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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To ask if anyone else has unexplained "physic" moments

309 replies

mellowheart · 20/10/2015 13:50

I can't explain how this happens but my DH will often start singing a song that I've just suddenly thought of in my head. It's often a very obscure type song, definitely not one he's heard recently. It happens immediately after I've thought it. This has also happened with others but much more often with DH. It's like he's picking up my thoughts, itms. Anyone else get similar type things?

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Senpai · 22/10/2015 06:02

I have had strange things happen to me. But I just shrug them off as coincidences and confirmation bias.

One time I had a panic attack and a few minutes later the phone rang to tell me my best friend was missing, I was sick with worry until about 6pm the next day when I suddenly wasn't for some reason, I felt relaxed and calm. I found out later she was in a bad state (obviously) but that she had checked into a hospital at around 6pm and was ok.

But there's been times that I've been worried and the phone has rang and nothing came of it. My parents rang to say DD was sick and in the hospital (while they were watching her), and I didn't think anything was wrong when I answered.

I can always tell what DH is looking for based on where he's checking, and I'll say something like "Wallet is on the sill". If he's checking around the table, it's probably his wallet. Another location, it's probably something else. I just know him well enough to know what neurotic body language means what by this point.

The more I try to rationalize belief in the metaphysical the less I can bring myself to believe it. I've gone from spiritual to agnostic, to some where hovering around atheist. It's been a gentle and gradual detachment.

BertrandRussell · 22/10/2015 06:21

"I can always tell what DH is looking for based on where he's checking, and I'll say something like "Wallet is on the sill". If he's checking around the table, it's probably his wallet. Another location, it's probably something else. I just know him well enough to know what neurotic body language means what by this point. "

Yes- I can do this too. And we finish each other's sentences. That happens when you 've known someone for 30 years!

I has a vision of my dd when I was pregnant that was so vivid I can remember it 19 years later- a curly haired blond little girl in jeans and Timberlands and a big jumper. Absolutely nothing like her. She has straight red hair and refused to wear jeans until she was about 11!

Can I gently suggest that AIBU may not be the best place to this thread? You really can't get cross with people offering the obvious logical explanations for things on this particular board!

batshitlady · 22/10/2015 07:54

I'm pretty sure no Clairvoyant or psychic has ever proved themselves genuine under study conditions . James Randi has debunked every one he's ever come across.

Still, I can't explain what happened to me.

bumbleymummy · 22/10/2015 07:56

Bert, Who do you think you are 'suggesting' that a thread shouldn't be here? The question is asking if people have other unexplained moments not asking people to come on and give their 'logical explanations' and insult people for sharing their stories. If you don't like/agree with the subject hide the thread and leave the people who want to participate alone.

LittleLionMansMummy · 22/10/2015 08:10

I'd be genuinely interested to hear other people's theories for de ja vu. I'm a bit of a psychic sceptic really but have experienced de ja vu so often and so strongly (to the point where I know I'm experiencing it and know what will happen next in the 'episode') that a logical explanation eludes me. I am assuming this is something that everyone experiences at certain times so would like to ask the other sceptics if they've experienced it and what their logical explanation is.

batshitlady · 22/10/2015 08:23

Don't play the goady posters game bumbley! Some people will always think of something to oppose what they feel is becoming the consensus. Let them have their fun!

BertrandRussell · 22/10/2015 08:56

"Bert, Who do you think you are 'suggesting' that a thread shouldn't be here? "

Put it anywhere you like. All I was saying is that if you want to talk about things that are very personal and sensitive and you don't want to be challenged, there are safer places than AIBU- which can be a bear garden.

ConstanceMarkYaBitch · 22/10/2015 09:43

The question asked is aibu...and the answer is yes for many reasons. Including that aibu is not the place for this Gubbins. Isn't there a woo topic that the rational people can hide?

bumbleymummy · 22/10/2015 09:47

You're right batshitlady :)

I've had a few déjà vu experiences. Usually where I've dreamed something before and then know what will happen next. A bit freaky!

Thanks for the reincarnation story link mellow. It wouldn't load for me last night but I got to read them all this morning. There were a couple I was familiar with. The 'barra boy' one was on TV a few years ago wasn't it?

waterrat · 22/10/2015 09:50

I dreamt that I bumped into a girl I went to school with and she told me she was pregnant. She is not a close friend and I hadn't seen her for a long time.

Literally next day I got a group email from her to several of us telling us she was pregnant. I hardly ever see her so there was no reason at all for her to be in my dream or on my mind !!!

ValancyJane · 22/10/2015 09:57

I'm a bit on the fence about whether there's anything in it all, but I do like hearing other people's stories!

My Mum had an odd one once, she was home alone with me one evening when I was about eighteen months or so. I was in bed, my Dad was out working. She said her left arm felt really heavy, like lead. She nearly rang the taxi company to call my Dad home as she was worrying, but didn't. It went on for about an hour, and as soon as Dad came home she told him about it. About an hour after this the phone rang, and her father had been taken to hospital with a heart attack (thankfully he was okay). Obviously could just be a coincidence. She is generally a bit prone to 'odd feelings' that sometimes come to pass. When she was in New York she refused to go up the world trade centres despite being perfectly happy going up the Empire State Building and having no real issue with heights, she just really didn't like the thought of it for some reason. Two weeks later it was 9/11. Again, probably just coincidence, but it freaked me out at the time!

I once came downstairs (aged around 11) and announced with certainty that my cousin was going to have her baby today, I'd had a dream about it. She was a cousin we didn't have a lot of contact with, and I'm pretty sure it was a way off her due date. Sure enough we had a call later on saying she was in labour, and she did have the baby the same day. Again, probably just a coincidence!

mellowheart · 22/10/2015 10:24

The question asked is aibu...and the answer is yes for many reasons. Including that aibu is not the place for this Gubbins. Isn't there a woo topic that the rational people can hide?
The question asked was AIBU to ask if anyone else had these psychic type moments and yes, the majority of posters on here have. So it seems I was certainly not BU.

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mellowheart · 22/10/2015 10:27

Yes bumbley I think I remember that, fascinating stuff isn't it.

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CactusAnnie · 22/10/2015 11:03

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EponasWildDaughter · 22/10/2015 11:04

Why do all the ''pull yourselves together it's all bollocks'' posters keep on and on and ON on these sort of threads when they've been told they're not particularly welcome?

I wonder if they're like this in RL? The type who upset people and then say 'oh well, you did ask ...'.

Actually, the irony of posting the same thing over and over about their own opinion and then announcing that everyone else on the thread is trying to be special is quite amusing! Grin

EponasWildDaughter · 22/10/2015 11:06

(cactus i wasn't aiming at you, i can see you're responding to a specific request.)

bumbleymummy · 22/10/2015 11:07

I love it mellowheart! I read a brilliant book with loads of accounts of children having memories of past lives. It was years ago and I think I got it out of he library. I wish I could remember what it was called!

Justmyluck1 · 22/10/2015 11:23

Eponas

They are those types that say well I call a spade a spade and i tell it like it is and usually leave. Trail of hurt and upset people in their wake in RL.

Or else they are bolshy and unkind on Internet forums but don't say boo to a goose in RL

Best ignored anyway.

LittleLionMansMummy · 22/10/2015 11:29

Yes please Cactus - as I said, genuinely interested and the human brain fascinates me especially as we only use such a small percentage of it. Imagine the possibilities!

Justmyluck1 · 22/10/2015 11:31

Mellow Smile

The op asked if anyone had psychic experiences and some have shared very personal and upsetting stories and yes it may not be a typical aibu.

However posters can use some degree of decency can't they? And accept that for lots of us these experiences are raw, real and in some cases comforting.

If you think it's all bollicks then up to you but to keep posting that is boring.

AllThatMatters · 22/10/2015 12:14

I've had a few moments that I can't explain. Firstly dreams - one where I dreamed that I was at work and got shot. The next day I was at work and bullet shells were found outside the shop next door. I also dreamed that I was at work (office based) and an old colleague was there (she left a good 2 years ago). Next day or day after, she unexpectedly came into the office. I also dreamed that we had a power cut at work and everything was off except for the phones. Next day we had a power blip - just a second, and everything went haywire except for the phones!

I have also been decorating on the stairs in the summer listening to music on my ipod (which has over 2,000 songs on) and all of a sudden I knew that the next song would not only be a Christmas song, but Rudolph the Red Nose Reindeer. I rushed down to turn it over and before I could reach it, that very song played.

BertrandRussell · 22/10/2015 12:17

"And accept that for lots of us these experiences are raw, real and in some cases comforting"

Honestly. Ask for it to be moved.

Thistledew · 22/10/2015 12:42

I don't claim to be psychic or to be any sort of special snowflake but I do have some odd experiences that I can't explain.

Some things are slightly explainable - DH will come into the room and say "where's the doo-dah?" And I will just know what he is looking for. I suppose that this is explicable in that there are a relatively small number of moveable things that he might be looking for in any possible scenario, and it is just a very quick process of elimination for me to work out what he might be looking for. I don't ever seem to guess wrongly though.

Likewise, the time that we were about to go away on holiday and were packing the car, and we just looked at each other and I said "No, I won't do that again" and he said "good", we both knew that I was referring to turning the TiVo box off when shutting down the other electrics. We were obviously mentally running through the same departure checklist - does that wholly explain why neither of us needed to clarify what I was talking about? After that exchange, I did check with him that he knew what I was referring to, and he did, as soon as we looked at each other. We have had several other moments like this, so much so that we joke that we don't just finish each other's sentences but start them as well.

One with my exP. I was in the shower getting ready to go out. He was making cheese on toast. I had suggested that he put Worcester sauce on it. I heard him banging the grill pan about and it came into my mind that he had put chilli sauce on it instead, which was something that neither of us had done before. Sure enough, when I got out of the shower, he presented me with cheese on toast with chilli sauce.

I usually text DH to let him know when I am starting my journey home. I would say that about 1 in 8 times he will call me to see when I am leaving when I am in the process of typing the text. The odd thing is that I am self-employed and there is pretty much a three hour window of when I might be leaving.

I have very vivid dreams which really linger with me and which I can remember clearly years later. I sometimes recognise a scene from my dream in real life. It is never anything particularly significant though. The most striking example of this was when I had a dream about going out for a ride on my pony with a group of friends. It was a fairly ordinary dream but it stuck in my mind because half way though the dream it was suddenly night time and we stopped at this funny cash machine booth to withdraw some money. The booth was an odd triangular shape with blue lighting panels and a big pot plant in the corner. The dream then continued on its narrative and it was daylight again. It stuck in my mind because it was so odd and out of context. More than 10 years later, my friend and I were on holiday in a rural area. We needed cash as the petrol stations and restaurants would not take our cards. We found a bank, but for some reason the machines would only let us withdraw 10 Euros at a time. Suddenly, I recognised the shape of the booth, the coloured panels and the pot plant as being exactly as they had been in my dream. There was no real significance as we were eventually able to get enough money out and we continued without mishap, but there is no doubt in my mind that I had seen the booth in my dream.

My last example of an oddity is in relation to the training position I needed to get to fully qualify in my profession. I had been applying to get one of these positions for literally years, and finally got offered a place with a particular organisation. As soon as I accepted, I had a really clear thought of "It had better not go bust". At that time there was no reason for me to have any reason to think that this would happen. The placements are arranged a year in advance, so I got on with my life in the mean time. Two months before I was due to start there I got a call from the organisation- they had gone bust. I ended up at another place, which I somehow always knew I would end up at.

LittleLionMansMummy · 22/10/2015 12:58

My dsis called me to discuss my nephew's birthday present the other morning just as the first notes of the song he shares the title name of started playing on my phone. A spooky coincidence! But then I currently have only 45 songs on my play list so when she rang it was a 1 in 45 chance it would be that song. Still a long shot though! Especially as my dsis wouldn't normally call me on a Tuesday morning as she knows I'll be on the train.

IceBeing · 22/10/2015 13:11

It makes me feel sad that people don't understand how real and powerful a phenomenon coincidence really is.

There are well over 7 billion people on the planet. Somebody somewhere is having a totally bizarre experience (that they will claim cannot be explained) every single moment of every day.

What would be truly odd and genuinely inexplicable would be if not a single random pronouncement of a child turned out to match reality...if not one single couple both happened to be thinking about the same song....if not one person on the planet had a lucid dream that matched reality...

Then you could start talking to me about weird and odd and supernatural. Then we would actually have moved out of the realm of maths and science.

I had hoped the national lottery would have helped with this problem...I mean the chances of spontaneously choosing the same song as someone you spend a lot of your life around are massively greater than the chances of winning the lottery. Yet oddly hardly anybody believes you have to be psychic to chose the winning lottery ticket....

What produces / maintains this cognitive dissonance?