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To want unauthorised children's leave spaces to go to the next place in the queue?

185 replies

angelos02 · 20/10/2015 21:32

If you value your children's education so lowly, I assume you don't mind their space being taken?

OP posts:
futureme · 21/10/2015 00:11

Hmm. Im taking my daughter out for disneyland for a week. As are at least 3 others in the year I know about...!

Rugbyscrum · 21/10/2015 00:11

It's the ice cream option that's left me reeling. Very left field.

futureme · 21/10/2015 00:12

Hmm. Im taking my daughter out for disneyland for a week. As are at least 3 others in the year I know about...!

Booyaka · 21/10/2015 00:24

I thought this was going to be about parking.

susielovessocks · 21/10/2015 00:26

Custard should not be hot or cold, just warm. About 25 secs in the microwave should do it.

Racundra · 21/10/2015 00:44

rugbyscrum- sainsburys do a v nice christmas pudding ice cream...

Fuckingfuming82 · 21/10/2015 00:49

I'm taking my dc out of school for a holiday and the schools they go to are over subscribed and sort after.

Brioche201 · 21/10/2015 00:51

As if a week off at age 6 is going to make the slightest difference long term.any change of environment is educational

kickassangel · 21/10/2015 00:56

at Dunkin' Donuts you can get Boston Pie donuts which are chocolate on top and custard/creme anglais filling. Sadly, their spelling of the word doughnut means that I can never cross their threshold, let alone enjoy any dooughnutty, chocolately, custardy goodness.

IF I fed one to Dd would she lose her school place?

kickassangel · 21/10/2015 00:57

at Dunkin' Donuts you can get Boston Pie donuts which are chocolate on top and custard/creme anglais filling. Sadly, their spelling of the word doughnut means that I can never cross their threshold, let alone enjoy any dooughnutty, chocolately, custardy goodness.

IF I fed one to Dd would she lose her school place?

Out2pasture · 21/10/2015 01:21

it's been a while since I made pudding...Birds from scratch or Dr.Oetker?
Boston Cream donuts are lovely with hot tea.

For the life of me I don't ever remember any mention when my kids missed school....almost every Friday afternoon and often all Mondays as they were in competitive sports and travelled (along with several others all from the same school).

FeelsLikeHome123 · 21/10/2015 01:27

ummm birds custard with warm apple pie

Axekick · 21/10/2015 04:45

So the OP doesn't have kids but feels very passionately that a child taking time off should have their place removed.

Even though you overall absence could still be good, despite the holiday?

Shakey15000 · 21/10/2015 07:25

Rugbyscrum, I thank you for your custardy support Smile

I'm afraid I'm unable to reciprocate the support vis a vis custard over a donut. Can't articulate why, perhaps a texture thing

Eitherway, I blame the Tories.

WeirdCatLadySaysFuckOffJeffrey · 21/10/2015 08:04

yummmmmmmy custard doughnuts Grin

Anyone else picturing the OP going into her boss ....

Boss. So researcher, what lovely quotes did you get for our story 'Mumsnet vipers criticise judges ruling'?

OP. Erm....nothing. They started talking about custard doughnuts instead. Sad

BondJayneBond · 21/10/2015 08:05

Doughnuts filled with custard are vile and should be banned. Or at least hidden away under the counter where they can't be seen.

yeOldeTrout · 21/10/2015 08:11

Fine by me. 4 DC go to 3 under-subscribed schools so makes no difference to us. I've taken mine out for 2-3+ weeks 4x in last 11 yrs.

I know of private schools that would expel for for this reason without exception btw, even one day of absence in term time day strictly not allowed.

Also heard of a family with 4 primary-age kids who went travelling for 6 months, ruining the (badly over-subbd) school's attendance figures but it's still got an Outstanding rating even after all that. HT gave the family tacit blessings to go. I thought that was outrageous.

Verypissedoffwife · 21/10/2015 08:14

Actually a school near to me (not my own children's school - thank God) has threatened to do precisely this. They've said that any unauthorised absence may result in the loss of the school place.

It's a very oversubscribed "outstanding" academy so I guess that means they can do what they want. It's a new policy so whether or not they'll actually do this remains to be seen. All the schools in this area are oversubscribed so if this happens the child will be screwed.

paulapompom · 21/10/2015 08:21

Is the op a journalist???

I never spot them. Sad

Verypissedoffwife · 21/10/2015 08:40

I wouldn't have thought the OP writes for a living. Unless it's a cunning disguise. ..

Ilikedmyoldusernamebetter · 21/10/2015 08:45

Perhaps it should depend on the holiday.

Parents should have to write an essay defending the educational value of the holiday. It should be marked according to the standard expected of the school year their eldest child is in, and have to receive the highest available grade in order for the request to be granted and child to retain their school place. That way it'll be easy to take 5 year olds out - but harder to take year 11s to Disneyland. It'll be easier to write persuasively if the holiday really does have educational value so those holidays will be more often allowed.

OP will be unlikely to be allowed to take her hypothetical expensive children out beyond year 1 or 2.

Ilikedmyoldusernamebetter · 21/10/2015 08:52

In Germany where we live I have never ever heard of anyone even considering taking their child out of school for a holiday btw - its been absolutely not allowed for ever so long and the fines are a percentage of your income, so it just doesn't even occur to people as being something you'd do, any more than you'd demand your employer let you take extra holiday at a time entirely of your choosing on top of your annual leave because you fancy 3 weeks in Florida in January...

I'm always a bit Hmm by how irate some people in Britain get about the absolute necessity of going on holiday in term time, and how having to send children to school in term-time is unfair (but often in the next breath how inconvenient it is that school holidays are so long and how difficult it is because parents only get 4 weeks holiday, which they used up on the term time Disneyland holiday :o Hmm )

WeirdCatLadySaysFuckOffJeffrey · 21/10/2015 09:04

If the OP isn't a researcher then she is even sadder a professional loon pearl clutcher.

OP, please come back and tell us some more about why this bothers you so much, especially as you don't even have children being denied their education by these inconsiderate place-blocking, holiday-taking children Hmm

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 21/10/2015 09:15

Doughnuts in any form are the work of the devil.
We had Eton Mess for Christmas dinner last year.
Do I get a prize for managing to draw together the two strands of this thread - schools and cakes & puds?

Rugbyscrum · 21/10/2015 09:18

Ha ha, yes, like your brackets comment there likedmyoldusernamebetter, v droll.

But susielovessocks- why let it get cold and then have to microwave it? Surely better to eat it freshly made and hot from the pan? And Racundra- I can't even contemplate the Xmas pud ice cream option this early in the morning. Feel queasy already.

I blame Jeremy Corbyn (opening up whole new bag of irate MNers on grammer school issue, mind you I bet you at least get custard on your pud at such an establishment......)

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