people it's impossible to be totally discreet, e.g. if the baby has trouble latching on. Why should they be prevented from feeding just for your convenience?

And of course, some people can't be "discreet" or don't want to be, and the law says that's totally fine. Again, why should that be changed just because you say it makes you feel uncomfortable?

what do you want me to say gruntled? a mother can put the muzzy over her breast in any and every case whether the child latches or not surely? that is discreet. are you saying that she cant?

People on the thread have certainly told you that that is not always possible. But it really doesn't matter whether she can or can't. Why should she, just because it makes you feel uncomfortable?

why is it not possible?

i have said that in public no one wants to see someone elses full breasts

i do no understand why they have to

i do not understand why a breast cant be covered

you tell me why it cant?

I also didnt want communal showers with other girls, so? in public why on earth should anyone else have to see a breast?

breast feeding on the go, in public, im all for. I just dont want to see a breast nor does most.