To shout at people who let fireworks off?!

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A Load of fireworks have just gone off, my baby woke up crying, I've raced out of the house to the house where they were being Let off, I said "if you let one more firework off before the 5th november" I'll shove that firework so far up your arse ?? now three dogs in the street are howling, my cat has gone in hiding and I need to comfort my son!!

Sheesh OP you sound ignorant and aggressive.

If you told me to shove my fireworks up my arse, it would make me let off a few more.

Even if they are not minors, they are young adults and having been verbally assaulted by an older adult are likely to have been shocked. You really are exceptionally rude - and more than that, you have committed a criminal offence. Assault is assault and can be verbal.

You need to apologise - you are completely in the wrong.

You are not the only one to have a baby, to threaten neighbours is ott. Yes fireworks can be annoying but there is no law to say they can only be set on certain dates.

But if it's not celebrated where I live then of course I wouldn't know what it is!

I've never celebrated Hanukkah or Ramadan but I've heard of it and know what it!

Don't be proud of your ignorance.

Well, this thread appears to be populated by completely different people from those usually on fireworks threads on MN, where the consensus seems to usually be official celebrations (for bonfire night/Diwali/nye etc) great; random bangers going off in people's gardens terrifying animals and DC, not great. Which I agree with.

I have never witnessed Diwali being celebrated, but I know what it is!!!! How could you not know?! It's in shops and everything?!!

I dont know why people get so upset about fireworks I have a dd and its wasn't really an issue when she was a baby and I have a dog and he seems to cope fine.

specialsnowflake different people, and different animals, cope with things in different ways. My Mum has 3 dogs, 2 hate fireworks, the other is fine. Some babies are light sleepers. Just because you haven't experienced it doesn't mean it doesn't affect people.

Also just to reply to StarTravels no organised displays don't stop animals being afraid, but domestic animal owners can prepare by keeping their cats in, or in my case my dog is fed early and crated with a marrow bone where she is very happy while the bangs go off. If she is not crated she gets very worked up before we have a chance to react. I know of a mum who uses a white noise app with her light sleeper DD so they bangs aren't a startling surprise and then she tends to sleep through

But OP you posted on AIBU, and the Mumsnetters have spoken and (quite rightly) said YABU. You really should just pop over and apologise, even if just to say 'I'm sorry I over reacted and was so rude , having a bad time getting little one to sleep'. If you had come on and said something along the lines of 'AIBU to be fed up with the endless weekday firework displays for no particular reason, my DC is a light sleeper and they always wake them up' you might have got a more measured response

PS have a google re Diwali, it really is a wonderful festival!

Woah, YABVU.

Just so you know, fireworks aren't just for bonfire night... Diwali, weddings, birthday parties etc. There's no law against letting them off any other day.

Do people really think to themselves 'oh, there's no law against this, therefore it must be totally tickety-boo'? Christ, it's no wonder we end up living in a nanny state when so many people appear to lack the ability to make intelligent, thoughtful, considerate decisions.

Mainly, River, yes. If something is that bad, there would be a law against it. Obviously.

Lacking intelligent, thoughtful or considerate decisions? The neighbours let the fireworks off before 7pm, it's not like it was late night/early morning.

I like fireworks. :)

I would have pissed myself laughing if the teenagers had bent over and said, "Go on then".

< Cue awkward silence from OP >

Whether you like fireworks/think they should be banned is kind of neither here nor there, you can't go yelling and threatening people who are perfectly within their rights to be doing what they're doing.

They fucking annoy me and I'd love them limited to certain days. However in the meantime it's perfectly legal and acceptable for others to use them. Including me cos dd is in the group that likes them.
Yabu, rude and precious. Serves you right if they do it all the more. Bit of helpful advice, you aren't the first person to have a child, and the world doesn't stop for it. Much easier to accommodate your pfb to the world than expect the world to pander to them.

Pohtaytoh it's just life though. You can't hide your pets/family away from everything that might disturb them.

My cats may be scared by cars, foxes, neighbours dogs, visitors, the postman etc. Restricting fireworks to specific nights of the year will help me to keep them in on those nights, but it won't help with all the other things that scare them. I can't completely shelter my cats from the world.

Are we going to ban all parties (even during day time) in case they disturb someone who is sleeping from a nightshift, or ban the TV volume from being turned up by an elderly person with a slight hearing problem, because a neighbour may hear a slight murmur through the wall?

My neighbour teaches music lessons at home. All day long. It's loud and annoying. Actually, its not even the volume, it's the repetitiveness of it that bothers me the most. Over and over the same tunes... slowly driving me mad.

But this is what happens when you live near people. There will be noises and there will be some inconveniences and it goes both ways - we all have to put up with each other. Live and let live, or move to the middle of no where.

Pride in ignorance is so unattractive. Dare I say it, uncouth.

As is threatening teenagers with fireworks up their arses.

Far more uncouth than letting off a firework.

StarTravels completely with you on that. Was just explaining why organised displays do make a difference, in my case at least. With most things you can introduce slowly and work on fears. Fireworks are so unexpected and you can't show them to the dogs so it's difficult to break the fear response. I actually quite like fireworks, but I do get bored!

I would have wanted to do the same as OP, but wouldn't

I'm horrified that the general public can just buy explosives like it's ok. I've worked with the general public for half my life, the prospect of giving them explosives is mind boggling. Why aren't the fucking things banned apart from proper displays yet? Ugh.

As someone who has been attacked by someone setting off a firework in a purposely dangerous way, I also think they should be banned apart from at properly organised events & not on sale to the general public, but that's another issue/discussion.

Until they are banned, it isn't appropriate to threaten your neighbours for doing something they're perfectly within their rights to do. Unfortunately though I have a strong feeling the OP still doesn't realise how unreasonable her behaviour was.

So the OP doesn't know what Diwali is! What a bunch of intellectual snobs we have here. No where did I read that she was prideful of her ignorance, she was just merely stating a fact. Calling someone thick because they don't know as much as you is also 'uncouth' and 'ignorant'.

Her ignorance is excusable. Her complete refusal to accept it as a reason for the fireworks is not. Nor was her initial reaction to fireworks.

I am still that people in the UK don't know what Diwali is. I thought it was a fairly common celebration which is mentioned on TV even if you don't happen to actually see it first hand. FWIW, it's a pretty impressive celebration in my opinion.