To spend a lot of money on clothes etc

[sltorres9]

I'm a fashion blogger/writer, every week I can spend up to and sometimes over £600 on clothes. Often I get sent free stuff but I like buying this. But now my partner is saying I'm disgusting for spending so much and should invest that money into my family. Who is in the wrong :(

£600 is probably over exaggerated it's more likely to be £400

how does one over exaggerate

psychotropic. Lots of people use that phrase, even though it's technically incorrect. Doesn't add much to this thread to point it out.

psychotropic, I think I love you. I was just talking with a friend yesterday about people saying "over exaggerate."

sltorres9 - PLEASE COULD YOU LINK TO YOUR BLOG!!!

Sorry to shout but I have already asked twice!

I bought some Kurt Geiger shoes that weren't even in my size just because I like how they look

You have a problem.

Seeyounearer

Report it then

But just in case it's real (and her other threads are), don't contribute if you don't think she's genuine.

Why shout? If she links to her blog, won't it out her? Why would she do that?

I think it's too much. Where do you store such a lot of stuff? How can you wear all your stuff?

It just seems a bit of an odd choice, unless you are obscenely rich, which you are not. You would be much better stashing some of this money away for your dc's future if it's not needed for everyday expenses.

This sort of clothing doesn't really have a high resale value either so it isn't as though you can get the money back.

£600 would buy me clothing for several years.

Have you paid off your mortgage? If not, send the money that way.

So you pay 60% of the bills and still have £400/week left for clothes?

Do you have savings? Own your own home?

Sit down with your OH and a spreadsheet.

Look at how much money you have coming in.

Work out how much money is needed for all household expenses and all child-related expenses. Anything that you agree you should both contribute towards.

Agree on an amount to save up.

Split the rest evenly between you. That's your spending money, and you can do as you please with it. You can't criticise or comment on how he spends his half, and he can't criticise how you spend your half.

If that's £600, great.

If it's not, then yes that £600 was too much.

Do you earn all that money from your blog? If so I guess it's running costs of the business. Even if you lay out £5000 a year on clothes and bring in £10000 profit that's not too bad for a small business.
However if the blog brings in £50 a week and you are just spending 1/3 of your wages on clothes I'd say it's too much.

I earn my own money and its usually my own money that I use, maybe £100 of OH's

So, you spend £400 a month of his money on clothes, is that right?

I think it's obscene...unless you are very very wealthy, to spend so much on clothes. My god, imagine the holidays you could have or an upgrade on your home or a car or just save it for your child's future education. Still, it's your choice. I know I'd be extremely fucked off if my oh spent so much on something like that.

It sounds like you might be addicted but having said that if your not in any debt and can still afford nappies etc then what's the problem?

If it would make you feel better, you could spend £600 a week on clothes for me if you like

I probably spend £50 a year on clothes. A bit more this year because I lost 3 stone quite quickly and had to do a major wardrobe change! But, if I had that amount of disposable income, clothes would probably be my weakness too.

I have never seen a blogger that wants to keep their blog a secret!

well this blogger wants to keep her blog a secret because she's got a personal issue going on, so obviously doesn't want to link the two.

tbh I'm not sure I believe you - a blog that makes that much money? If that were the case, you'd be getting most of your clothes for free

have you honestly worked out your profit etc on the spending on those clothes?

it does sound like you've got a problem, if you get ill or something and need the cash, the clothes won't be worth half as much when you try to resell them

agree with a PP who says if your mortgage, pension, etc are all sorted.

oh and using your BF's money to pay for clothes is just mad, don't know why he's putting up with that.

PS £600 would also buy me clothing for about ...5 years I reckon.

As I have no idea who she is then I wouldn't know she has a personal issue going on! She could have just said she didn't want to link to her blog. Anyway I think you are probably right to not believe this.

Have you thought about counselling for the issue? IN our area you can self refer for 6-8 sessions and if you were up front at the beginning about how much you are spending/ that your partner is concerned/ you could perhaps explore why you are trying to buy happiness.

One tip might be to take photos of the pretty things you see rather than actually buying them ...?

It sounds like you have a problem but you aren't really sure if you have a problem.

73 - I mean the post here IS the personal issue...so why would she want to attach a real name/blog URL to it?

Your weekly spend on clothes is about equal to my family's food budget for an entire month. It is way too much.

You seem a little vague about how easily you can actually afford this too. Coupling this with your birth trauma thread, which I believe I contributed to, and it sounds like you may have a fair few problems for which you could do with professional help.

I am guessing your DP may be worried, both about your spending habits and about how you are generally.