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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To spend a lot of money on clothes etc

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sltorres9 · 18/10/2015 14:18

I'm a fashion blogger/writer, every week I can spend up to and sometimes over £600 on clothes. Often I get sent free stuff but I like buying this. But now my partner is saying I'm disgusting for spending so much and should invest that money into my family. Who is in the wrong :(

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LikeASoulWithoutAMind · 18/10/2015 15:52

Nearly 2.5 grand a month on clothes is an awful lot unless you are earning a serious amount of money. What I notice with fashion bloggers is they often buy stuff to try and then return most of it. That would keep the cost down a lot surely?

OstentatiousBreastfeeder · 18/10/2015 15:53

Ok.

BumpTheElephant · 18/10/2015 15:59

If this is actually real which I doubt then of course it's ridiculous! What you spend on clothes equates to many families entire household income.

cashewnutty · 18/10/2015 16:02

Hahahahaha. That is ridiculous. I think it is fair to say you are the one in the wrong. You buy clothes and don't even wear them. What is the point?

thefutureofpolitics · 18/10/2015 16:08

Goodness, I thought we were doing OK until this! Well, it's each to their own really isn't it? If you can afford to spend (gasp) £600 on clothes a week and still care for your family, it's all good but would never do it personally. We do well (well enough to fund a good lifestyle etc) but we remember what it was like to have no money whatsoever when we first got together so I think that has made us very careful with money now we have it. As long as our family is catered for, we enjoy a few holidays a year and so on but I don't think we could ever be that O.T.T with money, no matter how much we had. Everybody is different though and if it makes you happy, it is cool!

Narp · 18/10/2015 16:14

I am mentioning this because of another thread. It would worry me that, in the context of what you earn, and you aren't generally feeling very happy at the moment.

I'd be kinder about it than your DP has been, but basically, do you think it's possible you are trying to spend your way into happiness or contentment, or out of feelings of anxiety?

Narp · 18/10/2015 16:16

The OP has a previous thread about how she's feeling about her birth trauma.

73dexter · 18/10/2015 16:20

Could you link to your blog so I can have a look and see what the £600 gets you?

Longislandicetee · 18/10/2015 16:23

I spend a lot on clothes, I could spend a lot more and not notice the cost but I wouldn't dream of spending at the rate you do. It's seriously excessive. And won't buy you anything longer than fleeting happiness. You need to look at other areas of your life that's causing you to spend that kind of money. Good luck.

lashawn · 18/10/2015 16:23

Of course yanbu.

I spend around 2K a week on clothes, which is close to 90% of my salary.

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sltorres9 · 18/10/2015 16:31

I don't buy just for my blog but a lot of it is branded things which makes it more expensive. Now that I think about it, part of it is to make me happy and not just for my blog.
My blog does really well and I've been to movie premieres and launched a limited edition clothing range from it so it's not been in vain
I just love fashion and can't stop spending

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Nanny0gg · 18/10/2015 16:34

How much do you contribute to the household?

73dexter · 18/10/2015 16:36

sltorres9 - could you link to your blog please?

WipsGlitter · 18/10/2015 16:36

What's your blog?

Narp · 18/10/2015 16:36

'can't stop spending'

That sounds a bit worrying

Sansoora · 18/10/2015 16:40

If this is actually real which I doubt then of course it's ridiculous! What you spend on clothes equates to many families entire household income.

As long as its another families money she's spending its irrelevant its another families entire household income.

hooliodancer · 18/10/2015 16:41

Some may say your money, your choice. If you have no mortgage, savings and a pension then fine. If not, then you should maybe think of ensuring you have financial security before spending so much.

I now really regret frittering money away on clothes. I used to buy far too many, thinking- I suppose- that they made me happy. I wish I had over paid the mortgage, that really really would make me very happy now. It is easy to think 'I can afford it' in the moment, but if the financial rug were to pulled from under your feet at some point then you may feel differently.

If you are suffering from an addiction though, you need to find some help. Your gp could point you in the right direction for something appropriate.

Thurlow · 18/10/2015 16:43

"Can't stop spending" is not a good thing to be able to say.

But really, it's impossible to say anything without knowing how much of your DH's salary goes into running the house. If you get to spend at least 50%, on average, of your salary on clothes just for you - not even on clothes for DC, days out, trips to soft play, dinners out etc - every single month, it just sounds excessive.

I don't ascribe to what other posters are saying about buying clothes being boring. I buy loads of crap over a month, between clothes for me and DC, books, stuff for the house and all that, that plenty of other people would see as a waste or should be saved instead. But 50% at least of your salary on this stuff is a hell of a lot.

Either your DH is paying for everything, or you've got the ability to spend £300 and save £300, which is surely still ok?

How much does your DH spend?

ThatsDissapointing · 18/10/2015 16:44

How about just stopping spending your DPs money then. I'm a bit perplexed by your OP as I don't understand what you are asking. If you think you are spending too much then spend less. If you cant stop spending then try and get some help. As long as you are happy with your reasons for shopping then that should be ok.

Fashion doesn't interest me but that doesn't mean I think it's wrong to spend money on clothes. People spend money on all sorts of things that don't have much purpose such as art, fancy houses, fancy food or jewellery. Saying that £600 a week is a lot.

Sansoora · 18/10/2015 16:45

Sorry that should have been

'as long as its not another families money'.

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sltorres9 · 18/10/2015 16:52

Yeah when I think about it I think I've got a problem, I bought some Kurt Geiger shoes that weren't even in my size just because I like how they look, boyfriend pays for about 40% of the bills

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sltorres9 · 18/10/2015 16:53

£600 is probably over exaggerated it's more likely to be £400

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Narp · 18/10/2015 16:56

If you think that your spending has an emotional trigger, have a look at this:

Shopping Addiction

You were thinking of going to the GP anyway about your emotional state (?depression) Maybe this is another clue that you need to do that

ThatsDissapointing · 18/10/2015 16:56

Err, buying the wrong size shoes is definitely a bit . Why don't you return them.

flossietoot · 18/10/2015 16:58

Really quite depressing to be honest.

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