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To not want to buy school uniform from a paedophile

83 replies

UsernameRandom · 18/10/2015 13:27

Have nc'd.

Ds started reception this year, and I bought his uniform in the summer. Shortly after, I read in the local news that the owner is a paedophile. He has admitted a series of offences and is awaiting sentencing.

He still lives above the shop. The conditions of his bail include not employing staff under the age of 18 and not being around children without their parents present amongst other things.

I now need extra uniform. I don't want to go near the shop, I don't want to give them my money. I feel sick that my child was trying on clothes in their changing room while he was there. No other shop sells it. Aibu? And wwyd?

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SurlyCue · 18/10/2015 13:29

Interesting. We had the same situation in our town a few years ago. However we had other options for buying uniform. Is there nowhere at all that sells them? Contact the school and ask to be sure. You could also post on FB asking if anyone is selling the size you need. And try charity shops.

Rebecca2014 · 18/10/2015 13:32

I would contact the school.

Gobbolinothewitchscat · 18/10/2015 13:32

I would go in myself, buy various sizes and take them go to DS to try on. I'd then return what wasn't needed myself.

LemonySmithit · 18/10/2015 13:35

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ElsaAintAsColdAsMe · 18/10/2015 13:35

I would go and get a generic uniform from tesco or asda. If the school questions it, tell them exactly why.

I wouldn't want to line the pockets of that pervert either.

Summer23 · 18/10/2015 13:36

Agree to contacting the school. I wouldn't want to set foot in the shop again.

TheFear · 18/10/2015 13:36

It's not as if shopping there is going to impact on you or your child. I don't understand your logic if nowhere else to buy the stuff.

ProjectGainsborough · 18/10/2015 13:41

Maybe chat to the school about it. They may not know about the shop owner and they might also be able to suggest an online retailer / supply it themselves.

00100001 · 18/10/2015 13:44

the fear the logic is, OP doesn't want to fund a known paedophile selling children's clothes!

I wouldn't spend money at any shop I knew a paedophile owned.

UsernameRandom · 18/10/2015 13:46

It's not as if shopping there is going to impact on you or your child. I don't understand your logic if nowhere else to buy the stuff.

I don't want to spend my money there. I feel the same way about the rude cafe owner who wouldn't let my 2 year old use the toilet.

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molyholy · 18/10/2015 13:47

Similar happened in our town. It was an employee though and not the owners, but the shop has shut down and another shop now supplies the uniform.

UsernameRandom · 18/10/2015 13:48

Good idea about just buying the same colours, I'll do that and speak to the school.

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SurlyCue · 18/10/2015 13:51

I know a retailer in town who abused his wife for years. It doesnt affect me or her if i spend money in his shop but i dont want to! I do not want to improve his life in any way, spending money in his shop would provide him with a profit. So i dont do it. Same as i wouldnt fund someone i knew to be a drug dealer or money launderer or terrorist. It doesnt matter that OPs child isnt affected by her spending money there. It is the principle.

PHANTOMnamechanger · 18/10/2015 13:52

I'd be very uncomfortable with this too. Would people continue to use a soft play owned by a child abuser, or a child-friendly coffee shop, even if the pervert owner were not on site? I wouldn't. I'd be speaking to the school about this. They need to find an alternative supplier. They can order any logoed stuff direct from manufacturers and sell it themselves like many schools do.

Marshy · 18/10/2015 13:52

I'm pleased to say I never came across a situation like this in all the years I was buying school uniform.

You are free to spend your money, or not spend it, where ever you like. Go somewhere else.

StealthPolarBear · 18/10/2015 13:53

Unless you all love near to each other there seems to be quite a few of them. I suppose paedophile are attracted to this sort of job :(
(Just in case anyone chooses to misinterpret that I am not saying people in this job are paedophile! )

SurlyCue · 18/10/2015 13:55
Booyaka · 18/10/2015 13:55

Considering he probably used his business as a ruse to be around half clothed infants I wouldn't be going in there either.

hiddenhome2 · 18/10/2015 13:57

He probably has covert cameras set up in the changing room. No way would I take my kids in there.

Just buy generic uniform from other shops and tell the school what's going on. Get the other parents on board too.

Marshy · 18/10/2015 13:59

I am a little surprised he is allowed to continue in this line of business given the conviction. And that he continues to live over the shop following the newspaper article.

UsernameRandom · 18/10/2015 13:59

Actually he might not be the owner but it's a family business and he still lives/works there. Either way, I'm not comfortable with it at all. I don't think he should be anywhere near children getting undressed.

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StealthPolarBear · 18/10/2015 14:00

Why on earth does my phon turn live into love
And I agree op even if you think nothing is going on, I just wouldn't want to give him my money

SilverdaleGlen · 18/10/2015 14:00

Nope you aren't wrong I wouldn't be buying it and would be telling school why.

PHANTOMnamechanger · 18/10/2015 14:01

surely given his convictions, the changing rooms woud have been checked out for cameras etc during the investigation? If there was anything that directly involved his business activities, this would have been all over the media, & the shop would have been closed down if only for fear of vigilantees?

Seeyounearertime · 18/10/2015 14:01

I don't see how he's still trading tbh? Surely every parent at every school in the nearby area should be complaining to every school and stripping him of the rights to sell school uniforms? Or is that BU?

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