I'm a BME woman, proud to be a feminist.
The struggle started by the suffragettes has benefitted me and every other woman who wants to vote, drive a car, rent or own a home, get a job, or just have a life that isn't being a chattel of some man.
It's really illogical to be angry at feminists because we haven't yet won the struggle; better add your shoulder to the wheel, to speed things up.
The claim that feminism is Western or racist typically comes from countries, groups or individual idiots, who claim it is imposing Western cultural values when we campaign against FGM or against the enslavement / beheading / flogging / stoning to death of women.
Well, I consider it racist if someone says that a woman with brown or black skin is not entitled to the same basic human rights as white women, whether in the West or anywhere else.
Examining historical heroes too closely can be uncomfortable, but post-WW2 progress in human rights has been as dramatic as in science & new gadgets.
We aren't surprised people didn't have iPads a century or a millenium ago.
e.g. The US Declaration of Independence in 1776 is regarded worldwide as a milestone for democracy and anti-imperialism. Yet the US constitution defined the worth of a slave to be 3/5 that of a white person.
We could despise George Washington and his fellow revolutionaries for being slave-owners - and use that as a reason to reject their anti-imperialist revolution - or we could just accept that they were progressive in some ways, but as blind to the evil of slavery as others of their time.