best advice you have ever been given that you live by (most days)

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Going off another post....what is the best advice that you have received from parents (or anyone else really) advice that you live by and that you will pass on to your children/ friends etc.

Mine are;

1. Feel the fear and do it anyway.
2. Aim to have a wage that matches your age.

And

1. Always apologise for your part to play in arguments etc. Be the bigger person.

Can't say I always apologise but I do try.....hehe

I've been watching loads of RuPauls drag race on Netflix and she ends each show with
If you can't love yourself how the hell you gonna love anybody else.

Turn the other cheek. My dad said that and I believe him. However bear in mind that some people are absolute bastards and some rules don't apply to them.

Here lies the body of Harold Day
Who insisted on his Right of Way
(as a teenager learning to sail_

and (from Pink Floyd)
Life is a short, warm moment
Death is a long cold rest

and 'This too shall pass'

All the same sentiment - but actually has stood me in good stead since - a bit like the OP - 'don't sweat the small stuff' - keep it all in proportion

Always get the young man's name and address.
love that one!

After far too many years of depression and anxiety I've learnt 'This too shall pass' and to ask myself if my worry will still seem important in two years time.

'You can't take it with you' There is no point in saving stuff 'for best' if you never actually use it. It's okay to use stuff.

'Good enough' is good enough, there is no such thing as perfection.

And MN has taught me 'No is a complete sentence'.

This too shall pass.

Other peoples opinions of you are none of your business.

Its better to be hated for what you are than loved for what youre not

Whats for you wont go by you.

Ah, yes, 'No is a complete sentence'
Also 'That doesn't work for me'
Also (courtesy of jack Reacher) 'Hope for the best, plan for the worst'
And from Dr Seuss - Plan A, Plan B, Plan C...all the way down to little Plan Z'
(the zed is a zee to make it rhyme - American )

Nana always told me to pick my battles, but when pickin them I should remember that evil exists when those who can do something don't.

She also told me to prepare for battle I take up.

Served me well at home and at work.

These are the ones I try hard to live by:

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

Comparison is the thief of joy

Forgiveness is the best form of self interest.

The above statements are so true for me. I live by them!

Only boring people get bored

Advice that was given a lot but I never understood until my counsellor helped; be kind to yourself

Oh and from my mum she always said her nana told her when dealing with difficult customers...smile and treat them as well as you can....tell them to fuck off in your mind....it keeps you sane

All bad things seem better with a piece of cake and a cup of tea.

Don't let the sun go down on your wrath.

Worse things happen at sea.

Rub it and kiss it better.

It'll be better in the morning.

Look in the mirror and say FUCK IT

Dont stress about stuff which you cant control.
Pick your battles.
Never give more information than is asked.

IliveattheBeach

My 15 year old was going through a real wobble today (I'm useless, I'm fat etc). After we spoke I read the song you posted (sunscreeen) and printed it out for her -it is great.

'This too shall pass' for difficult times

'Who gives a fuck what they think?' For all times

Oh! And a Mumsnet one!

'Not my circus, not my monkeys' Used frequently with and by DDs

You can't reason with an unreasonable person.

One I try and fail to live by, but think of often and definitely aspire to: you cannot ever change anybody, you can only change the way you respond to them.

My motto. Serves me well in my working life. And if any of my colleagues are MNetters, this will out me.

Believe no-one, assume nothing, check everything.

agree with greenfolder:
you can't argue with crazy.

I think I made this up... outs me, but still it helps me so much. When something difficult happens I'll often say

"If this is the worst thing that happens to me today-this week-this year then I will be one lucky gal."

Gosh that keeps things in perspective.

Oh I know another one....

The definition of madness:

Repeating the same thing and expecting a different outcome.