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Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To say men playing video games is childish?

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PampersNotPampered · 16/10/2015 13:21

My DP is the most wonderful person, and the video games don't annoy me to an extent of anger, but they do raise my eyebrow a lot.

DP is only 22 but I think this is still too old to be playing games, although I understand men more than twice his age do. I once asked DP ''aren't you a little old for those?" And his reply was a very calm 'no, it's a stress reliever and my boss plays it too' (his boss is 44 with a wife and 2 DCs).

What cringes me out the most is him swearing and talking to other players over the zombie games etc, who are mores often that not less than half his age or not much older than half his age! Yes, really.

I understand that I'm lucky he's the type to ask 'do you want me to come off this?' And often I just say no darling. This is because I can get on with other things. Even I ask him to come off, he will and you wouldn't have known he even liked playing because he acts so normal once he's off.

My DP is a 'normal' bloke in all aspects apart from the silly video games. I just wish he'd stick to fishing instead lol.

AIBU to say grown men playing video games is a little bit eye brow raising worthy? I understand it is a stress buster, and perhaps I'm just a moody cow and need to be put in my place by fellow MNetters.

OP posts:
TaliZorahVasNormandy · 18/10/2015 08:40

Nucky, who is your ME romance?

Toria2014 · 18/10/2015 09:02

Oooooh, I LOVED Far Cry 4. I admit to having a tiny crush on the villian. He was funny as fuck. The last sequence was so much fun, had a massive grin on my face!

Watched the new trailer for the next Far Cry, its set in the stone age. Should be interesting!

I have just started playing Mass Effect 3. Played the first two on xbox ages ago. Picked number 3 up cheap recently. I am not normally an RPG fan, don't have the patience, but I really enjoyed them. Have gone for the action option on no 3 this time though, so I can just dip in and out. Claudia Black does some voice acting in it if I remember, I could listen to her all day.

Everyone is still asleep here this morning, wonder if I can sneak off and fire up the PS4....! Grin

NuckyS · 18/10/2015 09:09

Tali

When I started at ME2 it was Miranda, but when ME1 came out for the Ps3 I started from scratch and romanced Liara (have to say, I was a bit disappointed I couldn't romance Tali in ME1).

I also married Ysolda in Skyrim, and we've been blissfully happy since ;)

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 18/10/2015 09:14

I'm a bit gutted still there was no Joker romance or even Vega in 3. For Femshep that romances are pretty shit. MShep gets a good pick of the women.

TaliZorah · 18/10/2015 09:23

I was so upset my Khajiit couldn't marry anyone in Skyrim. I headcannon her and her Khajiit follower are a couple, adventuring and saving the world and shit.

NuckyS · 18/10/2015 09:26

I haven't played as Femshep yet, but have heard the romance options are limited. Thinking to try an Ashley romance this time.

My favourite gaming memory is running across rooftops and solving glyphs in Assassins Creed II with my then newborn DD1 sleeping on my chest - bliss!

Isitchristmasyet4 · 18/10/2015 09:28

I disagree with most people, YANBU.
In my experience any of my friends partners who play video games are childish? I'm so glad my partner doesn't sit in a room for hours looking at a screen. It's definitely better all round to have an active hobby. Recently there was a study that showed kids who play video games do worse in exams. It's pretty obvious to me. It's very unnatural or something. I don't mean to upset anyone who plays games or partners do, just my honest opinion. Grin

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 18/10/2015 09:28

Awwwww, the game the first gave us Ezio. Those were good times.

DrHarleenFrancesQuinzel · 18/10/2015 09:31

The geeks shall inherit the earth!

That is probably true to some effect. When the zombie apocalypse comes they will be the ones who know what to do as they would have had practise in not only killing them, but also dealing with the war that will be created within the living etc.

TaliZorah · 18/10/2015 09:31

isitchristmasyet how is gaming any worse than any other hobby? I really don't understand why it's "childish" to game but not to watch films.

DrHarleenFrancesQuinzel · 18/10/2015 09:33

I'm so glad my partner doesn't sit in a room for hours
Mine doesn't. He has all the consoles too, but only plays for a couple of hours a night once the DCs are in bed/upstairs.

study that showed kids who play video games do worse in exams
DH doesnt have any exams so thats fine Grin

NuckyS · 18/10/2015 09:35

Yeah, happy days - I liked Rogue as well, but DD1 is now 5 so less willing to lie quietly ;)

BoneyBackJefferson · 18/10/2015 09:40

YouTheCat
"Isn't it lovely how a thread about how we are all childish has turned into a games review?"

this ^

but its probably because gamers tend to be a very welcoming bunch that know what its like to be judged.

BadLad · 18/10/2015 09:53

It's definitely better all round to have an active hobby.

Of course, playing video games means that you never, ever do anything active.

TaliZorah · 18/10/2015 09:54

I used to listen to ZombiesRun while running, then I remembered I'm a gamer and therefore not allowed to leave the basement I apparently dwell in. Bummer.

YouTheCat · 18/10/2015 10:01

I want a link to this study that says gamers do worse in exams.

My dd is a gamer and has done fine in her exams. I've never had a problem with exams.

TheMotherOfHellbeasts · 18/10/2015 10:08

Ahhh the old better to have an active hobby line. I own and run a ranch, have a toddler and three giant breed dogs - I don't want an active hobby I want a bloody sit down! Grin

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 18/10/2015 10:12

When you spend 10 hours a day at work having patients give you shit because cant book them an appt, sometimes its nice to have time where you can shed and escape into a whole other world or time.

Isitchristmasyet4 · 18/10/2015 10:12

Mine doesn't. He has all the consoles too, but only plays for a couple of hours a night

So he plays it for hours at night? Contradiction.
It's just my opinion! I like my men to be outdoorsy playing sport.. Just my preference Wink

Isitchristmasyet4 · 18/10/2015 10:16

I don't think having a active hobby and also playing a few games is bad, I'm talking about people who go to work (or don't) and just play games. It's just not healthy Smile but each to their own, again this is my opinionGrin

TaliZorah · 18/10/2015 10:17

You're saying its your opinion but then putting snarky opinion as fact lines like "it's just not healthy" in there. Hmmmmm

Isitchristmasyet4 · 18/10/2015 10:19

It's my opinion that it's not healthy, I'm not a doc Wink

TaliZorah · 18/10/2015 10:23

*Playing video games is more likely to have a negative impact on a child's GCSE results than using social media, a study has found.

Around 77pc of 14 to 16 year-olds who play games rarely achieved five 'good' GCSE grades, compared to 41pc who play games twice a day, the report claimed.

Despite social media being a much more popular activity among those examined, with 81pc on young people using networks daily, no link was found between intensive social networking and poor exam performance.

The study, conducted on students within Northern Ireland by the National Children's Bureau, found than four in 10 spent four or more hours a day online during their GCSE year, with those who used a computer for three hours daily to complete homework obtaining the best GCSE results - with 79pc achieving A* to C grades.

GCSE students who rarely played video games were more likely to gain higher results than those who played twice daily, the report found SALLY AND RICHARD GREENHILL / ALAMY

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Students without internet access at home were found to be at a significant disadvantage, with only 29pc obtaining five good grades compared to 68pc of those with home WiFi.

"Young People are often so confident in their use of new technology that we can forget they need our support to establish good habits," said Celine McStravick, director of the National Children’s Bureau in Northern Ireland.

"Our research shows that using a computer for homework can help pupils consolidate learning and do better in exams, so schools should be regularly setting homework that requires the use of a computer and the internet," she added.

Social media use has been blamed for exposing children to danger, disrupting their sleep and forcing them into the hands of psychologists to seek help with coping with the pressures of appearing popular on social media.

A 2012 study found that pupils with regular access to games based on traditional favourites such as space invaders and football penalty shoot-outs significantly improved their scores in GCSE English, maths and science.

Teachers said the use of the system – employed by some 900 primary and secondary schools – promoted “stealth learning”, with children unwittingly picking up key skills while being engrossed in computer games.*

Either I read that wrong or its claiming that some games are positive.

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 18/10/2015 10:24

My DD uses games to do her maths homework. They arent all bad.