To have told my niece I'm not mad on her choice of name feel a bitch

[Everythingwillbeok]

My niece has a little boy, 6 with a "normal name" popular and nice.
She's due in about 7 weeks I think with a baby girl. She lives about an hour away so don't see her loads, we've just chatted on the phone and she's mentioned her choice of name. I really wish I'd have said oh that's cute or something and as we were on the phone could probably have got away with it.

But I think I went quiet and said "oh right....Mmmmm I'm not mad" argh I feel like a cow, it's nothing to do with me.

My sister(her mother) has just text me saying I believe you don't like daughters choice of name, she's offended.

How can I put this right, we aren't particularly close but I really don't want to make anyone feel bad,especially when pregnant.

It's just a silly name, sorry but it is.

Let's hope they've got it wrong and she has a boy
Seriously, can't you speak to your sister again and stress this poor child will have the shit ripped out of her for ever more?

Holy Fuck. Your niece is hoping to give birth to a My Little Pony.

Stand your ground OP. You don't have to be nice about batshit names. I tend to blurt out things like "Wow, that's unusual!" when I hear names like that. Thankfully the parents were normally aiming for unusual and take it as a compliment

Just found another Kandy Raine. She's a poet from Tennessee. Though I think Raine might be her surname.
No wonder there is an association with strippers. The girl group Kandy rain from x-factor were in fact previously strippers. They were evicted first, and booed off stage.

YANBU, and were quite polite about it too!!

Before knowing about the group I already thought it was a stripper or porn actress name.

Yes, I mentioned the girl band thing to my sister, who texted back "yeah I think that's where she got it from" NO HOPE.

I am so sorry but that made me laugh.

I think Kandy-Reign would be better. It's more regal.

Don't bother apologising, it would be a lie

What you should do instead is send a link to this thread as clearly she's got mad baby brain hormones and needs an intervention

Terrible name. YANBU. No way. It had to be said.

I think Kaandii-Rehyne. It's unique.

Wow. That is literally the worst name I have ever seen. The only way it could be worse if if she made the spelling even more yooneek - Kanndie-Reyne or something.

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Wasn't Princess Diana's stepmother called Raine?

I'm sure I read that Diana and her siblings used to whisper :-

"Raine, Raine go away
And don't come back another day"

But I could be wrong...

oh dear - good on you OP for speaking up. Will no one else think of the poor child?

Perhaps you could point out to niece that she is really hampering the child's life choices - I mean if this baby is ever to grow up to be a stripper, drag queen, porn star or manufactured girl group her number one option is already all used up.

If my Mum was daft enough to call me something stupid and horrible like Kandy-Raine I'd hold it against her forever or at least until I was old enough to deed poll myself a less "cheap perfume" moniker (after which I'd simply take the piss out of her forever).

Sounds like a porn star name :0

And actually wasn't Raine (Spencer) actually Barbara Cartlands niece or something?

That's a stripper or a trailer park name

Actually, a stripper who lives in a trailer park

Classy

Utterly ridiculous, poor little baby

Bet your sister isn't impressed either but feeling obliged to stick up for your niece.

I like Rain.

Kandy is dreadful, and not made better by the addition of Rain.

This name will have to go on their CV

This was my first thought. People will judge. They shouldn't, but they will.

There are lots of studies showing how peoples' names affect their life outcomes, perhaps because society treats them in a way that is deemed to "fit" their name. A child called Kandy-Rain is going to be patronised, princessed, not taken seriously.

I'm willing to bet that nobody called Kandy-Rain has ever successfully closed a £1b deal or successfully prosecuted a murderer.

Oh god! That is ATROCIOUS. You were merely doing your civic duty by telling her not to be a fuckwit in the nicest of terms

I'm guessing your niece isn't on Mumsnet...

Let's hope your niece doesn't have a friend on MN who knows about her name choice OP?

Like Prince's Purple Rain? Niiice

OP did say her niece and sister are unlikely to be on here SoupDragon but they might have other relatives/friends who are and who know the name.