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Original poster

To shout at people who let fireworks off?!

139 replies

sltorres9 · 15/10/2015 19:00

A Load of fireworks have just gone off, my baby woke up crying, I've raced out of the house to the house where they were being Let off, I said "if you let one more firework off before the 5th november" I'll shove that firework so far up your arse ?? now three dogs in the street are howling, my cat has gone in hiding and I need to comfort my son!!

OP posts:
Crabbitface · 15/10/2015 23:01

Yes - OP completely overreacted and should apologise to her neighbours.

She has NOT refused to accept is as a reason for the fireworks. She said she hadn't heard of it...then said she didn't think it was celebrated where she lives. AND the first mention of Diwali was someone telling her to get used to the fireworks because Diwali starts in November - so why would she think it was a reason for fireworks tonight?

Seriously - stick to the topic on hand guys and stop inventing stuff to be outraged about.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 15/10/2015 23:15

No one invented a reason to be offended. She didn't know about Diwali. Instead of accepting and realising that as a reason for the fireworks (when explained to her), she pointed out her mother had never heard of it, as if that makes it ok. Yet she still didn't admit her attitude was awful.

Pinkandbluemcdonald5 · 15/10/2015 23:17

Bighairy, as I said I have never witnessed Diwali. However I have never seen it in shops either. I'm aware of the celebration, but it is not visual in the town I live in.

Crabbitface · 15/10/2015 23:24

she still didn't admit her attitude was awful
Her second post stated that she was OTT. And anyway is that how it works on MN. Ask if you have been unreasonable and if the majority think you are you have to beg forgiveness.

Instead of accepting and realising that as a reason for fireworks
It wasn't the reason for the fireworks so why would she accept that it was?

she pointed out her mother had never heard of it
Because she was feeling under attack by a bunch of intellectual snobs who are aghast at the lack of someone else's cultural and religious knowledge.

You know nothing about OP - her background, her education but you are happy to judge her intellect. It seems that the OP is not the only one being unreasonable.

pinotblush · 15/10/2015 23:24

I don't see why people are getting on their high horses about some folk not knowing about Dwali. Doesn't mean your thick Confused I know about it due to living in London though.

I do however love fireworks and don't mind hearing them go off at all. But there again I don't have any animals for babies.

TPel · 15/10/2015 23:25

Well you are just a peach aren't you

pinotblush · 15/10/2015 23:25

animals for babies Grin or of course!

Baconyum · 15/10/2015 23:39

"I must be no fun either because I'd like them banned entirely except for public displays." Me too they're dangerous, frightening to animals, babies and the elderly. I've also seen the damage they can do (most commonly as a result of toddlers/babies being given sparklers!).

"and aren't you supposed to have a licence for them?" Only to sell them

www.gov.uk/fireworks-the-law

"But if it's not celebrated where I live then of course I wouldn't know what it is!" THIS is what i think surprised/shocked people.

Do you not read? Watch TV though? Have you heard of thanksgiving? St Patrick's day? Hanukkah?

MistressDeeCee · 15/10/2015 23:43

Id be annoyed in your position too but honestly, the world around you can't become silent just because you've had a baby. So unless your neighbours are regularly and unreasonably noisy then you are going to have to get used to annoying noise really

whatsbehindthegreendoor · 16/10/2015 04:38

You sound as bad as my mother. You can guarantee every bloody year she will start moaning about fireworks in October - just because she has dogs who get jumpy when they're let off. Her choice to have dogs, other peoples choice to let off fireworks. As long as the fireworks are let off in a person's garden, then you have no say and you were rude to talk to those people in that way.
If fireworks are sold in shops now, why shouldn't they be let off? It's not like 7pm is particularly late is it?
Let's face it, most people aren't going to have displays that go on for hours are they? After all, who can afford to these days?!

LisbethSalandersLaptop · 16/10/2015 04:51

I think we should have more fire works and OP should buy her baby ear defenders Grin

Surprised about Diwali though , don't the kids learn about it in junior school ?

Obs2015 · 16/10/2015 05:11

Omg. At the Diwali comment. And yes people have the right to set off fireworks every night of the year, should they so choose. You sound unpleasant - what are you going to threaten next?

Cornettoninja · 16/10/2015 05:30

Umm diwali doesn't start till November. Yes it's pretty dense to have never heard of it, but it's a redundant stick to beat the op with in this situation - it doesn't apply at all and looks stupid.

Fwiw, I hate private fireworks for the most part, people set off the most powerful ones they can find which aren't suitable for built up areas generally. They don't strike me as people who want to see the prettiness but just want the carpet bombing sound effects. That most definitely is intrusive and inconsiderate. Let's not get started on the safety aspect...,

At least organised displays generally look good.

Axekick · 16/10/2015 05:31

Personally I agree that fireworks should be display only. I unfortunately was a witness to a horrific firework accident which left a person dead, when I was a teen.

That doesn't mean it's ok to threaten anyone. It's absolutely not. And I would be calling the police of you spoke to me like that.

As for Diwali. I live in rural Yorkshire. I just know about it. Don't even know why. I find it odd that the OP doesn't. To me it like not knowing about Ramadan. But I don't think it makes her ignorant. That's quite a weird point of view.

londonrach · 16/10/2015 06:23

I know what diwali is (im sure everyone does) but as mentioned before i have never seen it.

MsJamieFraser · 16/10/2015 06:41

Saying you behaved OTT, when you behaved in a threatening manner is not apologising.

YABU, what a perfect role model you are to your son Hmm

ValancyJane · 16/10/2015 06:46

YAB specacularly U! However, if you are a tad sleep deprived at the moment I can understand how you may have got carried away. I think you owe your neighbours a heartfelt apology, and possibly some chocolate!!

ValancyJane · 16/10/2015 06:47

*spectacularly

VulcanWoman · 16/10/2015 07:27

Diwali is not just celebrated by Hindus and it is on the 11th of Nov this particular year in the UK. Why would it be in the shops and the like if no one in the area celebrates it. I live in an area that does but it's only became more popular in the past 10 years or so.

Original poster
sltorres9 · 16/10/2015 07:35

They actually came to mine to apologize, the person who let them off is in hospital with burns because he was drunk, that's why they were randomly let off

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Shutthatdoor · 16/10/2015 07:42

I hope you apologised for your behaviour too.

YouBastardSockBalls · 16/10/2015 07:43

YWBU OP.

However, I only know what Diwali is because of RE at school. I suspect DH would have no idea, because it is simply not celebrated here. I have never ever once seen it mentioned in local media, shops, anywhere.

It is not a crime, nor is it ignorant to live in an area where there are very very few ethnic minorities.

littlefrenchonion · 16/10/2015 07:43

I do know where you are coming from. Last year my next door neighbour set off fireworks without warning us. Because we are in a terrace, my poor rabbits were about 2 meters away from where she was setting them off. I'm amazed they didn't keel over in shock. I was apoplectic!!

Original poster
sltorres9 · 16/10/2015 07:44

No I just said I'm sorry for overreacting, and that my baby had just got out of hospital so I was expecting a peaceful night

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isitthattimealreadyisit · 16/10/2015 07:59

I have never heard of Diwali before, sorry! Blush (Hanukkah, St Patrick, yes, I know about). I do live in Greater London....

OP, if it was 7pm, you were over-reacting a bit.
After 9pm, I would be totally with you. It's not just about babies, it's about people needing some sleep! Why do people think it's acceptable to make a nuisance of themselves late in the evening?

Next time I have surgery, or take a plane for example, I hope the surgeon/ pilot etc.. has not been disturbed by selfish neighbours.