To have told my niece I'm not mad on her choice of name feel a bitch

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My niece has a little boy, 6 with a "normal name" popular and nice.
She's due in about 7 weeks I think with a baby girl. She lives about an hour away so don't see her loads, we've just chatted on the phone and she's mentioned her choice of name. I really wish I'd have said oh that's cute or something and as we were on the phone could probably have got away with it.

But I think I went quiet and said "oh right....Mmmmm I'm not mad" argh I feel like a cow, it's nothing to do with me.

My sister(her mother) has just text me saying I believe you don't like daughters choice of name, she's offended.

How can I put this right, we aren't particularly close but I really don't want to make anyone feel bad,especially when pregnant.

It's just a silly name, sorry but it is.

Usual- expressing a dislike or even mocking a theoretical name for a not yet existing baby anonymously on a forum does not equal embracing bullying a real child in RL.

And,frankly, I have a horrible old fashioned name myself (much hated on here) and I don't really like people taking the mick out of people's names.

Did she get the name from urban dictionary?
www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=candy+rain

That's dreadful CarlaJones, maybe the girlband was named after that to be controversial? OP, do show your sister the link Carla has put on.

Show her the urban dictionary ref. OP! Might give her pause for thought.

If she seriously wants to give this name to her child OP, you have to draw her attention to that urban dictionary definition.

No wonder the name sounds like a porn star's name.

It really would be beyond cruel to land a poor child with a name that is going to get her bullied in all sorts of ways.

Sometimes the sonographer gets the sex of the baby wrong though, so there's a little hope.

It really isn't a good name. i mean, fair enough different people like different names, but this is just shockingly awful.

Maybe once the baby is born, your niece will look at her and say "no, she doesn't look like a candy-rain, let's think of another, equally exotic name".

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I rather approve of Jezebel - aside from the historically questionable association with 'painted women' she was certainly a powerful woman who knew her own mind !

But this might be your way out, OP, just call your niece and say you are sorry she is upset, you were just so shocked she wants to call her dd "semen".

It's not great, no denying. she probably won't take any notice of objections from family but if a friend reacts negatively it might have more effect. Just hope OP!

I choked on my judge pants when I read Shane Ritchie and his wife named their daughter Lolita. Always worth a bit of research when choosing a name!

Is it indelicate to ask the name of your DN ? If it's something like Barbarella Hotpants then at least there is form in the family and the semblance of an excuse ....

As if having Shane Richie for a dad wasn't bad enough............

I really like Lolita.

It reminds me of the friends episode where phoebe calls mikes girlfriend Susan because she can't say Precious! How could someone give a child such a ridiculous name.

Please tell your DSis and Dniece Candy Rain means Spunk! THEY will apologize for having been insulted!

Well the sex fluids think will do it.
She will never use it if she knows that.

Oh.

Is that the sound of 100 ASs at once?

Maid - I agree, the name itself would be lovely if it weren't for this...

dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/lolita

Ok turns out shitty link with little to say but it's there.

More here.

en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lolita

Get back to your dsis and niece and say, 'Gosh, I know how rude I sounded earlier and for that I am truly sorry but I've since remembered that I saw something online which was < insert the urban dictionary link>. I know you would rather I showed you this to save you finding out too late what about Charlotte? '

If they still think its a nice name consider informing the authorities.

I usually go with, "well it's different", "that's unusual".
I'd say she'll be changing her mind if you show her the Urban Dictionary description.

Well it sounds as though someone should tell her the urban dictionary definition but honestly why can't she choose her own daughters name? What happens if, when she is shown the link, she googles the name for herself and this thread comes up. She might not have Internet where she lives but will possibly have access somewhere to do this.

It isn't bullying the child isn't born yet, if op's niece does see this hopefully she will see sense. You were not unreasonable O.P you handled it well.

Kandy-Rain isn't a name, it's a horrendous branding exercise waiting to go wrong on The Apprentice.