to be fed up with women's comments on my body shape

[hauntedbytheghost]

I'm tall and willowy and I'm sick of other women slyly insinuating I don't eat enough/well. It's really embarrassing. I was a very slight child and my mum had to put up with this shit from other mothers. Can't believe I can be nearing 30 and still have to deal with it.

Any tips on how to react? It feels humiliating so I just brush it off but inside I'm fuming. Also hate that it would be fucking unacceptable were I to mention THEIR excess weight and question them on their eating habits!

I also get this. I'm 5'ft 4 and when not pregnant (as I am now!) I usually sit at around 8/8 and a half stone. My GP is happy with this. I am happy with this. I have love handles and fairly saggy tits (thankyou DD) but I am happy. I am not over or indeed underweight. The amount of "you need a good meal you do" or "GOD your so TINY" fucking drives me up the wall. I would never, ever walk up to someone and say "GOD, your so fat!" or some other such bollocks! It's absolutely rude and disgusting.
I have for a long time been looking for an assertive answer back so I am following this thread!

I get it from every single female member of my stepdads family. Every single time I see them. With the exception of one or tso of them, they all look perfectly healthy to me, albeit bigger and taller than me. They have bigger builds than I do.
I do my best to avoid them quite frankly because it drives me up the wall.

One time my good friends who are normally lovely said when they were quite drunk 'We hate you, you're so skinny' and it was meant to be a joke. I was really upset but laughed it off-we were in company at a dinner party so hard to retaliate properly. Can you imagine if I'd said 'I hate you, you're so fat?'

If I get 'you've lost weight' I say I haven't-I do run a lot but my weight is steady even if my shape has changed. This often results in a conversation about running or exercise, which is more interesting to me than my body shape.

I would say I get comments most days. If I ever mention eating say pizza, or a donut people seem surprised, they imagine that you eat only celery and ryvita.

Nice thread though OP, it's hard to think of an answer in real life to unwanted comments, but threads like this probably help to make others realise that they are not complimenting thinner people, they're making them feel like shit.

I'm not even underweight at 5'9 and 9'2.

No one is ever happy with their own body type

I am. I love my body and I like the way I look. Unfortunately, many people take this as a sign of arrogance when IMO being comfortable in your own skin should be normal. And also I'm left out of a raft of conversations because I don't join in when women criticize their own bodies and I don't join in with dieting conversations. It makes me sad that this stuff is normalised.

YANBU at all OP. people shouldn't say hurtful things like implying you have an eating disorder about anyone's body.